Allyandhubby 39 Posted November 11, 2017 So here we are been talking about entering the LS for some time now.. Been married over 25 years she's 47 and I'm 48 and high school sweethearts both of us have never had another partner. I guess most would wonder why even brought this up? Our sex life in incredible we at least have some sort of sex 5 or more nights a week sometimes it's spontaneous. I could be watching tv setting on the couch and she will just walk over pull my shorts down and start blowing me and never say a word!! I'm always running my hand up her skirt feeling her soft satin covered pussy while we are out at diner etc.. We are not ken or barbie but in decent shape and run a half marathon each year for the last 15 years.I'm no porn star below the belt but always make sure she is satisfied. I always want to leave her smiling and toes curled up from having the best sex we can. She has always poked my side when we are out and say would you like to have sex with her or what do you think about that lady over there so she's been giving me suttle hints for years finally clicked in my mind!! I asked her several months ago while she was using her magic wand with her back pressed up against my chest sitting upright my mouth so ever close to her ear both of my hands busy caressing her boobs, as the wand worked its magic, I whispered in her ear would you like another man eating you out while I hold you just like this her response sent cold chills down my back "oh god yes please" asked her would you placed both hands on his head and guide him like you do me to that perfect spot that sends you overboard? "Please tell me more" her breathing growing faster and faster the more details I whispered in her ear of another man bringing her to a orgasm.. several minutes later its a wonder the kids upstairs wasn't scared out of their minds LOL never heard her that vocal coming before!! She gathered her self and turned around and buried her head in my neck and said I'm sorry should have never let myself go like that please don't be mad about me coming to another man!! I said honey I want you to have the best and would never be mad.. She stated Ive always wanted see if another man was attracted to me and what it would feel like having someone beside you touch and caress me. I'm like wow over 25 years marriage and Im just now find out about this LOL.. Over the last several months she/we had been so researching the LS and reading the posts here its like a switch has been thrown with her its incredible.. Told me so many stories positive and negative ones, positive ones gets her so wet!! She been showing me club dresses and has ordered several and modeled them for for me. She will ask do you think will I get any attention with this on and I'm like sure you will poor me will be left out LOL..I then let my hands start to rub all over her while she grinds me dancing in our bedroom she says would you be ok with me dancing with someone like this? I said just feel how hard I am LOL.. Conversions have progressed to what we are comfortable with and both agreed start with a couple local cubs this month just flirt/dance and not to expect anything or push our comfort levels.. Then this morning she said I'm ready to see you penetrate another woman never thought I would hear such from my wife LOL... We are excited/nervous to see where this journey takes us.. Sorry for the long post hope to update with exciting news over the next several months... Charlie & Ally 5 Quote Share this post Link to post
Alura 2,774 Posted November 11, 2017 from Oklahoma, Charlie! Thanks for a great introductory post! We're glad to have y'all with us! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
dan63 106 Posted November 11, 2017 Sounds like you are well on your way. I can assure you that there are many many men on this forum somewhat Jealous of you and the relationship you have with your wife. Great job and keep up the communication. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,066 Posted November 13, 2017 Not a long post, a great post. Good luck and keep us up to date as you continue. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Scaredstiff 129 Posted November 14, 2017 Long posts are the best! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Baconheads 432 Posted November 14, 2017 Yes! We love the details! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,524 Posted November 14, 2017 I thought a lot of what you've described about your openness and playfulness about sex is important and a good sign. Good luck to you! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Allyandhubby 39 Posted November 14, 2017 I thought a lot of what you've described about your openness and playfulness about sex is important and a good sign. Good luck to you! Thanks!! I'm sure they will be some jealousy issues since both of us has never had other partners. We are going to ease into it try out the clubs first dance,flirt,watch,play with each other most of important TALK to each other. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,066 Posted November 15, 2017 Don't be so sure. As someone who used to suffer from extreme jealousy, it hasn't ever reared its ugly head. Communication and trust is the enemy of jealousy. Even if it does pop up, its communication and trust that will knock it back down. Good luck! