Do you use alias names for swinging?

[jcbicouple 24]

We were just wondering how many couples, and singles for that matter, use their real names?

 

We do, but have met a few people who do not. We have also met people who use an alias while on the internet but have told us their real names once we met in person. We don't have any issues with this. Just curious as to how popular using an alias name is. It wouldn't work for us, we would forget which name we were supposed to be using! LOL!

[Lorrie 21]

I use my real nickname. My real name sounds too formal....

 

I don't understand why people use an alias. How would people know you are actually using your real first name anyway? Even if you told people you are using your real name, many would probably think you are lying.

 

Maybe Lorrie isn't my real nickname after all.

[Dani&Drew 15]

We don't use our real names online, but we give them out on meeting or talking with more interest. We do use variations on our middle names.

 

Kind of funny to do that when we have our real faces up

[jcbicouple 24]

 

We have said that before too.....Who would know?

 

We were really referring to the name you use in everyday life, not full proper name or log in name on the groups. We met one couple who appeared to be very comfortable with their alias names. They did tell us that they were not their real names, but we would have never guessed. We, on the other hand, would appear to be ignoring each other (and the other couple) all night long because we'd forget to answer to our alias!

[sexypairca 41]

We use our real names, never really considered using anything else. Met many couples that don't use their real names until meeting in person though.

[OhioCouple 40]

We no longer use our real names online, however we do give them to people that we feel comfortable with doing so. Using our real names presented some problems and we have spent the better part of the year trying to change that. I've no problem using them privately with those that I have grown to trust, however, to have them in print on the web and a simple search turns them up, is not what we want to do again.

 

Lessons learned the hard way, however our lessons learned involved children and business associates.

[leftcoastcouple 32]

What a great thread--thanks for asking this!

 

Not having ventured further than posting a couple of ads and exhanging emails with those who've responded--but knowing we wanted to remain anonymous until we meet potential partners we're comfortable with--we've used variations on our middle names thus far, with the intention of providing our real ones once we're ready to play.

 

Even doing that, we've already run into a couple with kids in our kid's school, which for us and them was too close for comfort. PTA meetings and soccer games would never be the same, you know?

 

Our concern, however, has been whether giving fake names during our search might lessen our credibility with potential partners and give them reason not to trust us overall. But judging by the early results here, we're obviously not the only ones doing it, which is a big relief!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I've always used my real name. I have a hard enough time remembering other people's names without having to try to remember mine.

 

We met a guy several years back tho that after he had been hanging with us for a few weeks told us that he was using an alias name... and he finally told us his real name.

[EternallySingle 32]

Well, no fear of using my real name when meeting people. I actually expect women and couples I meet, especially online, to use an alias, though. It doesn't bother me as long as they are honest about who they are.

[Bama0468 93]

Wife and I use our real names, well real nicks anyhow, but still. We have met couples that used aliases, but told us the real names when we met.

[frenzb4sex 15]

We always use our names....We figure if someone comes up to us and says--HEY, we saw you on such and such site, we'll say---OH YEAH, and what were YOU doing on there???

[NorCal Nites 15]

Amazingly, although both of us have slightly out of the ordinary names, (Larren and Sonya) we do use our real names online in our ads. Hey, if you're looking in those ads, then YOU are there, too!

 

HOWEVER... on chat programs, due to the danger of someone that we might know coming across a chat messenger profile that says all the wrong things, knowing that it's us... we'd rather use an Alias... usually just "Chris" (part of my middle name). This way, if someone online is hunting for our phone number or something to call us (whitepages), they won't "accidentally" run across 45 chat profiles about swinging.

[NotsoNew 17]

We use our real names when we meet or get serious about meeting a couple. When we first start on-line inital contact, we usually use initals until the second contact, than it is real names.

 

In person, it is always real names.

[anandjeff2 15]

We use parts of our real names. Both of us have unusual not run of the mill names so they are pretty recognizable if used together online and we prefer online discretion.

[Alura 2,774]

If y'all hadn't guessed, "Alura" is not our real name. Those of you who have met us, though, know our real names.

[LadyCleo 16]

Originally posted by newbies123

We use our real names when we meet or get serious about meeting a couple. When we first start on-line inital contact, we usually use initals until the second contact, than it is real names.

 

In person, it is always real names.

 

Ditto. That is EXACTLY what we do too!

[BradAndJanet 70]

Just for the record, I'm not Brad and she's not Janet

 

We do use our real names when we meet people and with those we get to know well online.

[Brit_Pair 62]

Just for the record, I'm not Brit and she's not Pair.

 

Or vice versa, for that matter.

 

Actually, we usually tell new couples that our names are Bill and Hillary, and see what - if anything - happens next.

 

[Avantgarden38 18]

One of the first couples we met swinging gave us fake names.

 

They also sent us ten-year-old photos of him.

