Different Friendship

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Have a lady I'd know professionally for a dozen years. We had had plenty of non work related conversations, that were publicly acceptable, were what might be described s professional friends. About fifteen months ago we abruptly outed our secret sexual lives to each other & since been extremely communicative about our current and past adventures & intimacies. While we have had great sex with each other a few times we both enjoy the ability to discuss our sexual live with each other, which we do frequently. A combination of bragging, questioning, disappointments, & flirtation.

 

Anyone else experienced a intimate friendship like this, where there was little actual sex involved?

[JandKinBoise 858]

I had a 'girlfriend' back in my late 20s where our relationship had no sex but a lot of conversations. She was a self admitted slut, one of the first I had met. I found her life to be fascinating, degrading, horrible and wonderful. She told me about 3 weeks after first meeting her, that she expected me to fuck her. She said she hung out with guys mostly and they all fuck her. Well, I never did, for many reasons. We hung out together for a couple years until my wife asked me to stop. Even though I never fucked her, or did anything with her along those lines, it was assumed by everyone that we had. So my wife was like wtf dude, and I got that.

[adamgunn 1,460]

I had a co-worker (female) back in the 70's that was very sexually active. I was married. Although we both thought each other was sexy, she wasn't going to do anything to either cause problems in the office, or in my marriage. So there was no playing.

 

But we got to be the kind of friends where you can talk about anything. And she did, her current lover (probably six to ten per year,) and what they did to her that made her get off.

 

Fast forward a decade, I was no longer working for that company, and one night she seduced me. It was just the one time, and unfortunately it wasn't the pinnacle event either of us hoped for; we never tried again. A couple of years later she moved to California and we lost touch.

[ViSexual 1,008]

Before I retired, I worked in an office with all women except for me. They all were also friends of both me and my wife. One day, when we happened to be talking and alone, one of the single women let is slip that she was enjoying a threesome with a couple she knew. I'm pretty sure she was hinting about me and my wife.

 

I told her the truth that we had been into swinging in the past but that we no longer did and that was at my wife's request. And I also mentioned that my wife wasn't the least bit bisexual. The woman never approached the possibility again but, our revealing our swinging adventures to each other, sure made for better conversations after that.

 

I've been retired for 8 years now and she and I still keep in touch, mostly on FaceBook. She is also a FB friend of my wife. I guess the closest we ever came to crossing the line from purely friendship to something more was when she told me how she loved to deepthroat. We both laughed when she asked if I'd like her to demonstrate.

 

So, absolutely, you can be just friends with another swinger. And, hey, it sure makes the conversation more interesting and less guarded.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

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Fast forward a decade, I was no longer working for that company, and one night she seduced me. It was just the one time, and unfortunately it wasn't the pinnacle event either of us hoped for; we never tried again. A couple of years later she moved to California and we lost touch.

 

I had some fear it would be disappointing or disastrous if we did have sex, fortunately it was great. One of the reasons I've not tried to turn this into a regular sex thing is keeping it special for us. Both of us being very bi has made for some interesting conversations.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Similar to AdamGunn I knew a female coworker back in the '90s that was very open sexually. We talk openly about everything including sex. She made it known that if I was interested in more, she was also. I was in a bad marriage at the time but still wanted to be involved with raising my son so I never took her up on her offer(s). Eventually I found another job and we lost track of each other (and the marriage finally came to an end). I still wonder what would have happened, but realise that the price was too high at the time.

[Fi86 78]

I've had sex with a handful of my male friends over the years, and a female friend. With my male friends we never thought about entering a relationship at any points and they continued to have girlfriends and sex with others and shared the details with me, and I shared details about my sex life with them. Tbh I share details about my sex life with all my friends and most of them share details about theirs with me. This is pretty normal. But some friendships have included sex with each other sometimes as well. I don't think fwb are unusual are they?

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

... This is pretty normal. But some friendships have included sex with each other sometimes as well. I don't think fwb are unusual are they?

 

I suspect you are very lucky, and are the sort who can make friends easily. I've met a lot of people who have never had friends they could be open and communicate this way. Appreciate your friends & special moments.