MFM party at hotel?

[Alisa 17]

I am thinking of having mfm party in hotel but we are new to swinging and haven't had any experience so far, I want to surprise my partner but I am scared, hotels don't mind if we bring another guy to our room?

 

What would hotel staff reaction?

 

Actually one male guy whom we met in night club wants to host us in hotel but I am worried that he may record the encounter.

 

Any suggestions?

 

Is it safe to swing in a hotel or someone's home?

[adamgunn 1,460]

Absolutely no one will care if there are three people in a closed hotel room. And if you tell him no recording, that should be it. Swinging, done properly is very safe.

 

But, I urge you, under NO circumstances should you 'surprise' your wife. Let her know what might happen, allow her to be a full participant.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Agreed with above.

 

There's no reason the staff should even notice if you have a friend or three in your room.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

...and it's never a good idea to 'surprise' your partner with this. You don't want the surprise to be on you...

[Alisa 17]

you are right , surprise might not be good idea. We have discussed many times and she is somewhat ready but bit shy. She want me to take lead and arrange . As i told earlier , we are new and bit scared.If we agree to guy who wants to host us and meet at his home i think we have to trust him that no recoridng means no and hope that he does not have some hidden cam.

Due to this reason i was thinking to go to hotel instead of his home.

Guidance and feedback will be appreciated

[Alisa 17]

I hope people will share their experience and guide us through

[Alisa 17]

Hotel staff dont ask for id of all the guests?

if we our host checks in alone and then we go and join him, hey won't ask for our ID's

[JandKinBoise 858]

Our best mmf memories are from hotel rooms. Sometimes we would get the room, sometimes the guy, sometimes split the cost. Our favorite was a guy who would rent the penthouse suite in a downtown hotel to play but then leave us the room for the night. That room cost nearly $400 and we saw him in it a half dozen times.

I always felt the hotel option was safer than going into a guys house, safer than letting them know where we live. I never thought about taping but since I was the one snapping pictures, I guess it's not a big deal to us.

Don't worry about the staff. They have seen, tolerated and cleaned up after a hell of a lot worse than an mfm.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Go to a hotel, it's neutral and safe for all involved. If you know what room he's in (or he knows what room you're in) then you just go to the elevators and head directly to the room. Staff isn't going to question where you are going since you already seem to know. ID checks...only if the President is staying there at the same time. Since your wife wants you to arrange this, then arrange it, but let her know what and when it is happening. The build up as the time gets closer is something that you both should enjoy.

[nomadichulk 29]

I think using a hotel for your first swinging experience is a good idea. First off you don't need to worry about what the neighbors might think or incur any of the usual interuptions one experiences at home (phone ringing, older kids coming home instead of staying at their sleepover they told you they were going to do etc...). The last thing you need to worry about is the hotel staff. They have no idea nor do they care. I do think that you should be the one reserving and staying in the hotel room as opposed to going to the guy's room, just for the very reason you state. You want to be comfortable and relaxed and in control of the situation. If the other guy doesn't like it there are plenty of other men who would understand and respect your choices. I've had a handful of mfm experiences (wish there were more!) and the hotel room meet up I think helps keep your personal life in the vanilla world separate from your extracurricular activities. My opinion only.

[Alisa 17]

very encouraging and informative replies, we are in a better position now in deciding how to proceed. We met one guy in night club , had good time and danced the night out. My wife is comfortable with that guy as we both hugged and danced with her at ths same time .He is willing to host us in his home but i think Hotel is a better option.

So how things work out in hotel?

I am thinking to book a room, check in and convey room number to the guy and tell him to come over.

How did you managed your party?

[Alisa 17]

Lucky You, you got good and rich guy.

[nomadichulk 29]

The mfm trysts that I participated in hotel rooms were always more comfortable. The couple would book the room, arrive early to allow themselves some dress up time. They would text me the hotel name and room number and time to meet. When I arrived I text’d my arrival and proceeded to the room. Sometimes a couple would want to meet at the hotel bar or a non-affiliated restaurant before going to the room. I personally don’t like to eat before play unless some time elapses and I bring my toothbrush. The less any guy knows about you personally the better you’ll feel about protecting your privacy. I met a couple once where the woman wanted things to happen “organically”. This approach to me does not guarantee a successful fun event. The more you plan ahead and discuss the what if’s the better experience you two will have. It’s great to have a connection with the other man (sexual and/or personality) but until you spend a lot of time with him sexually and non-sexual he is not your buddy, he is an accessory to your sexual adventures. Always err on the side of caution.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Hotel staff dont ask for id of all the guests?

if we our host checks in alone and then we go and join him, hey won't ask for our ID's

 

Some hotels will ask for one member of a group to show a keycard at the elevator or require keycards to activate the elevator from the ground floor, especially during late night hours. This is simply to keep people who aren't friends of the guests out, not to keep track of who comes and goes.

