First consensual sex age

[NoAngels 334]

With all the news of sexual harassment we were discussing how old you were when you had your first sex. Not talking about abuse, talking about your first to time with a boyfriend or girlfriend. Most people we know say it was in high school. Any regrets?

[couplers 4,641]

Like doing most things for the first time in life, having sex was unfamiliar, not totally comfortable and a bit bewildering; I came, but it was underwhelming, nowhere near as good as masturbating (or getting oral or finger fucked), but intimately connecting. And like most things in life, it becomes easier and much more satisfying with practice, much better than masturbating. Having said that, I had penis-in-vagina intercourse for the first time at seventeen and believe I could/should have started much younger, with the result that sex at seventeen would have been more satisfying. The only caveat is potential for pregnancy; my Catholic parents and school never made birth control accessible, although if I knew what was coming I would have found where Planned Parenthood was and gotten my ass over there.

[padoc 1,703]

High school for me.

 

2nd year of college for Mrs Doc. She's made up for the late start since then!!

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

I was 14. My partner was a few years older than me, but not very experienced. In retrospect, the sex was fine but not fantastic. Because, fortunately, there were no consequences such as pregnancy or STDs, I suppose I have no regrets.

[EastInWest 1,524]

I was 15 when I got head for the first time, from a 16-year-old. Met my high school sweetheart when I was 16, she was 17 and we lost our virginity in a friend's apartment. We had some on-and-off times and got with other people but kept having sex for about three years. My main regret is that we didn't experiment more than we did. You feel like those early relationships are intense and they feel like they have to be a certain way, and if we had known we were just having fun like you do at that age we might have aimed for a different experience.

 

Mrs E. gave head for the first time at 14, but felt like she was going to get into trouble and stopped before he came. She ended up losing her virginity in a backseat at 17 before she tried that again. Her regret was basically listening to the nuns, wasted time.

[TricianMike 772]

Mike has told me his story. He was 16 and he went out with someone he knew was going to be willing. One of his buddies had been with her. It was in a car and not great according to him. He has never been with a virgin.

I was younger, 14. My best friend confided in me that she was with her brother’s friend. She would tell me everything they would do. I was at my friends house all the time. The big day happened when I was left alone with her brother. It was strange because I knew him as a brother not a boyfriend.

[angelkin 1,326]

I was 13, he was a couple years older. I wish I had waited for someone who really thought I was special...otherwise no regrets.

[Allen&Kendra 21]

Allen 19 - in college, GF was the same age.

Kendra 15 - in high school, BF was 17.

[Shore2Please 611]

I remember my first kiss at age 12 with tongue. A boy who touched my breast at 13. How many times did I have to push his hand away? We progressed to him unhooking my bra. He was my boyfriend for a year and he never got my pants off. Any touching was through clothes. A few times he tried. I was almost 15 had started dating an older boy, he was 16. He got to third base in about a month. On my 15th Birthday we were at his house. His parents were at work. My first time naked and seeing him naked. I chickened out going further. We dated for months and got naked together plenty but we never went all the way. I finally did it with another boy on our second date. I was not 16.

[asncpl 729]

I was 13. He was 16. It was consensual but I really didn't know what I was doing or what I wanted. And it wasn't even that much fun. It hurt, and then it was over. In hindsight, which is always 20/20, I should've waited.

[Guest]

In terms of losing my virginity, sophomore in high school, I was 15 1/2, he was 16 1/2. We pretty much fucked at least weekly for the next two years, then he went away to college. My senior year, I dated another guy but stricter my activities to hand jobs and the occasional blow job. Didn’t start intercourse again until college.

[cplnluv1 872]

I would call it begging more than consenting. I was a high school freshman she was 17. Our parents were friends and i knew her for years as a older family friend. We only saw them at family things. In HS we were both on a team and she treated me like a family friend to her friends. I was shy and younger so nice that she did that. She sometimes drove me home after practice. Sometimes my mother would pick me up at her house. My first time was with her and if you read this, it took you longer than it took me.

[anja123 22]

I was 15 and it was with a slightly older man, 40 or so, but completely consensual. Some people will immediately jump on this but it was entirely my choice, and it was great.

[larry818 58]

I was 15 and she was 13. We stayed together until just before my 18th birthday, which was handy, as what we were doing would have been illegal for the next 2 years... We split up because I was too conservative. If only I knew then what I know now...

