Do you hold off having sex if you plan on meeting a couple?

[lnw 145]

You've made the contact and set a playdate. Do you hold off having sex with your spouse for a few days prior to the playdate? If so, how long do you abstain?

[Guest]

No...

 

I can't see why you would hold back from having sex with your partner.

 

Generally if a man doesn't have sex / doesn't masturbate for a few days then he will cum a lot quicker when he does have sex, and cum a lot more.

 

I guess it depends if the man is intending to have unprotected / bare back sex with another women.

 

That you could say the more a man cums = the greater chance of unplanned pregnancies.

 

In my younger years if I met a new girl who told me she was using contraception, that I'd began seeing some new girl that I didn't know very well, then I'd masturbate at least 2 or 3 times throughout the day, and then I'd go and meet her in the evening and take half a Viagra pill just before I got to her house.

 

Sure my dick would get nice and hard, I'd spend the entire evening fucking her. I'd have sex with her 3,4, even 5 times and each time I neared orgasm I'd not only "Pull Out" but I was actually cumming such a small amount that in my eyes at least it lowered the chance of any unwanted / unplanned pregnancies. Basically my balls were already empty, I'd get all the feeling of cumming but without the big splash of cum.

 

I'm not actually sure of the science behind it but I do know that if a man cums then at first its a very thick white substance, if he cums 2 or 3 times then after a while his balls are empty and the cums turns into a small trickle of clear liquid which I'm assuming is a lot less potent than the thick full load.

 

In my life I have met 3 / 4 women who have not been very honest with me about using contraception.

 

1. The first girl said it would be fine if I didn't use a condom, that she was perfectly okay and safe to have bare back sex, as it turns out she wasn't on any contraception whatsoever. When asked to explain why she let me have sex without a condom or any contraception she just said "I thought it would be okay" I mean luckily it was okay but if I had not pulled out before cumming it probably wouldn't have been okay.

 

2. I began dating another girl who assured me she was using contraception, over the first month we would have sex and I pulled out when nearing orgasm. She however assured me it was safe to cum inside of her, assured me she was on proper contraception so I cum inside her a few times which did feel good but also left me feeling nervous after. I questioned her more about what contraception she was using and she was actually using a herbal remedy that is suppose to "Lower the chance of unplanned pregnancies" not actually stop unplanned pregnancies. It was basically a herbal remedy from some natural medicine book that she had once read, to me it all sounded dangerous and not very secure.

 

3. I met one girl who again promised me she was on full contraception, she was very convincing, she was old enough, smart enough, and had a great job in medicine that I trusted her and spent a few months cumming inside of her before she admitted that she wasn't on any contraception at all. She explained that she was fairly sure she couldn't have children, that her ex partner had spent many years cumming inside of her and she had never got pregnant. I got the overall feeling that every time she met a new man she let that man cum inside of her hoping this would be the man to get her pregnant. Really she wasn't "With Me" I was just another man who spent a few months cumming inside to see if I was the one, shortly after she moved on to another man, then another ect.

 

 

The overall point is that not every women is very honest about been on contraception, some of them are not using contraception at all, some of them are using unknown herbal like remedies, some of them forget to use contraception, some women are simply trying to get pregnant and don't really care who the father is as long as they get a baby at the end.

 

I spent over a decade working for the British government and most of that time was spent working in the "Social Benefits System" and every week we would have young pregnant women arriving to claim benefits. On asking these women about their circumstances a large amount of them said things like.

 

- I got pregnant because its easier to get social housing if your pregnant.

 

- I got pregnant so I can get access to child benefits and increased benefit rates.

 

- I got pregnant because I don't want to go out and work everyday, I want been a mother to be my job.

 

 

That basically a lot of younger women ended up getting pregnant because they knew having a baby would not only get them better / bigger housing paid for by the tax payer, but that it also meant they could spend the next five years sitting at home doing very little but lazing around watching day time TV and playing on their posh smart phones. That a lot of these young women view a baby as a get out of work free card.

 

I specifically remember one young women who got interviewed and she said "If I get pregnant I don't have to work, don't have to get up early everyday, don't have to travel to work everyday, don't have to put in any real effort, that its easier to look after a baby than work 5 days a week"

 

She explained that her job was to sit at home, not to work for her family.

 

 

Suppose the point is some women are looking to get pregnant, other women are not so honest about been on contraception, that if I know I'm meeting a new women that I do not know very well I'd rather by balls be empty before I meet her. Doesn't matter if I'm meeting a couple or single women, if I know bare back sex is on the cards then I'd rather my balls be good an empty before that happens.

[Love2play 21]

Not for a few days, although we look forward to the play date, we wouldn't want it to take priority over our own sex life and connection. We would usually not have sex together on the day of the playdate, partly to build up the anticipation, but also to reduce the chance of a performance issue with the other couple.

[AngelandTiger 364]

Not for a few days, although we look forward to the play date, we wouldn't want it to take priority over our own sex life and connection. We would usually not have sex together on the day of the playdate, partly to build up the anticipation, but also to reduce the chance of a performance issue with the other couple.

 

Exact answer I would have given. And there you are......

 

T

[Guest]

The first several times, hubby would tell me to watch porn the day of and I would and it did work. I would arrive horny and eager. I suspect he also had me go a few days without, or several but I never really noticed that part, merely that I was ready and willing upon arrival.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

At one time, I believed that abstinence for a couple of days before a big meeting would be a useful strategy. What convinced me that this was not true was participation in a week-long gathering of swingers at a mountain resort. I had fun every day; on more than one day, fun with multiple women, my sweet spouse included.

[BabeAndApe 70]

When we go to a club we don't have sex that day.

 

But days before that, or even the day before? No, we don't refrain.

[PSULioness 859]

I suggested to my husband that he might want to hold off the day before and the day of. We did once. The next time we didn’t and I don’t think he had any problems. Now we don’t even think about it.