Newbies - house or club?

[michjosh69 23]

Hello friends

 

We are an mixed-race couple who are in their mid-late 20's new to this fabulous world of swinging (does it count if we haven't "done" it yet?). We are both about 26 year's old and are based out of the Triangle (NC) area but love to travel. She is a psychologist and He is a Techie who both graduated (and met) at a top 10 school during college (ah the good ol' days). I am part North African and European and she is South American and (insert guess here). The both of us would love to get to know all of you more and guide us in our journey!

 

We want to dip our toes in the water but cannot decide whether to try a club or go to an available house party. I've heard horror stories about adult theaters and being the faithful and caring husband that I am (hope that gets me some browine points), we want to be safe before we "try" anything? The cruises have been intriguing us quite a bit but seems like they're for "advanced" couples. Can someone please shed a light on those as well? We appreciate it

 

Cheers

xoxo

MichJosh

[adamgunn 1,460]

A club environment would be - to me - a bit of a 'safer' environment. Most clubs have plenty of people who are just there for the environment, while the house parties I've been to are a bit more hard core. Not to say that both wouldn't be all right, you just might have an easier time dipping the toes at a club.

 

However, if you're sure you want to play with others that first time, you might have better luck at a party.

 

Good luck!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

A club is the easiest way to get started. House parties are sometimes limited as to who even gets invited. Either choice is a safe one. Nobody is going to have you do anything without usually asking if it is okay first and saying no is a perfectly acceptable answer. Most swingers are very polite and honor others wishes. Even cruises are safe...some of the people who attend them are nudists who are not interested in swinging so once again, asking is required (but with a cruise, if you don't like it, it's harder to go home early). I would start with probably a club. When you get there, let the owner know you are nubies and they will most likely show you around and get you comfortable with where everything is. You will not have to do anything you don't want to (or are not ready for). If you check some of the other postings on this same subject, I think you will find out that others who have gone before you have found the same thing. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

[TwoFunTexans 103]

Around our part of the country both are fun. I prefer house parties because it's usually not deafening loud so you can mingle and actually hear what people are saying. Clubs are fun too but usually noisy with the music but you can dance. If you decide to play on site at a club there's usually less privacy if the place is packed. I (Mr) usually can't perform at a club because it's so distracting and people are pulling curtains back when they aren't supposed to and talking just outside them. Last time I had someone touching my feet and ass from outside the curtain. Talk about a hard on killer.

[Erik13 157]

Around our part of the country both are fun. I prefer house parties because it's usually not deafening loud so you can mingle and actually hear what people are saying. Clubs are fun too but usually noisy with the music but you can dance. If you decide to play on site at a club there's usually less privacy if the place is packed. I (Mr) usually can't perform at a club because it's so distracting and people are pulling curtains back when they aren't supposed to and talking just outside them. Last time I had someone touching my feet and ass from outside the curtain. Talk about a hard on killer.

Wow. I hope you told whoever was doing that to get lost.

[padoc 1,703]

@ Erik13. That could go either way. Mrs Doc and I were at Trapeze in FLL one night in a curtained bed area. Mrs Doc was giving me a leisurely bj when I felt a hand on my foot and calf. I opened my eyes to see a woman had pulled the curtain aside and had reached in to touch me. I swear, all I did was smile at her. She dropped her towel (very nice body) and crawled up beside. The only words she said were, "may I"? to my wife who nodded yes. The lady then proceeded to blow me to completion and swallowed. She patted my thigh, picked up her towel and walked away. That had never happened before and hasn't since but what a memory and NOT an erection killer.

[Erik13 157]

I'm glad it went the right way for you! That's awesome

[dan63 106]

My wife an I started with about 5 visits to a local club before we were invited to a house party. And this was probably for the best. Generally agree with everything said so far. Clubs are much noisier and harder to really get to know someone, make sure you schedule your visit on a night that is going to be fairly busy. For instance, our local club has SLS nights on the 3rd Saturday of the month. It is packed on those nights, other nights it is a real crap shoot.

 

I personally much prefer house parties now. You rally can get to know someone first if that is what you are interested in (not everyone is). House parties are generally more laid back. Like a regular back yard barbque until later in the night and then only in the play areas.

[Brimba 30]

Hello friends

 

We are an mixed-race couple who are in their mid-late 20's new to this fabulous world of swinging (does it count if we haven't "done" it yet?). We are both about 26 year's old and are based out of the Triangle (NC) area but love to travel. She is a psychologist and He is a Techie who both graduated (and met) at a top 10 school during college (ah the good ol' days). I am part North African and European and she is South American and (insert guess here). The both of us would love to get to know all of you more and guide us in our journey!

 

We want to dip our toes in the water but cannot decide whether to try a club or go to an available house party. I've heard horror stories about adult theaters and being the faithful and caring husband that I am (hope that gets me some browine points), we want to be safe before we "try" anything? The cruises have been intriguing us quite a bit but seems like they're for "advanced" couples. Can someone please shed a light on those as well? We appreciate it

 

Cheers

xoxo

MichJosh

 

It doesn't matter if it is a club party or a house party. Swinging is the name of the game and to enjoy tour time with others. Both parties - house and/or club - are a great way to meet others for sex.