 

They also wouldn't send face pics of her. They said she was "shy". She wasn't "shy". . . she was just . . . well . . ."not attractive" (at all).

 

They also lead us to belive they were married. They were not. They weren't even in a relationship, they were fuck buddies scoping on new swinger couples.

 

Many times we told them we would meet them for JUST lunch. They didn't eat lunch, they just pressured us the whole meal to go to the hotel across the street.

 

Every time we meet a couple with fake names we think of that couple. Not a good way to start a relationship, with a lie.

 

We do understand the valid reasons behind some name changes though, so don't flame us for that. Just our story.

[ionsawmill 86]

We use one nickname for us as a couple. We also have individual nicknames. If we meet someone in person, they get our real first names. Maybe our middle names, because we both have pretty uncommon first names.

 

If they can figure out the significance of IonSawmill, they get something special. We haven't figured out what it might be, but it will be special.

 

We started out as the Ecklebergs (T.J. and D.J.), but nobody got the literary reference anyway. Besides, Wifey didn't like it.

[mrs good times 73]

We always use our real names in person, our initials on emails and of course "good times" is just our frame of mind.

[ALilOEverything 901]

Upon initial contact in email we use our first initials. Once we know everyone is interested in learning more about each other then we use our real first name. I never really thought about using an alias, our names are very plain and common and wouldn't ring any bells with anyone.

[fredandwilma200 16]

Husband and I always use our real names! However, have considered using other names. We NEVER give out our last names...We have been asked before. My answer to that is that we dont give it out due to discreetness. We would never ask...so we dont tell....To me....there is no reason to know someones last name unless you are very close and continue to play or have "outside bed fun" as in family stuff....then to me its no big deal.

[Randalls_angel 16]

We use a mix of real and alias online, but when we meet in person we use our real names. Believe it or not, my name really isn't angel--that's just more of a description!!

~angel~

[magnum 78]

jcbicouple said:

We were just wondering how many couples, and singles for that matter, use their real names?

We do, but have met a few people who do not. We have also met people who use an alias while on the internet but have told us their real names once we met in person. We don't have any issues with this. Just curious as to how popular using an alias name is. It wouldn't work for us; We would forget which name we were supposed to be using! " LOL!

 

I use an alias on-line and I use my real name when I meet people/couples to play.

[Guest Mr&Mrs-naughty]

We ALWAYS use our real names. If someone sends us a message and we are interested and reply we sign it with our names. To us there is just something wrong with not using our real names. We are being honest with them and we expect the same in return. If we finally met a couple after chatting for a while and they tell us "By the way our real names are......."

 

It would be a dealbreaker.

 

Actually I think we would just get up and walk out.

 

It is just the way we look at it.

[Jamie&Kieth 36]

We use fake names in the internet simply because both my husband & I teach and he is also a high school coach. With kids these days along with the adults too cruising the internet you never know.

 

Last year we were down in St. Martin at Orient Beach, yes our kids were there too. We met a coulple whose kids I teach, there children were not there. Well the two of them were HORRIFIED that we as a family went to a nude beach. When we got stateside the parents actually tried to get me fired ... oh the things they said about our family.

[Paphian 16]

Even though I chose this answer: "We (I) use an alias for the internet, but tell people our real ones when we meet." I wouldn't call what I use here an "alias". Just a "screen name" for use on the board.

 

As far as names (and other things) in communication, Internet or otherwise, I've always figured it's best to be honest and up-front. Saves having lots of trouble later.

[HappyPeople 17]

He uses his real name and I use my commonly used nick name. My real name is only used by my workmates and family.

[twoferfun69 15]

Same here Paphian. Just a screen name, but in any emails we use real first names only. Protection to start, from the crazies. The way we figure it, those that are here have the same need for discretion as we, so we don't even block out our faces on the pic. Here, anyway. On AFF, the profile pic is covered, but when we communicate with someone, they get the real one.

[Kim N Jason 15]

We use alias names until we feel comfortable with people, which is usually right before we meet.

 

We've used the same names for years we'd probably answer to them if called.

[Menage_a_Trois 182]

We always use our real names, altjhough for the most part we just give out our first names until we really get to know people. Most of the people we know do the same as well. Although I suppose some of them could be using an alias and we won't know it.

[Pepper & Drew 384]

We use an alias here, but when we contact people online, we use our real names. On the board, we do that for two reasons: 1) You never know what looky-loos are just dropping by and 2) if we want to talk about something that happened with a couple we met, etc, it wouldn't be as obvious who we were talking about.

 

And besides, I like Pepper. Hot & black.....

 

Pepper

[RenoFantasy 15]

Obviously not as our handle, but always our real names when corresponding with others on boards.

[twoferfun69 15]

Same here Paphian. Just a screen name, but in any emails we use real first names only. Protection to start, from the crazies. The way we figure it, those that are here have the same need for discretion as we, so we don't even block out our faces on the pic. Here, anyway. On AFF, the profile pic is covered, but when we communicate with someone, they get the real one.

