Swinger wife doesn't want to play after having baby

[carlos90706 15]

My wife and I have been swinging with a male friend for about 2 years and January of this year she became pregnant halfway through the pregnancy she said she didn't want to do it anymore (I messed around and was talking to a girl) my question is I want to keep playing what should I Do?

[padoc 1,703]

You play (without her or her agreement), you PAY! Child support and alimony will put a bigger crimp in your style than waiting till her hormones settle down and she's once again confident about her body. She's now the mother of your child, treat her like she's more than your wingman or the bait to get you laid. Believe it or not, there really ARE more important things in this world than strange sex. Establishing a family, caring for a child and making a secure and happy home for the kid takes priority over swinging. You may not know it but your "lifestyle" started to change the minute that little fishy of yours scored with her egg. Get over yourself, swinging is recreation, baby and family are LIFE!!!!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Swinging is a TEAM SPORT. SHE didn't want to do it anymore? YOU put an end to it by "I messed around and was talking to a girl". NOT swinging, you were cheating on her at the worst time possible (while she is pregnant). You seem to try and downplay that you tried to change teams on her. If she says no, then at least for the foreseeable future, you are on the bench. Trying to force it on her WILL make things worse. You should be spending all of your spare time focusing on her and your soon to be born child and not thinking about swinging. You MIGHT be able to start later on, but unless you want to be single and not see your child on a regular basis, swinging (and ANY sex outside of your relationship with her) is postponed until she says otherwise. Instead, I think it is safe to say that you need to greatly improve your trust and communication with your wife, or she won't be your wife for long. Good luck but your family should ALWAYS come before swinging. Stay focused on her and you MIGHT be able to swing again in the future. Of course, if swinging is more important, then what I said doesn't matter. Good luck and let us know how things go.

[Alura 2,774]

My late wife didn't want to take birth control pills (because she was breast feeding) after our first was born. We quit swinging and restricted ourselves to oral climaxes until we were ready to have our second child.

 

I don't think it's unusual to restrict swinging after a child is born. In fact, it's probably a good idea. New parents get a little busy, as I remember.

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Your wife will be concerned over her child's safety, its not uncommon for a mother to go into protective mode when they have a child.

 

Wait until your wife has finished breast feeding, wait until some kind of normal hormone level has returned.

 

Once she is settled with her new baby which might take 12 months then....

 

Get you and your wife vaccinated against Hepatitis B / Hepatitis A / and HPV.

 

You can generally get these vaccinations at good reputable pharmacies, private health clinics, sometimes your doctors, it may require you to do a internet search to see who offers these vaccinations in your local area. They generally consist of a series of 3 or 4 injections which are not cheap, however once you complete the injections your body does gain defences against those diseases for about 20 to 25 years.

 

You can find more information on the link below.

 

https://www.swingersboard.com/std-and-safe-sex-issues/72575-std-vaccinations.html?highlight=vaccinations

 

Once you have secured these vaccinations then speak with your wife again, let her know that these vaccinations have made the swinging subject a lot safer now, and that if you meet someone you will request they get themselves checked for STDS before playing.

 

If possible meet a man or women who is willing to come with you to the local clinic and have a blood / urine test for STD'S / STI'S.

 

 

If your wife is sure this other person is clean, if your wife has had vaccinations against a lot of the diseases that can be passed on by sex, then maybe she will feel more secure about playing again, maybe.