[ViSexual 1,008]

When we first began, we went to a meet and greet at a vanilla hotel's nightclub. The swinger's group had reserved a separate part of the club but we could use the main club's dance floor. Now a lot of the couples had rooms in the hotel but there was no pressure to do anything. We both had a great time and it was sure fun dancing with partners you knew were also swingers or considering to be swingers. In fact we made a contact through that who we did enjoy at a later date.

 

I'd suggest not going on a cruise at first. If you decided you didn't like it, you're sort of stuck.

[TwoFunTexans 103]

Wow. I hope you told whoever was doing that to get lost.

there were so many people and it was so quick that there was no way to know who it was. I was pretty much done after that though.

[michjosh69 23]

there were so many people and it was so quick that there was no way to know who it was. I was pretty much done after that though.

 

I love your screen name TwoFunTexans! thanks for the story and your input. Did you ever go back to that place haha?

[michjosh69 23]

We were actually considering going to a resort to kick things off? Anyone have any thoughts about that? How was your first experience at a resort! We'd really really appreciate a first-hand account

[TwoFunTexans 103]

I love your screen name TwoFunTexans! thanks for the story and your input. Did you ever go back to that place haha?

Thanks! No not yet, but I'm open to going again to meet people. I don't think I'll attempt playing there again because it was just too many people milling around the play areas for my taste.

[Newcouple17 101]

We hadn't even thought about the noise levels......how can you communicate.....

[TwoFunTexans 103]

we hadn't even thought about the noise levels......how can you communicate.....

what? Huh? ?

[tbone1 79]

If you are interested in a resort, you should check out Hedonism II in Negril Jamaica. Hedo, as the regulars call it, is a beautiful place with great people from all over. The new owners have spent lots of money upgrading the place, improving the food, etc. Officially, it is a clothing optional resort, but has a nude beach, pool, and hot tub, several restaurants and bars, great entertainment, and a playroom that is open at night. You will not find nicer people or better staff anywhere. There are lots of reviews online, and questions and answers to all kinds of questions about Hedo on Adult Travel Forum. You can find the groups that are going on any given week on their website, and generally you'll get better prices if you go with a group. There are many groups of mostly nudists, and groups with a lot of people in the lifestyle. Hedo is really about freedom to do what you want and have the vacation you want, with the only rules being respect and no means no. Don't be surprised if it ends up being the best vacation of your life, and you make plans to return as soon as you get home.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

As a newbie I would opt for a club or a cruise (or a swinger vacation of some sort). House parties are typically smaller and more intimate. However, being new means that you are less likely to get an invite (unless it's to a party hosted by someone who will invite just anyone - which maybe isn't the best thing) AND because house parties are more intimate there tends to be a higher likelihood of play which can be a little intimidating for newbies. Clubs give you a little more control, more variety of people to interact with, and the freedom to more easily just sit back and interact at the level you are comfortable.

[Eddiem 139]

Hello friends

 

We are an mixed-race couple who are in their mid-late 20's new to this fabulous world of swinging (does it count if we haven't "done" it yet?). We are both about 26 year's old and are based out of the Triangle (NC) area but love to travel. She is a psychologist and He is a Techie who both graduated (and met) at a top 10 school during college (ah the good ol' days). I am part North African and European and she is South American and (insert guess here). The both of us would love to get to know all of you more and guide us in our journey!

 

We want to dip our toes in the water but cannot decide whether to try a club or go to an available house party. I've heard horror stories about adult theaters and being the faithful and caring husband that I am (hope that gets me some browine points), we want to be safe before we "try" anything? The cruises have been intriguing us quite a bit but seems like they're for "advanced" couples. Can someone please shed a light on those as well? We appreciate it

 

Cheers

xoxo

MichJosh

 

We visited a club to get the vibe and then a house party with some people we were introduced to. The club was "easy" but awkward attending. Once we left it was like yes we checked that box.

[Fi86 78]

I'd suggest club unless you're going to a party with existing friends. Perhaps on a newbie night if they do them. Party's (not all) can be a little clicky or unwelcoming if it's usually the same group that attends. Clubs are often geared better for newcomers.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

House parties can also be a group of regulars getting together and that can easily leave noobies on the out. Clubs depend on the vibe on that particular night and can go from dull to DAMN! Just depends on the night...

[Eddiem 139]

I'd suggest club unless you're going to a party with existing friends. Perhaps on a newbie night if they do them. Party's (not all) can be a little clicky or unwelcoming if it's usually the same group that attends. Clubs are often geared better for newcomers.

 

 

We found this case as well. Several couples had already arranged to play with each other so we sat there like tourists until a few guys lined up to hit on my wife. zzzzz.

[Fi86 78]

We found this case as well. Several couples had already arranged to play with each other so we sat there like tourists until a few guys lined up to hit on my wife. zzzzz.

 

Yeah I've had similar experiences on occasion where it feels like a private party you accidentally ended up in. Even single girls don't always get invited to join in with the couples. As you said you're often praying for some single guys to show up to go with them.

[njbm 2,877]

We went to Desire RM as newbies. Plenty of newbies at resorts and cruises. No pressure to play unless you meet someone who wants to pressure you, but just say no if you are not ready. The vacation is fun whether you play or not.