Girls Talk....Do Guys Talk?

[PSULioness 859]

This is Swinger Talk. When I was dating I always had a friend or two to brag to. If I slept with someone new I needed to tell someone. I would somehow let them know if it was great or if he was a bust. I had one really good friend that would share the laughs with me. Now that we are going to parties I can’t tell my regular friends about new guys, I’m married so we sometimes talk about our “only” guy. I do have some swing friends who now have the laughs. The talk is different because we now talk about guys we all have been with. We talk about all things. Yes size and shapes. Who does this and that.

My husband says he never talks with the other guys about those types of things. I think the guys talk just as much as us. Do they?

[adamgunn 1,460]

I never did. Well maybe a few times when we were all sitting around at the club and a particular woman came up. But not often.

 

Kiss and telling for me was something I didn't like to do, I might get somebody (possibly me!) in trouble.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

For the typical man, speaking intimate details about life is giving away information that another man could, prospectively, hold up later for the purpose of gaining an advantage. Consequently, it happens infrequently and only with very close and trusted friends.

[WSB421 91]

My wife and her friends talk details but I never have and none of my male friends have ever gone into much detail either. My experience has been that female friends are quicker to voice details than men by quite a stretch.

[Guy1964 177]

I've never spoken to my guy friends about my sexual encounters. I was once the only guy in an otherwise-all-female office, and I've been exposed to what you're describing. At first, they were careful to make sure I wasn't around, but later they were less careful. Girls give the play-by-play commentary!

[ViSexual 1,008]

For me, no, I never had a desire to tell other guys about women I've been with.

 

I remember a kid in high school who found out, and it wasn't from me, that I'd been with one of the popular girls. She told me that he actually asked her that he knew she'd fucked me and wanted her to fuck him. Idiot! I hated it that she thought I'd told him.

 

About a month after my wife and I swapped with a couple, who were in our vanilla friend's group, a wife of another couple we knew propositioned me saying that my wife had told her that we'd swapped with the other couple. She was really good looking too but I declined and told her that I'd only agree if her husband and my wife wanted to be part of it. She said she didn't want her husband to be with anyone else. That sure made her less attractive to me.

 

But I did know some guys who would tell all and most of us figured they were just telling a lie.

[Guest]

Hubby and I have compared notes on this and the experiences seem difference. In high school, we girls always said we didn’t, even with our best friends. The guys apparently, would tell their best buddy. In adult life, I think we girls talk about it more and the boys say very little to one another.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . . But I did know some guys who would tell all and most of us figured they were just telling a lie.

I made a casual comment to my wife, “if those guys only knew what I was up to this past weekend.” She replies, “why don’t you just tell them? You will no longer need to have a concern that the truth will get out.” I proposed to her that if I mentioned at the lunch table that I was the only man in a hot tub with four naked women, they would never believe me.”

[luvin eye full 140]

I think you will find most guys once out of the play ground / high school, just do not talk like the girls do -

 

And really unless you can feel the difference of every "size and shape" you have ever had then whats to tell?

 

I mean for me being a average Joe ( half a foot lol ) most chicks feel the same - i think i could remember two or three that were lets say out of the ordinary.

 

Now fun couples to be with - we may say oh so and so were fun but that's about it.

[Shore2Please 612]

I have always been shy about having sex. That’s not to say I never talked. I had a friend who asked me if I ever did it. At the time I was a virgin. She kept pushing the topic knowing I had a boyfriend. I did tell her about my first time letting him get to third base. She was experienced at was like a coach. Looking back I must have sounded so stupid. Later I still remember a girl I knew came over to me with a bent finger. She knew I slept with this guy who had a kink in his dick. I didn’t know how to react. In college there were times some of my friends were very graphic about their sex lives. I usually didn’t say much. I did find the stories funny. I asked my husband what guys talked about. He said he never talked about anyone he dated. In HS the guys would brag about the easy girls. He said he knew of eight guys that were with one girl, not at the same time.

Now I have been with a few men and I never talked about them to anyone except my husband. I couldn’t talk openly about it. That’s why I love this board, it’s a place to chat.

[findinganswers 369]

I can tell you my wife talks. I have been present during her talks with her best friend. Of course this is the friend who got us started swinging. Her friend has given her tips on who to hook up with at a party and who to stay away from. I find their advice funny. It makes me wonder what they say about me. I know it’s just my insecurity, they are always eager to play with us. Sometimes I wonder if I compare favorably with others at our house parties. On the other hand my talking is not as graphic as the the wife. I admit some of the couples we have met through them are better than others. Even when my friend who has met most of the couples before us will only hint at what women are fun. In the past he told me who to look for and then when we meet them I am not attracted to women who he said are great in the sack. My wife talks to me after a party. I found that she is much more graphic and detailed when she talks to her friend, even when I am sitting there. She doesn’t hide things from me, it’s just her friend gets her giggly explicit.

[JessicaJamison 862]

Oh the boys definitely talk.  I struggled with this at first but I ended up telling a couple single friends that I have and I was right back in my gossip zone.  Crisis averted.  

[Anon321 523]

We both talk.  My GF talks to her friends and if I fuck another woman I definitely tell a couple of my friends.  Most of the time I probably talk with my friends about fucking my GF.... and they talk to me about fucking my GF so I guess it makes sense lol