Single guy and curious

[Travislee1671 15]

Hi everyone I’ve been thinking of the swinging lifestyle for a while now but I don’t know how to get started can anyone give me some advise on how to go about getting started? Are people interested in swinging with a single guy?

[ViSexual 1,008]

First of all, yes, many couples do look for the right single guy. And, I emphasize 'right'. So you need to think about what your role is gong to be and make a profile for that.

 

I think if I were a young single male and wanted into the lifestyle, I'd have things in my profile that show that I'd respect both the wife and the husband. Use words like considerate and respectful too.

[DirtyMyrtle 15]

We are new to the LS and one thing I would like to add, at least from our perspective. Don't come out and ask for the ladies phone number, our first message was "hey sexy what's your number hmu" and it put a bad taste in my mouth. Another thing that kind of goes hand in hand is be respectful and put some time into your writing. It's nice if you touch upon some of the things the couple put in their profile.

 

I maybe in the minority here, and I'm only speaking for myself. I have a penis, I know what they look like. In the first 48 hours, I had seen more penis than a rest area urinal. If we are interested in seeing what you're working with, we will ask. Best of luck!

[Lionheart72 2,190]

Hi everyone I’ve been thinking of the swinging lifestyle for a while now but I don’t know how to get started can anyone give me some advise on how to go about getting started? Are people interested in swinging with a single guy?

 

Yes, there are couples interested in hooking up with single guys.

 

However, the first thing you must be aware of is that there are a LOT of single guys who want into the lifestyle. Like, hordes. Most of them are single guys suffering from the mistaken impression that going on lifestyle sites or to swingers clubs is an easy way to get laid. It isn't. It really, really isn't. Joining the army of assholes sending out dick-pics and "hey baby, let's fuck" to everyone with tits is generally not a path to success.

 

As for advice, think about what you offer - then cross off any item on the list related to your dick, your stamina, your oral skills or your manual dexterity. Every guy offers that. Every. Single. One.

 

Instead, as ViSexual and DirtyMyrtle said demonstrate (show don't tell) how you will be respectful of the couples you want to meet. Talk about yourself, your interests, your likes and dislikes. Be honest. Show that you will listen to and respect the boundaries and guidelines of couples you might connect with. Be clear about whether your looking for friends-with-benefits or just a one-night-stand.

 

In the end, I think the best way to stand out from the crowd is to be yourself.

[Fi86 78]

Do you know of any women already in the lifestyle or any single girls also wanting to get into it? If so I'd suggest partnering with them to begin with, even if you're not really interested in each other.

 

I've had a few male friends wanting to do the same thing as you but came up against some closed doors as a single man, so I partnered with them a few times to get them in, accepted, break the ice, etc. as places are more welcoming of couples, but often less so with single men. Once I'd gotten them in the door they could then strike out on their own and meet people/girls, make friends etc.

[mattd41 15]

The way I got into the lifestyle was through online chatting with a webcam. I met a lady (couple) and we started chatting. This went on for a few months until she invited me to a house party. I would go out with her and the husband on a regular basis for about 2 years. Sweet Cheeks was a club in Mississauga that had chat capabilities; website was Happy Hedonist which is no longer around.