Should I have joined my husband and my GF

[PSULioness 857]

Saturday was a tough day. We went to a sports bar that had plenty of Penn State fans to watch the game and our team lost. Plenty of drinking and partying. Later that night my college friend came back to our place. We have played with her in the past and I would say we all knew that some play would happen and it did. I really don't have a problem sharing my husband. I didn't even mind that he finished with her. We all finally fell asleep.

Sunday morning I woke up first and decided to shower and let them sleep. I was going to run out for bagels and donuts for breakfast. While drying off I heard something going on. I went back to the bedroom and saw a pretty hot scene. They were in a 69 position and she was definitely having an orgasm. I didn't interrupt them. When my husband saw me he motioned that I should join in. I didn't. I let them continue. I think I wanted to join but I let them play. I normally don't get jealous but after almost an hour I wanted some. I didn't want to be that person. Should I have joined at some point?

[Alura 2,774]

Should I have joined at some point?

 

My guess, Lioness, is that you enabled them to have a unique experience. Had you joined that would have changed. In my opinion, you handled the situation beautifully. Next time, you might join in during a rest.

 

Thanks for posting a unique question.

[Shore2Please 612]

You are an angel. You let them experience a sexual moment. You will have many chances to join if that's what you want. I would have gone for the donuts and left them alone. I'm not one to watch though.

[ViSexual 1,008]

Jealousy, insecurities, and possessiveness are in us all. Some of us can dismiss it most of the time but, they're still in us.

 

I watched the PSU/OSU game Saturday and I'm betting you had a feeling of betrayal when it ended. PSU should have won. I think it's the worse game I've seen James Franklin coach. Could it be that your morning feelings of jealousy and being left out might be just a hangover from your feelings from the game?

 

If this seems possible, tell your husband about it and the two of you have a good laugh. But do let him know that you had feelings that upset you a bit. The lifestyle is all about being totally open and honest with each other.

[luvin eye full 140]

Classic - lol we have done this too then felt it was silly as we both have the option at any time to jump right in ( when asked too lol ) and so did you,

 

take this as a learning curve and next time jump in when you want to, you know they both are happy to have you in the bed as well, so do it if you want to.

 

I would of said "righto I'm coming in" and jumped in the middle if i was you!

 

Good luck to all of you guys

[cplnluv1 872]

I am trying to figure out why you didn't join. You say the three of you played before and most likely they wanted you to join. You are asking the question which makes me think something held you back from jumping into bed. If you are having jealousy problems you should be questioning what you want. Do you ever watch your husband having sex? If you feel off when watching you need to talk about it.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

What held you back? You wanted to join in, your husband wanted you to join in, why didn't you join in? Especially now that you seem to be having a problem with not joining in. Granted, I would not have starting playing with the other girl without you being there (I would have told her that we need to wait until you get out of the shower or suggested that we both went in and joined you in the shower) but I don't know what your rules are (we have a rule about no playing unless our partner is there). Now you are upset that you didn't...why? Is it that he was playing without you? Whatever the case, you need to talk with him about it and figure out what the issue is (and not allow it to be a problem again). Let us know what happens...

[TricianMike 775]

What stopped you from joining. It's your husband. It's not like another couple were going at it and you didn't want to intrude. Your husband, your friend, your bed. I don't see the problem with them starting without you. You were all together all night. I do t feel they were doing it behind your back. They both knew you were going to come back. I think they were doing what was natural. Every couple sets their own boundaries. I am sensing you did like watching as a third party. Mike and I will sometimes sit out and take in the sites if the one of us is occupied. I think you need to discuss this with him and tell him your feelings. Mike enjoys watching me whether it's with a girl or guy. And I don't mind waiting my turn which is way more often than anyone he is with at the time. If what was going on bothered me I would have been in that bed quicker than a hungry fox.