First club visit last night

[YMNLVSDH 26]

We had a blast! Went to a LS club in OKC last night for the first time not knowing what to expect. I was thinking it would be much smaller with an older and cliquey crowd of 10-15 couples max. This place was huge and packed with 100-150 people. Great DJ, huge spread of finger foods, majorly diverse crowd. We dressed to impress and it showed. We had tons of people approach just to introduce themselves and chat. Nobody was pushy or creepy. Everyone was having fun and we felt instantly comfortable.

 

OF COURSE, our first night we ran into a couple I know from my vanilla life. ? This also happened at our first BDSM club foray in Denver. They walked up, said hi, and chatted for a bit. Neither him or her had met my wife until that time. His wife was totally into mine and came back naked later to tell her she was the hottest girl at the club and fawned over her. I thought we'd probably see someone at some point because we are pretty well known in general for vanilla life stuff but not the first night! ? It actually made the whole evening more comfortable tbh. We ended up sitting with some wives for most of the night and people watching.

 

All in all, it was an amazing night. We are looking forward to attending again at the next event in two weeks. The BYOL was awesome too. We'd have spent twice the entry fee in liquor on a normal club night. The no pressure feeling was awesome too. Usually when my wife is alone at a bar, either me going to the restroom or when she does, she has constant pressure from guys and here it was never like that or uncomfortable for even a second. We were both pleased and ready for the next one.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

It makes me feel really good to read this. May you have many happy returns.

[njbm 2,873]

Not that I am nosy, but did you play?

 

BTW, if I go to the men’s room and leave my wife at a bar, lifestyle or vanilla, she will get hit on within 60 seconds.

[YMNLVSDH 26]

Not that I am nosy, but did you play?

 

BTW, if I go to the men’s room and leave my wife at a bar, lifestyle or vanilla, she will get hit on within 60 seconds.

 

We did not. We decided beforehand that we would go and observe the first time.

 

She will get the same treatment at the LS club too but the difference is the level of respect here vs a normal club scene. Everyone knows why you're here and that she's not alone. That's taken into account I'd think vs some random trying to scheme on her at a dance club when I'm not looking. So the way I think you'd get approached here is different? Maybe I'm naive since we are new.

[Eddiem 139]

Not that I am nosy, but did you play?

 

BTW, if I go to the men’s room and leave my wife at a bar, lifestyle or vanilla, she will get hit on within 60 seconds.

 

I live the same life... if turn my back, use the bathroom and in seconds she is surrounded by guys. A luxury problem I guess. It makes finding other couples a bit easier...

[MadlyInLuv 94]

I live the same life... if turn my back, use the bathroom and in seconds she is surrounded by guys. A luxury problem I guess. It makes finding other couples a bit easier...

 

Funny vanilla story from yesterday: My wife goes to meet the principal at the school about one of our kids. He walked out into the lobby looking around and then when he saw her he was stunned. Couldn't find words for a second or two. She wasn't dressed up or anything.. I just think he was expecting a bitchy old crone from their phone conversation and instead ran into a beautiful milf. lol

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

She wasn't dressed up or anything.. I just think he was expecting a bitchy old crone from their phone conversation and instead ran into a beautiful milf. lol

 

There is a deeper truth here. It takes courage for a woman to dip her toe into the lifestyle, maybe moreso than a man. Once in, she is often shown more respect than she gets in the vanilla world. There is a gain in independence. That will change how women view themselves, carry themselves, present themselves.

 

Take a moment to observe how your wife interacts with women who are part of vanilla couples compared to the interactions with women who are part of LS couples. There are changes in the level of reserve, and in the authenticity of the interactions.

 

The LS is, in part, about embracing vulnerability. That embrace leads, perhaps paradoxically, to greater confidence in many aspects of life, vanilla and LS.