[machiavel55 81]

I was 17, my gf 16, both virgins, we stayed 4 years together. We started right after our final exams of the Fall session. My parents had bought a house that was 10 minutes away walking from the high-school. In the Winter session (Jan. to May), she failed 5 out of 7 classes, I failed 6 out of 7....lol...both my parents worked and the house was ours from 8 am to 6 pm. It was great!

[jasrob 16]

I was 13 when I first kissed, touched and stroke a penis, he was a lot older. I had sex first time when 18 (same man).

[Shore2Please 611]

I was 13 when I first kissed, touched and stroke a penis, he was a lot older. I had sex first time when 18 (same man).

 

What did you do for 5 years?

[Ngafuntimes 23]

For me, I was 10 and she was the 14 year old daughter of family friends. She was fucking her 16 year old boyfriend so she was "experienced". She gave me my first kiss and my first blow job. And she gave me my life long passion for eating pussy. She also gave me a complete tour of her body and I can still recall the way she looked and smelled as she lay back with her legs spread encouraging me to look at and touch her. I remember asking "where do you pee from" and she showed me. Later we would even watch each other pee, something which still fascinates me.

 

 

They lived about 5 hours away so we only saw them twice per year. But every time we managed a few minutes to get our heads between each other's legs.

 

The summer I was 14 and she was 18 she told me she was going to college in the fall so we wouldn't see each other in October as usual. She said,"I am going to give you something special". That was the first time I got to fuck her or anyone.

 

The wife's first time was when she was 18 and in college. She was hooked immediately and started living by the motto, "if you're not in bed by 11:00 pm you might as well go home," She says she doesn't know for sure how many guy or girls she had between her legs over the next 4 years but it may have been as many as 100.

 

If her middle school students knew what a slut Old Mrs. Ironpants is they would die.

[jasrob 16]

good question, but I am shy

[couplers 4,641]

I was 15 and it was with a slightly older man, 40 or so, but completely consensual. Some people will immediately jump on this but it was entirely my choice, and it was great.

 

As it should be.

[kellimc 227]

Eleven.

[Pklon 62]

Eleven.

 

Wow 11 that rare, if it ok to ask, who was he to you and how old was he at the time ?

[skyguy6977 88]

14 I liked watching my gf and her bf having sex. one day I tried it and loved it.

[kellimc 227]

Wow 11 that rare, if it ok to ask, who was he to you and how old was he at the time ?

 

Looking for the juicy, salacious details, are you?

[couplers 4,641]

Looking for the juicy, salacious details, are you?

 

We all are, unless it is a sad tale, then you can tell us only if you seek support.

[couplers 4,641]

Now having daughters, I hope for two things for them - that their sex life starts earlier than mine, and that their first experiences are with other girls.

[kellimc 227]

We all are, unless it is a sad tale, then you can tell us only if you seek support.

 

It's hardly a sad tale. I wanted it and enjoyed it.

[couplers 4,641]

It's hardly a sad tale. I wanted it and enjoyed it.

As it should be, good for you. I wish that I had the knowledge to have started at least a few years earlier than I did at 17, but my background hadn't prepared me.

 

Without a doubt, there are people who sexually abuse young people, and abusers need to be stopped. But the answer is not to prevent teenagers from having all sex, a major joy in life, at a time when they are most physically ready for it. The answer is to prevent abuse, make sex possible without pressure, and on teenagers' terms.

 

A woman who I know had a two year affair with a married man while she was in high school - a professor at a university where she went to a summer accelerated academic program. She did what she did with him on her terms and ended it when she went off to collge, because she was ready to move on. Now years later she looks back on the whole thing (the seduction, the intellectual adventures, the sex) as the most exhilarating experience of her life. BTW, she now has a Ph. D., is married with three children, and yes, her husband knows. He believes it is part of what made her what she is today.

[Pklon 62]

Looking for the juicy, salacious details, are you?

 

Was just curious in asking since everyone else said who the other person was and there age of that person is. " Ngafuntimes " came out and told his age and her age about his first time. But if you choose not to i can respect that. It your choice at the end.

[ViSexual 1,008]

I was in the 5th grade the first time I saw and felt a girl's, well I don't remember what we boy's called a vagina back then. So, if it were first semester, which I believe it was, I'd have been 10. Now I remember having dreams about sex at a younger age and I know we boys talked about it a lot but, I was 10 when I first realized just how wonderful a girl could be.