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Scaredstiff 129 Posted November 17, 2017 Ah the jealousy thing, it's a weird one. When I first met my wife I would get insanely jealous if she just talked to a guy for too long, I knew I was out of order and I'd fight to keep my feelings hidden but sometimes you just can't control how you feel. She wasn't even the type of girl to overly flirt or do things on purpose to piss me off, (I'd had a few girlfriends like that in the past, maybe one reason why I got jealous) Fast forward to the first time I saw her playing with another guy and I honestly had no feelings of jealousy at all, and yes it surprised me, I was expecting some pangs or whatever but the only thing I remember thinking was how much I wanted her to enjoy it, as it turned out she didn't actually enjoy it all that much which was a shame and another story Haha. Like you two we have been together a long time and monogamous for all that time, I guess the trust and love and respect between us has grown a lot since those early days, I suppose to each other we feel irreplaceable so we're not especially worried about someone being better, like when you go to the theme park and ride the rollercoaster you have a great time but you're doing it together, if she was going to the theme park on her own I might get jealous though lol 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Laceysplaydate 16 Posted November 19, 2017 Please keep us updated! Your story reminds us of our relationship and we have been swinging for a few month so far with fantastic results both in our relationship and our sex life. We are having the time of our lives, dating other couples like teens, paying even more attention to grooming and health as a side benefit. We very much enjoy seeing one another enjoy every aspect of it, and jealousy has never been an issue with us with our open communication. Have fun and we'd love to hear details! Oh, and btw, finding the right couple is difficult, so try not to get discouraged. Just let the anticipation and dating of the couples be your enjoyment and the sex, IF it happens, a perk. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Jo4079 23 Posted December 21, 2017 Well let me start by saying me and my wife have been married 25 years also I'm 46 she's 43 . We've been faithful The whole time . Just got into the LS The jealousy is not like you would think If you have the relationship like you say . Cause if your like me . Your wife is also Your best friend . 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Wall2705 25 Posted December 27, 2017 My wife and I are at the same place in our marriage! 25 years together, last child moved away, started watching the Playboy channels “Swinger House” while having crazy passionate sex in our living room, and now, we’re working out and getting in better shape preparing to leap into the LS this new year! My wife has even expressed finding a mentor to teach her how to satisfy another woman! We’ve discussed our comfort levels & boundaries, and discovered we’re fortunate enough to have a marriage with a solid foundation that’s committed to each other’s needs. That being said, we Believe we’re ready to enjoy others in and out of the bedroom! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Allyandhubby 39 Posted December 29, 2017 Moon and the stars have lined up finally going out to a LS bar tomorrow night(Friday)Oldest is home from college stay at home with the youngest,fingers crossed we don't chicken out LOL.. Me (Hubby)nervous!! Wife been grinding me/running her hand over my crouch etc while we are cooking tonight.Telling me this what I'm going to do Friday night!! If she's nervous its not showing LOL.. We are not going expecting anything and have responded to couple emails about meeting other couples pretty much told them don't expect us to play on the first date etc.. Hopefully we will have a enjoyable night out meet some like minded couples that will ease us into the LS. Thanks for all the responses!!! Charlie and Ally 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
Wall2705 25 Posted December 29, 2017 Please, let us all know how it goes!! Like I mentioned above, married 25 years, eagerly working to meet others too! Would love to hear about your first experience. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Allyandhubby 39 Posted December 30, 2017 Please, let us all know how it goes!! Like I mentioned above, married 25 years, eagerly working to meet others too! Would love to hear about your first experience. I’m typing this from my phone sure sure be jacked up lol.. We got to the bar early 730ish yeah I know we’re the blue haired ones!! Just wanted to see the place get a feel for it.. it’s one of the oldest bars where we live also no smoking so that’s a plus for us.. Slow at first maybe 15 people there we grabbed couple drinks found a corner started people watching wife pointing out she thought I would like etc.. The bar owner stopped by asked if we were new here then asked us if we would like a tour he made sure to say “you know what kind of bar this is “ sure our faces turned red from being embarrassed lol.. It’s a two story building we came back down to the first floor sitting at the bar and noticed a group maybe 6 or 8 couples and we where asked to join them age ranged from 10 or so years younger