 

The hotel isn't interested in your personal business, only that you don't create a nuisance for other guests. Try to keep the orgasm noises to a reasonable level, obviously.

[lnw 145]

Pretty much the same advice

- use a hotel room... never your place

- he can get the room or you can but he should since he is the one getting the fun too

- Best to use something like kik instead of txt. Do not give out your phone number to him and especially hers. Kik allows communication w/o phone numbers.

- make sure he understands your rules and abides by them

- If this is a first time meeting, best to meet in the bar for a drink and see if he is who he claims to be from his profile. She needs to make the final decision if she wants him or not.

- Always us protection... never without.

[Alisa 17]

well its very good advise to use KIK, appreciate your guidance and input, you are right , he should be paying for room as fun is unlimited for him but i dont want him to get the room due to recording issue, i dont know why but we are bit scared about this issue of going to place arranged by him.He can put a recording equipment and we simply walk into hs studio.

we met couple of guys in Night club and they are willing to take relatioship to next level but we are finding it difficult to arrange and get rid of this fear.

My partner also wants to enjoy but bit apprehensive

[Guest]

We just go out, nice bar/restaurant or hotel bar, or resort if we are on vacation. I dress on the sexy side. Guys start chatting with hubby or me or us. If I’m interested in the guy, in the mood to play, I kind of take over the chatting, add in a bit of flirt, hubby kind of backs away from the conversation a bit. I eventually add in a little seduction and by evenings end, we are ready for MFM. I find getting to know the guy there and neither of us having expectations about sex and play far better than meeting some stranger who is walking in wondering weather we’ll be getting a room, or if he simply gets to fuck me on the bar. I also find the whole chat/flirt/seduce sequence extremely tantalizing.

[EastInWest 1,524]

We just go out, nice bar/restaurant or hotel bar, or resort if we are on vacation. I dress on the sexy side. Guys start chatting with hubby or me or us. If I’m interested in the guy, in the mood to play, I kind of take over the chatting, add in a bit of flirt, hubby kind of backs away from the conversation a bit. I eventually add in a little seduction and by evenings end, we are ready for MFM. I find getting to know the guy there and neither of us having expectations about sex and play far better than meeting some stranger who is walking in wondering weather we’ll be getting a room, or if he simply gets to fuck me on the bar. I also find the whole chat/flirt/seduce sequence extremely tantalizing.

 

We took this approach once, with someone we met on the beach near the hotel, and had a great experience. We probably went through ten prospects in different settings before she ended up chatting up someone who didn't fizzle out when he realized it was a threesome, but he was very, very game and the no-strings, no-drama aspect was perfect for what we wanted that week.

 

I thought the hotel really gave it a nice sense of not just neutrality, but safety, too. The staff is always just outside if it gets weird.

[Alisa 17]

thats true, flirting and seduction part is reall fun, charm of sex evaporates with orgasm but flirting and seduction stays for a while. SEcondly if a guy is interested he has to work and charm my wife and lure us into having fun, No Sex of the shelf

[JandKinBoise 858]

After thinking about this I wanted to expand some. We had quite a few meetings in hotels and I was thinking about the best time. We got there pretty early, around 7pm. We knew the guy we were meeting but I think this would work with a newb as well. He met us in the room and we walked across the street to a restaurant. We just had an app and a drink and chatted. Then we went back to the room and changed into swimwear and went to the pool. By this time it was later and empty. We swam for awhile then sat in the hot tub and relaxed. When we got back to the room, it was very easy to just shed the swimwear and contact was very soon after. It felt very 'date like'.

[Alisa 17]

Great idea, I would like to follow this pattern provided my wife agrees specially pool part is cool and can add spice to the evening. My wife is actually scared that if we come across some aquantance then what !

[Alisa 17]

Just a curious question , why sex is not allowed in Hot Tub. We went to Oasis and at the time of entrance they briefed us that you can have sex anywhere but in Hot tub.

Why no sex in hot tub.If no to what extent you can go in hot tub,Kissing, hugging , Oral maybe ?

Share your info pls

[Guest Stayingactive]

As an owner of a hot tub the last thing I want to be cleaning out is body fluids from the water or the filter. We tell friends have as much fun as you want but no finishing in the tub. My wife and I love to have some fun play in the hot tub but we don’t have intercourse since for us the hot water takes away what is a normally a wife who makes a lot of her own lubricant so it isn’t comfortable for her and we don’t want to go too far and have a mess to clean up like I mentioned earlier. My guess is with them being a business they want to have a very clean environment for everyone so people not having sex in the tubs helps them keep it clean for everyone. Just our thoughts on it.