Wife wants to see another woman and I give each other oral

[Slcjm05 17]

Just recently my wife expressed that she thinks it would be hot to see another woman give me a blow job. Then last night she said she thinks it would be cool to watch me go down on another woman.

 

A little background on our short swinging adventures, we got into this to fulfill her fantasy of her being with another woman and thats what we did. She had 2 experiences so far and she loved every minute of it. I never had the urge to be with anothef woman and I still don't today to tell you the truth and she doesnt have the desire to be with another man either. To say I was shocked when she said she wanted to see me get oral from another woman and return the favor to that woman was an understatement lol. Don't get me wrong this sounds fun and all but I'm not sure if I cohld follow through with it. Her and i have been together for 20 years and have never been with anyone else ever, except for those 2 girls she had fun with.

 

Sometimes I feel like she wants me to do this because she wants to repay me for letting her play with other woman and sometimes I think she may just really have this fantasy of seeing me do this with another woman. What are your thoughts and exleriences on this? Would you go through with it?

[Newcouple17 101]

Just recently my wife expressed that she thinks it would be hot to see another woman give me a blow job. Then last night she said she thinks it would be cool to watch me go down on another woman.

 

A little background on our short swinging adventures, we got into this to fulfill her fantasy of her being with another woman and thats what we did. She had 2 experiences so far and she loved every minute of it. I never had the urge to be with anothef woman and I still don't today to tell you the truth and she doesnt have the desire to be with another man either. To say I was shocked when she said she wanted to see me get oral from another woman and return the favor to that woman was an understatement lol. Don't get me wrong this sounds fun and all but I'm not sure if I cohld follow through with it. Her and i have been together for 20 years and have never been with anyone else ever, except for those 2 girls she had fun with.

 

Sometimes I feel like she wants me to do this because she wants to repay me for letting her play with other woman and sometimes I think she may just really have this fantasy of seeing me do this with another woman. What are your thoughts and exleriences on this? Would you go through with it?

 

Everyone is different in all different ways, so without having a two-way honest conversation with your wife you may never know her reasons?

But I can tell you that me and my husband have been together over 25 years and he initiated the discussions on swinging/swapping etc way back. Cutting it down, way down, he has always wanted to see me with another guy. There is obviously a lot more behind the scenes, but primarily he ideally wanted us to have a threesome with a guy. Firstly I was shocked and very surprised and I just didn't understand.....I didn't want anyone else! Over the years we've talked and played with the idea, fantasy stuff in the bedroom and it grew.

You see I didn't really understand, but I got it, if that makes any sense? We have a very loving relationship and like most have been through some tuff times. A couple of years ago we had a good sit down and and although I couldn't or rather wouldn't picture my husband with another woman there was absolutely no way I was going to do anything on my own and potentially risk our relationship. We talked and talked and the answer was another couple. My husband was adamant he wasn't interested in any other woman, but me. Well now he understood!

Now there is a lot I'm not saying here, but we live as a couple, so we either did this as a couple or not at all!

[Slcjm05 17]

Newcouple17 thanks for the very insightful reply. We have had multiple conversations and she assures me that she is not wanting me to do this as a repayment for me letting her play with other women. I do believe her but I still thinks she may feel that she sort of owes it to me or something. Since she brought it up we have also talked about it and did some fantasy role stuff in the bedroom as well and we both loved it, but as you know fantasy and reality are two different things. If the situation ever presents itself to us I guess I will cross that bridge then, I just don't want her to regret it if it ever happens.

[adamgunn 1,460]

Regret is a strange thing . . . you don't have regrets until you've done something wrong, and many times you don't know if it's wrong until you do it. Such is life.

 

It sounds like she's got her head together on what she wants, and how she might allow you to participate with her girlfriend. Since she's saying that this would be okay, I'd go ahead with it. (Assuming you want to.)

 

And if you then have regrets? Well, nobody ever promised you a perfect world. Figure out what went wrong and don't do that anymore.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

If she is saying it is okay and you are saying it's okay, then why not give it a try? If either of you don't enjoy the experience, then don't do it again. She's been open enough to tell you about this fantasy, it's something that she wants to see, then give this one to her (and you might enjoy it yourself). Just keep talking with her and make sure she doesn't have any reason to feel threatened by the 'other woman'.

[Slcjm05 17]

If she is saying it is okay and you are saying it's okay, then why not give it a try? If either of you don't enjoy the experience, then don't do it again. She's been open enough to tell you about this fantasy, it's something that she wants to see, then give this one to her (and you might enjoy it yourself). Just keep talking with her and make sure she doesn't have any reason to feel threatened by the 'other woman'.

 

I guess you are right, if the opportunity presents itself I believe we will follow through with it. She only has a couple friends in mind that she would like to see it happen with, they are some good friends and we trust them a lot.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Just be careful crossing swinging and friends. The lines need to be drawn very dark so everyone understands what is and isn't allowed or expected afterwards. It might be better not to use a friend for this unless you are both certain that they can handle keeping the friendship and the sex totally separate.

[Slcjm05 17]

Just be careful crossing swinging and friends. The lines need to be drawn very dark so everyone understands what is and isn't allowed or expected afterwards. It might be better not to use a friend for this unless you are both certain that they can handle keeping the friendship and the sex totally separate.

 

That is a very valid point. The wife and I have talked about this exact same thing and rules will be put into place with a lengthy discussion if we decide to go that route.

[PSULioness 857]

The original post really hits home with me and my husband. Last year before we married I had a bi experience with a college friend. I didn’t know she was bi and I found out a number of my college friends were. That first experience included a guy, her friend. To this day I can’t believe it happened or that I actually enjoyed it. It surely changed my life. I know I had a guilty conscience and I invited girlfriends to our bed. There was guilt and desire to be with my friends. Having him watch us was strange and exciting. Then bringing him into the playing was even more strange. In the beginning it was more me wanting to be with the girlfriend than me watching. A year later we like playing together and it’s way more than oral. It’s up to you how far you want this to go. I say enjoy the ride.