Turned off after seeing them naked?

[Skullsaw 17]

My hubby and I have been exploring swinging for about a year. We’ve had two separate couples we’ve seen exclusively during this time, it’s all been really great!

 

Like any woman I suppose, I have some insecurities about my body. Mainly my tummy and my “bits”. Although with the ladies I’ve been with (so far) it’s never an issue at all. I just feel I like my bits are ugly. I don’t have these feelings with guys, just girls for some reason.

 

Have you ever been attracted to someone, then have seen them naked and have been turned off? It would be crushing for a play partner not to like me after the see me naked.

[adamgunn 1,460]

I can honestly say that if I was ever attracted to a woman and got her out of her clothes, I never was 'unattracted' at that point. I really wouldn't worry about it.

[kikonkrome 843]

Not likely for us. There is a huge amount of personality that goes into being attracted to someone. Once the connection is there you can't really turn it off. I wouldn't worry about it.

[bryonboru 60]

Never, we have to have a connection before the clothes come off. Once that connection exists, it would take a major event to break it. We all imagine what is under those clothes before we get to that point and most of the time we are not that far off.

[GoldCoCouple 4,064]

Although with the ladies I’ve been with (so far) it’s never an issue at all.

 

Just accept it as being okay. We all have 'parts' that we wish were different/better, but if others are okay with it/them then why question their opinions? We care much more about personality and 'connection' than appearance (actually personality+connection+clothed appearance=attraction with us). There will always be 'prettier' people than us...and there will usually be 'less pretty' people than us. It's all good...

[Fi86 78]

Personality is far, far more important than looks. I'm sure you look fine and no play partner that likes you enough to play is going to be disappointed. See my post on a similar thread on here I left on a similar topic. I'm on the bigger side and have never once had an issue with couples, singles or anyone else. I also have a tummy and a huge arse. Many men like that anyway, others are not interested in looks and go on personality. Just be confident, you are sexy.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I can only think of one such situation and it wasn't her "bits" that became the turn-off. It was the fact that when she went to take her clothes off it became obvious that she was a) insecure and b) trying to cover up what she was insecure about. Basically, her clothes came off and then we found that she was basically wearing spanx under her lingerie. If you are real and honest about who you are and what you have then no someone isn't going to get turned off once the clothes are off (assuming they were turned on before).

 

That said situations do occur (often with newbies) where people put themselves in situations where they agree to play when they aren't really into the partner. I think this is often the cause of performance issues in men (well one of the causes).

[Napoleon 230]

I've had a handful of women who looked very attractive in clothes, but once the clothes came off it was the complete opposite.

 

It happens.

[Fla-swing99 136]

Fi86 said:

Personality is far, far more important than looks. I'm sure you look fine and no play partner that likes you enough to play is going to be disappointed. See my post on a similar thread on here I left on a similar topic. I'm on the bigger side and have never once had an issue with couples, singles or anyone else. I also have a tummy and a huge arse. Many men like that anyway, others are not interested in looks and go on personality. Just be confident, you are sexy.

Mr and I both totally agree with you on this. Personality can make a huge difference in how attracted we are to others. Grant it, the first step is usually what we visually see however that only accounts for so much once a conversation begins then the personality is the focus. We have seen some absolutely gorgeous/handsome people that suddenly become very unattractive the moment they open their mouth and the conversation begins. On the other hand, we have met folks that I guess you would consider overage looking, not neck break catch your eye sort of thing that become incredibly attractive through conversation with them where their personality simply shines.

Also remember, like most, we are our own worst enemy on how we think we look ourselves. Also, society does not help in this area one bit. A person’s personality can make the difference every time. Just our thoughts on this issue.

[Billygoat 443]

Personality....personality.....personality. Personally I love giving pleasure. I have never turned away from a woman who I’ve spoken with....shared a few stories with....shared a few laughs with and there is mutual interest. It is always a gift.

 

Everyone has their likes and dislikes. But for me.....it is a gift from the woman when she chooses to spend/share time and herself with me.

[GoldCoCouple 4,064]

Beauty is only skin deep...sexy is a combination of personality, intelligence, and confidence. We prefer sexy.

[Kade oj 63]

So true!

[JessicaJamison 858]

We all have insecurities, so I wouldn't worry about it.  If a woman or man get my clothes off it is because they have managed to turn me on enough that I want them.  The nudity wouldn't change what I want in that moment.