There was one girl who was just a little more daring than the others. I don't know if it were just wanting the attention from us boys or what. I remember even in the 4th grade that, if she caught you looking her way in class, she'd hike up her skirt and show you her panties. Now I, honestly, figured she did that with all the boys.

OK, no need to hide names, hers is Toni.

Toni's best friend was Nina. I was behind them in line at the water fountain that day. I believe they were intentionally talking loud enough for me to hear them...

"You remember me telling you about my cousins"? I remember Toni grinning as she spoke.

"You mean the ones who are naughty with each other"? Nina nodded her head that she did remember.

"Well", Tony pretended to talk in a quieter voice but didn't, "they fucked last weekend."

"Really?" Nina seemed surprised and looked a little flushed in the face.

"Really!" Tony beamed as she told Nina how her two cousins, our ages, had used Vaseline and fucked.

"I don't think I'd do anything like that," Nina paused, "are you sure?"

"They wouldn't lie to me," Tony added, "I think I'd do it," Tony was between me and Nina and she turned to me, "would you?"

I was almost in shock listening to these two young girls that I'd known for several years. I had sort of felt like I was simply eaves dropping on a surprising conversation. But I was suddenly drawn right into it.

"I'd fuck a girl is she asked me." I remember saying it and, after, wondering just how the words came from my brain to my mouth. Both girls stopped talking, got their drinks from the fountain, and returned to their seats. I don't remember if I took my turn at the fountain or just went back to my seat but I do remember feeling like I needed to sit down.

The classroom was now quiet except for the teacher talking. I have no clue what she was talking about.

The person in front of me reached back with a note. I took it and noticed that the name on the outside of the folded paper was, Mike. I looked around and noticed that Toni was watching me closely as I opened it.

"You said that you'd fuck a girl if she asked you. Would you fuck me?"

So, there I sat with a document in my trembling hands that offered me the chance to fulfill my greatest fantasy.

I think I must have smiled but can't be sure. I just looked at Toni and nodded yes.

That was probably not long before the afternoon recess. At recess, Toni and I, found a private area in the playground and discussed where and when.

Most of the grade schools in town were beside city parks and ours was one. The Air Force had donated an old airplane and the fire department had donated an old fire truck for the park. Both had been vandalized and looted but they were still there.

The fire truck was one that was for transporting the firemen. It had a cockpit up front and two aisles behind that two rows of firemen would stand in during transport. Well, the floors of those two aisles were gone so you could stand on the ground, but still be in between the two walls on each side. We decided to meet at the fire truck after school that day.

I have no idea how experienced Toni was at these things but I was nervous as hell. It may have only been an hour more of class but it seemed an eternity.

When the bell rang, I walked after Toni when we left the classroom. She looked back at me, grinned, and took off running. I chased her. We played chase for some time before she finally let me catch her. I remember us falling down in some high grass when I did catch her and I fell on top. If I'd have known how, I'd have kissed her.

We headed for that fire truck. I don't think we said a word.

Toni climbed into the right side of the transport aisle and I climbed into the left. We were standing and the divider came to about our waists so neither of us could see anything but our bodies from the waist down.

I just simply didn't know what I should do or if I was allowed to do anything. I noticed Toni's hand reaching for my zipper. I felt the pressure of her fingers on my groin and felt my young penis aching to get out of it's confinement. So, I reached down with trembling hands and unzipped, unsnapped and let my jeans and underwear slip down to my thighs.

Toni's hands touched my hard, naked, penis and testicles and it felt wonderful. I'll always remember that very first wonderful. I remember wondering why I had waited 10 years for this wonderful. I thought that there couldn't possibly be anything in life more wonderful than these soft hands on me.

Toni released me and pulled her skirt up and slipped her panties down.

There it was! I had always wondered what it would look like and it was beautiful. Now I do recall there being no hair, and I had already grown some, but it was just simply the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen.

I remember wanting to touch it but didn't know if I was allowed. But then I thought, 'she touched mine', so I did,

It was so smooth and soft. I don't know for sure how long we stood there exploring each other but I was in heaven. I reached around and squeezed her soft, yet firm, butt and then came back to the very soft flesh that was on each side of her opening. I tried to enter her opening but it was too tight. She was pushing against my finger like she wanted me in her but, it was just too tight and I didn't want to do anything that might harm her or cause her to pull away.

I have no idea how long we stood there enjoying each other's wonderful private parts.