than us to a couple years older.. We dressed up wife wore tight fitting blue satin dress with black boots she looked hot I was already horny before we left the house!! I wore a dress pants and button up shirt we were mostly likely the best dressed and I can honestly say we got the most attention wife asked multiple times about needing another drink etc.. we settled in with the group it’s down to like 3 couples now most of our conversation was about us and what made us come to a LS bar etc talked about the LS that no one would touch the wife etc what we preferred MFM, watching etc.. Told numerous times that we were good looking couple really embarrassed us, we’ve never looked at our selves like that it eased our anticipation about how we would be viewed by others.. wife left to use the restroom several of the guys told me how attractive my wife was told me not to worry that nobody going to mess with her etc we are a close knit group all watch out for each other’s significant other.. Night progressed one of husbands told his wife let (me) see your nipples so she whipped one out and said touch it.. Never touched another woman’s breasts before beside my wife’s looked over at my wife and she notted her head giving me the go ahead!! Before I know it wife said I can’t compeat with those nipples will that opened the door all the guys and ladies said well let’s us make that decession wife looked at me and I said flop them out LOL she kinda fumbled around then the dress top the it came down in all their glory!! I was super proud of her!! also felt my pants risings!! She put her hand under them and said I need Vicky’s (vistories secert) help I can get, comments started flying how gurgoures her breasts were, ive always told her yours are perfectly shaped their a b size and don’t sag any I guess all the pushups she does helps them stay perky.. I know this may not sound like much it’s a huge step for us!! We small talked for the next half hour so and around 11:00 and decided to head home sure the kids wondering what we was doing For that long LOL.. we headed to the car all giddy couldn’t wait talk to each other about the night out plus I was wanting in her panties so bad ending up rubbing her satin covered pussy all the home working her into a frenzy night ended with some great sex for us!! If that’s all we ever get out of this I totally fine with it but if we decide to go further with it I can see a lot of fun coming our way!! Thanks for all the responses sorry for the posting from the phone.. Added a pic of the wife love showing her off 6 Quote Share this post Link to post
Wall2705 25 Posted December 30, 2017 Glad to hear that it was a great experience for you both! Big step visiting a SL club for the first time, at least we think so... Can’t wait for our first experience... I imagine there’ll be another visit coming in your near future, lol... Wife looked amazing by the way! Thanks for the update. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,524 Posted December 30, 2017 Really great that you took a big step forward and that your wife was so game. Congratulations! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Allyandhubby 39 Posted December 31, 2017 Glad to hear that it was a great experience for you both! Big step visiting a SL club for the first time, at least we think so... Can’t wait for our first experience... I imagine there’ll be another visit coming in your near future, lol... Wife looked amazing by the way! Thanks for the update. Thanks!! We are still talking about it today.. May not be a big deal to some we are coming on our 27th year together with no other partners, we were nervous in the parking lot after we settled in nerves went away. I even felt proud of the wife for taking her breasts out. I didn't want to jump up and cover her up LOL Talked about doing a hotel take over when/if we get the chance love to just watch and play with each other right now. All I can say don't let the nerves get to you just relax. We picked LS bar heard if was more relaxed not just a sex club.. Thanks for the comment on the wife she's reading the posts right now : ) Quote Share this post Link to post
Wall2705 25 Posted January 2, 2018 Allyandhubby, I believe every couple entering into the Lifestyle needs to move at a pace that’s comfortable for them and their relationship. Everyone and every couple is different. After 27 years of marriage, no need to aggressively rush into something that can cause irreversible damage. Communication is definitely key here. You should take your time. Nothing wrong with learning from each experience, then working together to move your comfort level forward. We’re both 53, and have always had a very intense sexual relationship from the very being!, then one night, enjoying our newly “empty nest” status, we tumbled across Playboy channels “Swing House” show, and we both became instant fans! So, we’re currently working out bodies, gettin in shape so we can start our journey! LOL - 2018 is the year for us, a few more months and it’s off to the local LS club! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,066 Posted January 2, 2018 I even felt proud of the wife for taking her breasts out. One of many of those things you never thought you would hear either of you say. Congrats on you initiation to the L/S and wish you the best moving forward. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted January 2, 2018 I said honey I want you to have the best and would never be mad. Good attitude. That's how I feel about my wife. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
