Suppose you received an invitation...

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

An relatively new-to-the-lifestyle couple of our acquaintance recently (a few nights ago) wrote a note to us.

 

We want to have a Pool meet and greet. We are interested in some friends of ours and some friends of another couple all get together and meet. No pressure to screw anyone, in fact if people want to swim nude or play with their mate, then go for it. But we are NOT suggesting sex on the first meeting. What do you think of that?

 

Technical issues aside (like their pool heater might not have enough power to keep it warm enough to make it pleasant in November), what experience do you have bringing LS couples together in a private home for what amounts to a vanilla Meet-and-greet "tryout" for a subsequent house party? Does this seem like a wise idea? Have you attended such things? Hosted such things?

 

We'll share our response to their specific question later.

 

In the interim, we'll mention that we have hosted meet-and-greets at local bars/restaurants, typically by reserving one of the side rooms and guaranteeing some minimum food/drink orders.

 

Back to their initial question, what do you think of hosting a meet-and-greet in a private home? And doing it as a "Pool meet and greet"?

[Alura 2,774]

I suppose it would depend on how well you know the host-couple, Fundamental Law.

 

In any case, Laura and I would have been excited to meet this couple. They swing the way we did, and the post shows an articulate person who has a mind worth exploring. Bodies? Well, we'd probably get around to that.

[Judy39 145]

I am mightily confused. They're not suggesting sex, but the party is in the pool which is somewhat suggestive, and all the participants are from the LS which is somewhat suggestive. People are welcome to get naked - that's suggestive for sure! What will the invite be like? What are they going to say? That it's a soft swap sex party, or a meet and greet, or just a get together, or what?

[njbm 2,868]

I think the format suggests a sexual house party. Get the hose ready. Clean up in aisle 6.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

We offered the following observation to this couple...

 

1. It’s wonderful that you want to organize an event.

 

2. Swingers distinguish a meet-and-greet from a house party. They have expectations. Typically a meet-and-greet is a vanilla event at a public location. A house party is a play event at a private location.

 

3. Having a get-together at your home is a wonderful idea, but saying that you are inviting only lifestyle people and inviting them to get naked in the pool sends a message quite distinct from a meet-and-greet.

 

Our suggestion:

 

Invite your lifestyle friends for a casual vanilla get together, not much different than a get together you would organize for your vanilla acquaintances. Let your guests know that you are hosting a meet-and-greet at your home to bring interesting couples you have met together simply because you think they might find each other interesting. Avoid the pool, avoid anything that approaches adult playtime.

 

That doesn’t mean it’s the same as a vanilla party. A few ideas: A speed-dating session where couples have three minutes to introduce themselves. A go-around the room to talk about their funny or embarrassing experience in the LS. Asking everyone to write something down that no one else would suspect and then reading them aloud and have people guess who wrote what. When everyone at the party is known to be in the LS, people “let their hair down.”

 

Bottom line: Have fun, be social, but don’t confuse those with playtime.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

If it was a couple that the 'clicked' with, we would probably go hoping that we would click with other couples that they know.

[Sexykitty6364 38]

Do you know anyone else on the guest list? If not, are their pics or links to the profiles of everyone on the guest list?

 

My husband and I have gone to house parties before where the guest list was "secret". We've had a blast. Would we go to this? It depends on how well we knew the host. And if you get there and it's not your thing, you can always leave.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

Coda--how it all worked out.

 

The host couple brought four more couples together in their home as a private meet-and-greet. They put a great deal of thought and effort into the prep and the invited couples. While the evening was vanilla (in the sense that everyone kept their clothes on and stayed by their partner), the talk was most definitely lifestyle. There was indeed a "go-around the room" to talk about their first experience in the LS. A tour of the hosts (extensive!) sex toy collection. As noted earlier, when everyone at the party is known to be in the LS, people “let their hair down” and just savor the moment.

 

We thought the private setting allowed for the development of rich erotic conversation and chemistry.

 

Will there be a second gathering? That's up to the hosts, of course.

 

We hope so.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Ask for us to be invited next time as well!