Decisions decisions......

[Newcouple17 101]

Right having calmed down and got things straight...

 

Not sure the club thing is for us...bad experience on our last (2nd) visit...for a few days I wasn't sure if I wanted to carry on with anything to do with swinging!!

 

Well having discussed everything that's happened we've decided (just) that we'd like to meet another couple, in the new year. Well the obvious problem is that we're back to square one regarding finding suitable people without going to the club again? Or so we thought. We recently joined a different site and have been contacted by another couple. They seem nice, although their way outside of our ideal age range. I know that it shouldn't matter, but their 20+ years our junior! Both are very attractive and we both fancy them, although their age is a bit of a concern for me? Although saying that they do have more experience than us! lol

[adamgunn 1,460]

So, I hear your concern, you have a right to it.

 

My suggestion? Set up a no-sex date with them, drinks or dinner. See what they're like, then make your decision.

[Newcouple17 101]

So, I hear your concern, you have a right to it.

 

My suggestion? Set up a no-sex date with them, drinks or dinner. See what they're like, then make your decision.

 

That might work, they do seem nice? Only thing is that they live about an hour and a half away from us, so quite a round trip for dinner? Not that we'd mind the time, its just all the arrangements that go with it and the fact that we can't make every weekend?

A month or so ago I wouldn't have considered anyone younger at all, but now I'm wondering if it matters?

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

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A month or so ago I wouldn't have considered anyone younger at all, but now I'm wondering if it matters?

 

At this point it does not matter. Meet them for drinks & dinner & see what they are like. If they are experienced, or at least committed you should have a pleasant evening. Just be sure to talk some about sex, swinging, & having adventures.

 

I've had some great sex & conversations with people a decade or more older that I & over 25 years junior to me. What matters is honesty, and a desire to explore & experience new things. Also unless you live near a large city expect to travel to meet quality partners. Small town US lacks the high density of active swingers to make compatible local people common. I've reconciled myself to driving 90 minutes or more for some good threesomes or couples swaps.

[njbm 2,877]

Just meet vanilla. You hear good stories, it can be an aphrodisiac for your own sex life and if you don’t connect with that couple, they may have other ideas to help you. A house party invite, they may know a couple your age, etc. One thing leads to another.

[Newcouple17 101]

At this point it does not matter. Meet them for drinks & dinner & see what they are like. If they are experienced, or at least committed you should have a pleasant evening. Just be sure to talk some about sex, swinging, & having adventures.

 

I've had some great sex & conversations with people a decade or more older that I & over 25 years junior to me. What matters is honesty, and a desire to explore & experience new things. Also unless you live near a large city expect to travel to meet quality partners. Small town US lacks the high density of active swingers to make compatible local people common. I've reconciled myself to driving 90 minutes or more for some good threesomes or couples swaps.

 

Yes I must admit that we never dreamed it would be so hard finding people to join us, but I guess when you actually think about it I think we were just being nieve!

No I don't think we should worry about anyone's age going forward, just focus on finding other couples where we all click and find each other attractive. And yes the penny has finally dropped....you can meet anyone anywhere, but the right people we'll have to travel for.

We've all chatted online and I've spoken to both of them on the phone, they come across well and seem nice and I know that surprisingly we both fancy them, so I guess we'll have to wait and see how it goes?

[Newcouple17 101]

Just meet vanilla. You hear good stories, it can be an aphrodisiac for your own sex life and if you don’t connect with that couple, they may have other ideas to help you. A house party invite, they may know a couple your age, etc. One thing leads to another.

 

Yes I think we'll all meet up for dinner, a few drinks and a long chat and see how things go?

I definitely think that I for one would feel happy meeting just one couple at a time in future.

[Alura 2,774]

In a similar situation, my late wife and I met a couple in a book store coffee shop. We had arranged for the kids to visit grandma, so if things went well, we could go to our place. We liked each other and discussed birth control, the difference between "fun sex" and "making love," and we were looking for a couple for the fun part. Mrs. Playmate asked if we found them arractive. We assured them we did. Mrs. Alura pointed out that she very much wanted to fuck Mr. Playmate, and our place (with spa) was empty. We agreed to a "test fuck," went to our place and... We played with them for a couple of years until his job took them away.

 

Don't be afraid to talk about the idea of swinging; if you embarrass yourself, it won't last long.

 

Best of luck!

[padoc 1,703]

What's the worst that can happen?? Meet them for a drink. If there's an attraction, go for it, if not, you owe them nothing. Finding a 4-way match isn't easy. While you don't necessarily have to kiss a lot of frogs, you WILL meet some, maybe more than some. It will however help you refine your selection process. It took us over a year to find our first swap partners. Prior to that, Mrs Doc whined more than once on the way home from a disappointing meeting, "I shaved for THAT"? Patience and persistence ultimately paid off for us.

[Newcouple17 101]

In a similar situation, my late wife and I met a couple in a book store coffee shop. We had arranged for the kids to visit grandma, so if things went well, we could go to our place. We liked each other and discussed birth control, the difference between "fun sex" and "making love," and we were looking for a couple for the fun part. Mrs. Playmate asked if we found them arractive. We assured them we did. Mrs. Alura pointed out that she very much wanted to fuck Mr. Playmate, and our place (with spa) was empty. We agreed to a "test fuck," went to our place and... We played with them for a couple of years until his job took them away.

 

Don't be afraid to talk about the idea of swinging; if you embarrass yourself, it won't last long.

 

Best of luck!

 

Yes I guess we're not used to being able to openly discuss swinging with others yet, but I'm sure we'll get used to it! lol

I suppose we didn't really think about the logistics of swinging, finding other couples where we all get on is so much harder than we thought? I guess we'll have to travel a bit and have maybe a few wasted trips while we try and find people?