But eventually we both pulled up our clothes and climbed out of the pleasure chambers we'd been standing in. I remember asking Toni if we were going to also fuck another time and she said that she didn't think she was ready for that yet. We were too young to date so we really didn't have a method of continuing that relationship. We remained friends through Junior High and High School but we never dated. I have no idea why. But I'll always, always, remember that wonderful day that I first experienced something that I've held above everything, including adventure, of my life.

I was 10 years old. I had gone 10 long years before finally finding out the greatest source of pleasure in my life. I'm now 70 and about to turn 71. It will be 7 years in two months since I've had the wonderful pleasure of touching, smelling, or tasting a female's greatest gift to man.

My wife mentioned the other day that we're just three years away from our 50th anniversary. I'm sure she's thinking about all of the praise and admiration that a couple receives on the Golden Anniversary.

But my thoughts are that I went 10 years without knowing what wondrous pleasures reside in a female's panties. And, in three years I'll have gone longer than ever before.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

She was thirteen. I was fifteen.

[Playman64 205]

First time I had intercourse was 6th or 7th grade. First bj I got was Jr. High. 
My first threesome I was 19 or 20 in the Air Force. 

[let's do it again 414]

I was 19, she was 17 in the back seat of my Monte Carlo in the parking lot of a golf course November 1979.

[couplers 4,641]

On 12/6/2022 at 1:33 PM, let's do it again said:

I was 19, she was 17 in the back seat of my Monte Carlo in the parking lot of a golf course November 1979.

Reminds me of what the main character in the movie Gattaca says, "I was conceived in the Riviera.  Not the French Riviera, a Buick Riviera."

[couplers 4,641]

On 5/12/2023 at 11:37 AM, generouswife said:

12, no regrets.

Once again, I admire you.  You had your shit together at an early age and enjoyed it.

 

I wish that I had started much sooner (thinking of all that I  missed), but although curious and understanding the realities of life, my strict family and schooling (Catholic) kept me in place.

 

The only other piece of becoming sexual active earlier would be getting to Planned Parenthood by public transportation.

 

And quite frankly, I think that the men in our family, husband David and boyfriend Red, would have been attracted to and love me more had I been, as you said elsewhere, that kind of girl.

Edited May 20, 2023 by couplers

[Half MT 226]

On 5/20/2023 at 11:26 AM, couplers said:

I wish that I had started much sooner

Me too! All the reasons I stayed a virgin, saving myself for marriage were ridiculous. I was a healthy curious girl just like all my friends and nothing horrible happened to them except the one girl in HS who became pregnant. I so wanted to do more after having a boyfriend touch my breasts and feeling something strange happen to me. I have hysterical laughs thinking about “grinding” and him having a wet spot that he tried to hide. Or the time he let me use my hand but made him stop when he felt me. 
Different boyfriend who was the first to have me really see his penis and my first blow job. Still saving myself. 
I lost out on all the fun I know others had. I now feel it was all for no reason. 

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

The question arises whether sex can be consensual if one/both of the participants is below the legal age for consent. 

[Half MT 226]

27 minutes ago, Fundamental Law said:

The question arises whether sex can be consensual if one/both of the participants is below the legal age for consent. 

Legal age was never a thought when you are both teens. My body said one thing, my mind said another and guilt said another. What would people say I now say how would they know. I think most women remember the feeling the first time they kissed and who that was. Why I didn’t stop him from touching my breasts but stopped him from going further that first time. I know now foolishly that I was afraid of losing my boyfriend. Funny we broke up after going further, I was happy we didn’t go all the way. 
Legally, as you brought it up, neither of us we legal, I wonder when I became legal. Is it 16? 18?  I was told oral sex is still illegal in many areas at any age. 

[couplers 4,641]

22 hours ago, Half MT said:

All the reasons I stayed a virgin, saving myself for marriage were ridiculous.

Indeed.  What exactly is being "saved?"  It's not like it's being used up or going away, that's what it's there for.  There's nothing else in where you meet someone in life to engage in an activity and wished they didn't know what they were doing.

 

20 hours ago, Half MT said:

I wonder when I became legal. Is it 16? 18?

That's another entire crazy question which depends on where you are, the age difference, if you traveled from one jurisdiction to another...

 

I've told the story before of a girl in our high school who was selected to attend college classes.  She did very well, including having an affair with a professor that continued through high school.  She thought boys her age were immature and uninteresting.  She knew what she was doing and looks back on it as a wonderful experience.  She's happily married now, kids, and her husband knows.

 

And younger me totally missed out on experience with other girls.

 

Edited July 21 by couplers