MFM vs FMF - which one first?

[michjosh69 23]

Hello friends

 

HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHICH ONE GOES FIRST? Sorry I was smirking when I asked this but really thought, is there any way to peacefully decide? We both love when the other person has fun but I also want to be considerate towards my hubby who would let me go at it first if I ask him (but that would be unfair now wouldn't it )

 

Cheers

xoxo

MichJosh

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Whichever comes first, of course. Usually it would be MFM (since men in the L/S are...easier to find). Finding a single woman in the lifestyle...well there is a reason they are called 'unicorns'. Finding a real unicorn can be easier to find at times. This is the reason so many couples look for other couples. There are lots of other couples, but very few single women looking for couples. Since you both love it when the other person is enjoying themselves, it doesn't really matter which comes first, but if you are only looking for either a MFM or a FMF, the MFM is MUCH easier to arrange.

[dan63 106]

Would agree with GoldCocouple, especially being open to the idea of a full mfmf swap. Better yet just be open to whatever comes your way.

[Guest]

I would say that it’s probably more of a matter on which one, if either, your wife is interested in. Typically, I think, that is more likely to be MFM.

[PSULioness 857]

It has been one year since my first ffm. It was unplanned and I found myself in bed with a college friend and a guy she was with. My first time with a girl. The guy was just there. I didn’t pay much attention to him but we did have sex. At the time it was the sex with him was more troublesome to me. I was in a serious relat with the man is now my husband. To this day I think I rather a ffm but not in the typical situation where the m is the center of attention. We enjoy making the other f the center of our attention. I have sex with my husband most days so when we have someone join us I enjoy the friend. When we are with a male friend the dynamic changes and it has been mostly me with the other guy.

[couplers 4,648]

Before essentially closing our sex life to just our poly family, I had pretty good success recruiting single women to sleep with my husband, although few were interested in letting me join or even watch. Single women like married men because some other woman already has him. I identified girls that I liked, but then hubby and I dated and sometimes seduced them together. If it didn't move ahead there were no hard feeling by anyone. The key point was just to do things together (including like going on vacations), no pressure, but if she said anything to me about hubby being attractive or that it must be nice sleeping with him, I would say, "That can be arranged." Most were very eager for him, but hesitant to get lezzie with me or just let me be there to watch.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Hello friends

 

HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHICH ONE GOES FIRST? Sorry I was smirking when I asked this but really thought, is there any way to peacefully decide? We both love when the other person has fun but I also want to be considerate towards my hubby who would let me go at it first if I ask him (but that would be unfair now wouldn't it )

 

Cheers

xoxo

MichJosh

 

 

Pick a card, flip a coin. Leave it to fate:)

[michjosh69 23]

OMG you guys are totally take HER side haha, did she bribe you or something? Give a guy some hope will ya

[BabeAndApe 70]

Who suggested a threesome? In general, if the man asks I think you should try to arrange MFM before FMF. If the woman is the one who asks, you should try FMF before MFM. This creates some equity and sends the message that what is good for the goose is good for the gander, and vice versa. However, due to ingrained social double-standards (and women sometimes absorb this one, too) MFM is sometimes harder to sell. Beyond that, if your lady is bi or bi-curious, she may prefer FMF of her own accord! All of this said, finding a woman for a threesome is significantly harder than finding a man, and your lady will likely have to take point. To that end, you have to find a way to motivate her to look! Single males are easy to find. In fact, so easy that I recommend taking your time and screening them. Don't take the first guy who comes along unless he's ideal. Trust me, you'll have your pick of the litter. That said, I'm all for flipping a coin? If you commit to one threesome, why not commit to two - one of each?

[Sereno & Rider 26]

Hey! We are still new at this so does not matter as long as we all click. Just about anything could be/would be exciting. lol

 

After all. It's not like we can go down the store aisle with 100's of choices.

[BabeAndApe 70]

It's not like we can go down the store aisle with 100's of choices.

 

That depends on whether or not you are looking for a single male or a single female.

 

"Hey world, we want a threesome!"

 

Single women: "..." [crickets chirping].

 

Single men: [stampede noises] "Present and ready for action!"

 

I've found looking for single guys to join is like fishing in a barrel with a hand-grenade.

 

How strong is your portcullis and palisade??

[Wife4Share42 16]

Allow the female to choose the one that is the most comfortable with her and she will be apt to ask you to make the decision

[Eddiem 139]

We kind of fell upon it... I would say it depends on who is more interested in pleasing the lady. I enjoy seeing my wife being pleased by others so our first time we both started at different positions pleasing her and in the end I took a back seat and let him fuck her hard even pulling away from her efforts to blow me.

Hello friends

 

HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHICH ONE GOES FIRST? Sorry I was smirking when I asked this but really thought, is there any way to peacefully decide? We both love when the other person has fun but I also want to be considerate towards my hubby who would let me go at it first if I ask him (but that would be unfair now wouldn't it )

 

Cheers

xoxo

MichJosh

[JR10 21]

We tried MFM first and I didn't think I would like that, and then our second threesome my girlfriend let me have sex with her friend, which was fun lol, but honestly, I think I was more turned on with MFM. Watching a 9 and a half inch cock nut inside her doggy style- with just his tip - I actually came really fast but I think that was from her being extra wet. It also turned me on watching her try and suck his big dick while I had sex with her.

[peekaboo 45]

My husband definitely enjoys watching me get fucked by another man than I enjoy watching him with someone. Consequently, we've had several more MFMs than FMFs but I do enjoy both. Just depends.

[JR10 21]

I enjoy watching her get fucked but only by a someone with a nice and big package. One time our current fuck buddy came on my girlfriends face while she was giving him head, as we were having sex, and I came right after. Then I realized I was starring at his cock as I was cumming and that I came from looking at his big dick and massive nut sack just hanging there with cum dripping off.

[peekaboo 45]

Lol. Gotta be careful.

[udsarge 119]

So when you ask " Which one first?"...do you mean which kind of threesome to attempt first, or when in a threesome, who goes first with with with whom

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[ViSexual 1,008]

OK, my wife is straight so that will make a difference in my opinion.

 

If we were to agree to indulge again, and this was our consideration and not just finding another couple, well, I'd immediately vote MFM.

 

And my reason being that I would want her to have so damn much enjoyment that she'd not want to change her mind and quit the lifestyle again.

[cuck4life 16]

Without a doubt MFM

[couplers 4,648]

OK, my wife is straight so that will make a difference in my opinion..

 

Hi, this is Petra. To me the above makes all the difference. I lean towards MFF because I enjoy sex with a woman as well. On the other hand, one guy usually can't go long enough or enough times for me to get multiple Os from having him in my vagina, so a couples of guys is good too. Put me down as undecided.