Texting the other couple

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Curious as to what your MO is for texting another couple. If you've been conversing say via SLS and they provide a # for each of them. Who do you text and from who's phone? Do you cross gender and have the male text the female and vice versa? Or, do you just text the same sex?

 

What's your preference on getting texts from the other couple?

 

I'd personally prefer that everyone be in the loop via a group text so that there's no issues of someone being left out or situations like this one occurring - https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/60095-should-i-be-upset/

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

My wife and I settled this question many years ago. We trust each other to the extent that texting with others bothers neither of us. It typically does not start, however, until after an in-person meeting. It is also typical that we occasionally tell what kind of messages we have recently received, especially any funny stuff.

[Newcouple17 101]

We've bought a cheap pay as you go phone for this sort of thing and we usually use it together, no other reason than its a joint venture?

[Fi86 78]

Usually texting and calling each other comes up after meeting them at least once. Group text is great, I don't think there is anything wrong with direct text between individuals as long as all are happy with that arrangement. I don't think there are rules on who says what and gender etc. I'm involved with a handful of couples and have been with others in the past. Sometimes it's group chat/text, sometimes it's the man who communicates with me, sometimes it's the woman, often it's whoever, doesn't usually matter.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Either group texting with everyone involved from the males phone or the two men texting and/or two women texting. Almost nothing good comes from the man/other woman (or woman/other man) texting. If you aren't willing to share the text with everyone, then it's probably not a good idea.

[Fi86 78]

Either group texting with everyone involved from the males phone or the two men texting and/or two women texting. Almost nothing good comes from the man/other woman (or woman/other man) texting. If you aren't willing to share the text with everyone, then it's probably not a good idea.

 

Why do you think it's a problem if the guys and girls text each other with the consent and knowledge of their partner?

[Erik13 157]

I don't care if my wife texts male playmates, and vice versa. We trust each other 100%

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Just safer and helps avoid problems; my SO would rather not have some guy texting her (other than me). It's just a rule that we started and every couple that we have dated agreed with. Sure, sexting can be fun, but we can still sext on the group text and then there are no misunderstandings or possible hurt feelings.

[Alura 2,774]

Perhaps my ancienthood gives rise to my attitude, but I think texting is usually rude, if the texter hopes to carry on an extensive conversation. I only use texting to relay information that needn't be answered, for instance, "I mailed your package today, it will arrive Friday. Tracking number is..." If I want to exchange ideas or carry on a conversation, it think it's better to invest in a telephone call. Mrs. Alura and I used to enjoy four-way conversations with our playmates, but texting was not in vogue then.

[bryonboru 60]

We exchange KIK information first, easy to keep anonymous. Once we decided the meet the guys exchange numbers and after the meet we all exchange numbers. Texting is encourages between all of us as long as it stays respectful.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . . If I want to exchange ideas or carry on a conversation, it think it's better to invest in a telephone call. . .

I feel the same. We have recently tripped over the now-changed word “talk”. An SLS member expresses interest in meeting us and includes in the message, “let’s talk.” Our reply includes a number for a mobile phone. Nobody called but about a week later a barrage of text messages begin. Sorry, that is not talk.

[N&G 207]

We use the term "voice chat" and require that the females talk before meeting. Until we know them we assume that all messages are sent by the male regardless of what gender he claims to be.

[Numex 2,416]

My wife handles the arrangements for joint endeavors. We also play on our own, her more than me. We talk about the sex we have alone usually before, but sometimes after the fact.

[kikonkrome 844]

Group chats either on Kik on on the phone. We do not really like to chat much before meeting as it can be such a time dump. Often you get guys chatting with the wife, but they never really come through with anything.

 

We have at least four longstanding group chats. It's fun 'listening in' on flirting with my wife or vice versa.

[Initwithher 40]

We started by keeping touch with people on the sites, then switched to kik then phone number was exchanged All was good, for some reason mrs started hiding& delete text, like, phone calls to a SM, when I found out that was happening I confronted my wife her response was that I had mentioned her that she was communicating with him quite often, she thought it would bother me that’s why she was deleting all her calls and text, kik messages , how would you guys react to this??

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

 

This is exactly why we don't allow girl/guy texting. Either girl/girl, guy/guy, or group only. We want to keep everything out in the open with no 'sneaking' behind anyones backs.

[Initwithher 40]

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We started by keeping touch with people on the sites, then switched to kik then phone number was exchanged All was good, for some reason mrs started hiding& delete text, like, phone calls to a SM, when I found out that was happening I confronted my wife her response was that I had mentioned her that she was communicating with him quite often, she thought it would bother me that’s why she was deleting all her calls and text, kik messages , how would you guys react to this??

 

Over the weekend she went and visited her friend SM, for 3 nights, I said ok maybe I am overreacting to situation, so I agreed, only thing I asked my wife that since she is going to be a 700 miles away just keep in touch text when you have time or call, face time, but none of that happened while she was gone 3 nights , all contacts was made by me asking if she is ok ? Or how you doing? Having a good time? She just replied to me , but she never made any initiation of calling me or texting, and I was very upset by that when I asked why you never kept in touch while you were gone?? Her response was well you told me to have a good time & relax, but I said you could have at least keep me in the loop what’s going on I said, her response was I am overreacting... is this sound right to you more experienced LS people???

Thanks an advance for your inputs

[Erik13 157]

I for one would never let my wife meet someone without me, but that's our thing. If you're ok with it then, cool. As far as her not answering/replying to you, really NOT cool. She could have at least let you know she was ok and safe.