tbone1 79 Posted January 2, 2018 Enjoyed reading the above posts, and best of luck to you on your journey. Here is a suggestion...Think about spending a week at Hedonism II. For info, just search for Hedo 2, Hedo 2 reviews, or take a look at Adult Travel Forum. This is a beautiful resort in Negril Jamaica, There is a clothing-optional area and a nude area, and while it is lifestyle friendly, there is no pressure on anyone to do anything. There is good food, good entertainment, great staff, water sports, pools, hot tubs, activities that you can participate in or not. The best thing is meeting lots of great people from all over. If you do some research, you'll find that those who go are all ages, and all shapes and sizes, some in the lifestyle and some not. However, if you want to explore watching or being watched, or soft swap or full swap, there are opportunities to do that. If you are interested, you can find groups that are going during given weeks, so find one that interests you and contact them to get a group rate. It might be the best vacation ever. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,066 Posted January 3, 2018 Oh, by the way, your wife is looking great in the above picture... 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Allyandhubby 39 Posted January 3, 2018 One of many of those things you never thought you would hear either of you say. Congrats on you initiation to the L/S and wish you the best moving forward. I've been giving her a hard time "Joking" about just flopping her breasts out in front of strangers.. Having a normal conversation nothing about the LS and I will look at her and say "hey how about showing me your boobs" Her response was thats not all your going to see honey, just wait till our next outing!! You are so right never thought in my 27 years with her I would have seen or heard things she is saying and doing!! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Allyandhubby 39 Posted January 3, 2018 Allyandhubby, I believe every couple entering into the Lifestyle needs to move at a pace that’s comfortable for them and their relationship. Everyone and every couple is different. After 27 years of marriage, no need to aggressively rush into something that can cause irreversible damage. Communication is definitely key here. You should take your time. Nothing wrong with learning from each experience, then working together to move your comfort level forward. Absolutely correct and I hope your experience is as good as ours or better!! Keep us informed love to hear about your experience. Thanks, Charlie and Ally Quote Share this post Link to post
Allyandhubby 39 Posted January 3, 2018 Enjoyed reading the above posts, and best of luck to you on your journey. Here is a suggestion...Think about spending a week at Hedonism II. For info, just search for Hedo 2, Hedo 2 reviews, or take a look at Adult Travel Forum. This is a beautiful resort in Negril Jamaica, There is a clothing-optional area and a nude area, and while it is lifestyle friendly, there is no pressure on anyone to do anything. There is good food, good entertainment, great staff, water sports, pools, hot tubs, activities that you can participate in or not. The best thing is meeting lots of great people from all over. If you do some research, you'll find that those who go are all ages, and all shapes and sizes, some in the lifestyle and some not. However, if you want to explore watching or being watched, or soft swap or full swap, there are opportunities to do that. If you are interested, you can find groups that are going during given weeks, so find one that interests you and contact them to get a group rate. It might be the best vacation ever. Hope see reads your suggestion!! LOL Think this would be a great experience for us she has an amazing body for a 47 year old, she has always said she would love to go somewhere where see could be naked all the time. Quote Share this post Link to post
Allyandhubby 39 Posted March 12, 2018 Oldest was home from college watched our youngest* free night those are hard to come by for us LOL so we headed out to the club for our second visit. Hoping Saturday night be a bit more productive we got to the club/bar around 8 only us and another couple ordered couple drinks and waited and sized up other couples as they entered. Around 9ish several ladies came in one sat one seat over from me on my left wife was on the right. out of the blue the lady reached across me with her hand out interducing herself to my wife without even enknowleding me LOL..They talked a few minutes like I wasn’t even there LOL.. I leaned over to the wife and said I think she wants in your panties and I’m not invited lol. We stayed around another hr or so nothing exciting happened decided we head home had some great sex seems we get excited about our club visits!! As we layed in bed catching our breath we laughed about the her first experience being came into by another female..Told her hell I’m lucky your so hot and getting all the attention we may find us that unicorn on day!! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post