MFM without consent...

[Thenotoriousdud 25]

Hi all, I need opinions. We met a couple over the weekend. Things went well, we chatted well iver a couple drinks and finally retired to the bedroom. Things started getting hot and heavy and full swap was definitely in the cards. I was making love to my wife when the female side if our foursome said she had to use the washroom. We continued on until the guy asked could he have a good at my wife. She was into it and we figured when the other woman returned the swap would be on. She never returned. We found her on the couch in the living room crying. She says she wasn't ever really into it and it hurt her when her man got with others. I immediately thought that we were set up and thus is their way of getting him laid without having to reciprocate. Does anyone agree and has anyone heard of this type of predatory behaviour? It seemed really strange that she would hang out until the ball got rolling then leave without letting us know she wasn't coming back.

[N&G 207]

Yes it's possible that you were set up but it's more probable that her partner talked her into something that she really didn't want to do. We've met a few couples like this over the years and we've learned to sense when the female isn't really into it. We also only do same room for the first time to make sure that everyone is on the same page. My female half watches my back with a new couple and the other male wouldn't be fucking her if the female left the room.

[Guest]

I'd not say you were "Set Up".

 

This is a very common thing, loads and loads of guys talk their girlfriend or wife into trying swinging, and a lot of the time the girlfriend or wife agrees to give it a try to shut them up. Some women like the experience, some women don't like it at all and totally freak out seeing their partner with someone else.

 

Its almost like your saying....

 

"Yeh they must have planned it all, they must have hatched this evil plan where they get started having sex then the women just walks out and end up crying all so her husband can fuck my wife, the other women left on purpose, she started crying on purpose, she said she didn't like it on purpose"

 

Really its all a little far fetched.

 

In chances are those two have hardly even spoken about swinging / group sex at all, never mind some evil plan for her husband to sleep with other women. I mean lets be honest if his wife wanted him to sleep with other women alone there are FAR FAR EASIER WAYS than trying to arrange a threesome, why doesn't he just join a dating site and say he is single, why doesn't he just go a pull a girl in a bar, why doesn't he just attend swinging clubs or sex parties without his wife.

 

Years ago when I was new to swinging I made the same mistake.

 

I was involved in a MFF threesome and my girlfriend at the time really wasn't in to it so she got out of bed and said she needed a drink and some fresh air, I didn't think anything of it and carried on fucking the other girl until we both cum, then I went downstairs to find my girlfriend crying.

 

You would be surprised how many guys talk their girlfriend or wife into this subject and its not healthy communication, in fact a lot of couples go into this without having a clue what they are doing, the wife just says yes to please the husband without really understanding the subject or communicating about it hence why they end up in tears or arguing etc.

[Thenotoriousdud 25]

Thanks for the replys, I feel alot better about the situation. I think what had me paranoid about it is a story that I heard. There was a couple that would only play separate rooms. Turned out they weren't a couple, they were cousins. The while thing was a set up. They'd separate the couple and the guy would get his rocks of while his cousin would cry and and try to stall. A really FD up way to try and get laid. Anyway, my wife is very happy to hear that you all don't believe it was a setup. She felt very dirty over the whole thing.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

This is the definition of 'taking one for the team'. We've met couples where the woman has said (when her partner wasn't around) that she was only doing this to make her husband happy and that once he 'got it out of his system' they would not do it again. But that ISN'T what happens. Once he does it the first time, he quickly looks for the send and third. Needless to say we ran (not walked) from this couple. Some (most) people just aren't cut out for the trust and communication required to be swingers...

[Sexykitty6364 38]

And this is why we never play with anyone we just met. We need to know who they are, see if anyone we know knows them, check out their social media, etc. Sounds paranoid but we try all we can to avoid this kind of drama.