Counting down to our first planned orgy!

[Newcouple17 101]

After a lot of debate we've decided to go ahead with meeting 3 other couples at a hotel this Friday evening for the weekend. Theres been a fair bit of suggestion as to how the others want to proceed. We've been clear that we're going and we'll see how things go, but as far as we're concerned we're going with the opinion that we'll be sleeping with all all 3 of the other couples over the weekend.

Our last unplanned multiple couple adventures didn't go as we would have liked and both of our nerves are extremely high. The other couples seem nice and we've been chatting via various methods over the last little while and we've agreed that we're both happy so far.

We hadn't planned on meeting more than 1 couple at a time, but I guess things change?

Well basically as the weekend is getting closer we're beginning to wonder how its actually going to work......I mean 8 people together, unless everyone swaps and goes to various rooms?

Any ideas or suggestions for us to get the most out of the weekend?

[adamgunn 1,460]

Just go with the flow. Have few expectations going in (other than having fun,) and see what develops. Just make sure you don't violate any rules you have as a couple.

 

It'll be fine!

[Newcouple17 101]

Just go with the flow. Have few expectations going in (other than having fun,) and see what develops. Just make sure you don't violate any rules you have as a couple.

 

It'll be fine!

 

Yes we're trying to just go with the flow, but we're finding it hard as we usually plan everything! lol

As far as our rules go....there evolving?

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Rules usually evolve, this is normal. They are usually set at a point where someone is concerned that there could be a problem...but all too often when you get there you find out it really isn't a problem. Just remember, do not change the rules when you are in a situation. Discuss rule changes in a non-sexual environment with just the two of you. Oh, and even if you could plan this, it almost always goes off script as soon as it starts. Have fun and let us know how things went for you both. Good luck.

[Newcouple17 101]

Rules usually evolve, this is normal. They are usually set at a point where someone is concerned that there could be a problem...but all too often when you get there you find out it really isn't a problem. Just remember, do not change the rules when you are in a situation. Discuss rule changes in a non-sexual environment with just the two of you. Oh, and even if you could plan this, it almost always goes off script as soon as it starts. Have fun and let us know how things went for you both. Good luck.

 

Yes we're both usually very organised and like having lists, so this is throwing us a fair bit! lol

Yes I'm aware that I probably don't give the required feedback after the event.

[Judy39 145]

You might have this covered already, but in a larger group like this I would like to know if people are planning on taking drugs.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

You might have this covered already, but in a larger group like this I would like to know if people are planning on taking drugs.

In fifteen years of lifestyle activity, I've never seen it.

[Newcouple17 101]

You might have this covered already, but in a larger group like this I would like to know if people are planning on taking drugs.

 

Drugs......I wasn't expecting anyone to be taking drugs??

[Judy39 145]

Drugs......I wasn't expecting anyone to be taking drugs??

With so many people involved it wouldn't hurt to establish that that's actually the case. A bit like with condoms, most people assume that safe sex is the norm, but it's always worth mentioning it explicitly if for you that's a non negotiable rule.

[Newcouple17 101]

With so many people involved it wouldn't hurt to establish that that's actually the case. A bit like with condoms, most people assume that safe sex is the norm, but it's always worth mentioning it explicitly if for you that's a non negotiable rule.

 

Condoms are most definitely our rule!

We hadn't thought people might take drugs at a meeting?

[lcmim 1,082]

Condoms are most definitely our rule!

We hadn't thought people might take drugs at a meeting?

 

I am thinking the drugs in question could be Viagra and Cialis?

[Baconheads 432]

So what are your rules going in?

[Guest]

Just remember the most important rule, have fun.

[Newcouple17 101]

I am thinking the drugs in question could be Viagra and Cialis?

 

Oh....no ones mentioned taking anything like that.

Now I'm wondering??

[Newcouple17 101]

So what are your rules going in?

 

This time....take time to ourselves and make sure we communicate throughout the weekend.

[Newcouple17 101]

Just remember the most important rule, have fun.

 

Wow the nerves are really starting to kick in today!!!

I know it will be fun once we get there!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Deep breath and no pressure. IF anything happens, then just go with it. If you put pressure on either of you, then it becomes less fun and more work. Go and have a good time and then go home. Instead of pressure or nerves, think antici...pation and excitement. Also realize that during and afterwards, your brain will most likely be telling you that this isn't happening when in fact it is. Just live in and enjoy the moment of spending time with someone you love.

[Newcouple17 101]

Deep breath and no pressure. IF anything happens, then just go with it. If you put pressure on either of you, then it becomes less fun and more work. Go and have a good time and then go home. Instead of pressure or nerves, think antici...pation and excitement. Also realize that during and afterwards, your brain will most likely be telling you that this isn't happening when in fact it is. Just live in and enjoy the moment of spending time with someone you love.

 

Yes, but its easier said than done! lol

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

...and its so easy to say on this side of the screen. It will be fine no matter what happens (even if that is nothing). Just realize that you two are facing something that 99% of the rest of the world either wouldn't do (but probably wishes they could) or have a strong enough relationship to be able to do. It will be okay. Have fun!

[Newcouple17 101]

...and its so easy to say on this side of the screen. It will be fine no matter what happens (even if that is nothing). Just realize that you two are facing something that 99% of the rest of the world either wouldn't do (but probably wishes they could) or have a strong enough relationship to be able to do. It will be okay. Have fun!

 

Yes most things are easier if you only talk about doing them!

Well we're packed and virtually ready to head off.......

[Newcouple17 101]

Well, box well and truly ticked!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Umm, details? Photos? Video?

 

Waiting to hear the follow up but congrats in the mean time.

[Baconheads 432]

Well, box well and truly ticked!

 

Sorry, I'm kind of thick sometimes.... I don't get it

[MadlyInLuv 94]

Sorry, I'm kind of thick sometimes.... I don't get it

 

I'm a bit thick too, but I *think* it means it went well..... :p

 

I'm a little weirded out that we haven't heard back from them after this initial report.

[lcmim 1,082]

For decent reportage perhaps a week or so to digest what happened?

[MadlyInLuv 94]

Anyone else wondering what happened here? I was anticipating a full report or at least a summary. The OP disappeared instead!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

They haven't been back since 3am on the 18th (later that night?). Maybe it was so great, they are still in a coma from the event...

[MadlyInLuv 94]

They haven't been back since 3am on the 18th (later that night?). Maybe it was so great, they are still in a coma from the event...

 

I certainly hope it was that and not some sort of negative blow-up afterwards!