 

Weeeellllllllll, I have to revise that one. Mrs apparently works with someone who is a swinger, but she would be very uncomfortable if he were to approach her about it. So, we decided to just reserve pics for emails, etc.

[VanHlebar 187]

Well we use our "screen names" here and in most of our stuff at the ad sites. When we send out emails to potential dates or when responding back we usually use our real first names.

 

It's funny that I found this because on our first date out with a couple, MrsVan was having a hard time remembering their names. So when we meet up with them, I again introduced us to the couple and when I was shaking the ladies hand she blurted out her real name and not her alias. So then they laughed and explained what they do on the sites and it sparked a nice little conversation to break the ice. MrsVan had a bit of difficulty getting the names straight for the evening but all was fine. I can't imagine just getting up and heading out because they used an alias. What a missed opportunity that would have been.

 

 

twoferfun69 said:

Weeeellllllllll, I have to revise that one. Mrs apparently works with someone who is a swinger, but she would be very uncomfortable if he were to approach her about it. So, we decided to just reserve pics for emails, etc.

 

This used to be one of my biggest concerns.. but now for me it is, screw it.. I have enough things to stress over in life and I just couldn't add another one to the list.

[danni654 16]

JustAskJulie said:

We met a guy several years back tho that after he had been hanging with us for a few weeks told us that he was using an alias name... and he finally told us his real name.

 

Funny...we know many people that we play with that have alter egos...so their alias is their "swinger" persona. It works! Kinda of like having a porn-star name!

 

[OurMrsReynolds 16]

I had never actually thought about having an alias before. But now that I've read this thread, I would seriously consider it. The Mr. and I both have very common names (and we never share our last names) so it never really bothered us to use our names online, but for safety reasons and even the "alterna personae" perspective: it sounds like a good idea. I might have to have a chat with him about that tonight when he gets home from work :]

[Amanda69 24]

Real names always not sure why I would use something else when you already have a nic as well. Multiple layers of intrigue is not our style.

[GerdOEvert 51]

Never use real names in a posting. Purposely disguise. In a small town it would be like a red flag. In a large metro area it could be easy to spot.

 

When we meet couples we enjoy, they know us by our first names, and we exchange phone numbers. One thing attractive about a large metro area is that we had a large club for many years, until it burned down, and we could and did meet couples there.

 

I would no more post a complete and accurate name and location, than I would post my SSN.

[2jersey 16]

We always use our real names. But when anyone asks us if they are our real names, we lie.

[The Fuse 1,012]

We haven't used fake names. Occasionally we'll use first initials. Once we've established mutual interest, we use our real names.

 

One of the first couples we met were extremely cautious newbies. Before meeting, we exchanged a lot of email using first names. It took me several messages, but I realized their names ("Jake" and "Ryan") might not be real.... okay, I might have seen a TV commercial for Sixteen Candles and realized it... I can be slow.

 

It turned out that Jake and Ryan weren't their real names, but it wasn't a Sixteen Candles reference. Just names they liked. They weren't messing with us, either. What are the odds of that?

[2jersey 16]

This thread reminds us of a strange thing that happened to us.

 

We had drinks with a couple. When the check came, Mr 2jersey placed his charge card on the check. The other male reached over and picked up the card, read it, and commented on our last name.

 

We're not interested in knowing people's last names - but some people apparently are - for whatever reason...

[TeamSoBe 36]

My wife goes by a nickname around friends and swingers. Not really an "alias". She doesn't hide her real name if anybody is curious.

[Darkblue 55]

We don't use nicks but we don't tell anyone our second names until we know who we are dealing with!! Better safe than sorry!

[discoandvyper 15]

We use our username on the internet, but when/if we meet in person we use our real names. We don't give our last name unless it's asked for, which isn't often. There's no real need.

 

Disco is the lady, and Vyper is the male. Points to anyone who can tell us wher his Hiper Vyper nickname came from.

[Tybee Swing 286]

Online, we use first initials for the profile and emailing. At the point of being comfortable with them, typically just before meeting them, we give our real first names. We avoid giving out our last name even after we get to know them. People ask sometimes, and personally, I think it's rude of them to ask. Why do they need to know?

 

Alias': We've met many people who use completely different first names. I find it weird. They carry on for the entire getting-to-know-you stages as say, "Vanessa and Steve". You have their names engraved in your mind. We've seen all sorts of intimate and face photos by now of Vanessa and Steve, we know some details about them, and we associate these people with these names. Then one day after we meet, they tell us they're really "Susan and Bob". It's hard to reprogram the mind to this! I hate it. LOL

[Chip_n_Muffy 16]

Chip and Muffy is so transparent as an alias, yet we have met people that actually thought that was our real names. Go figure.

[MissMaryPA 15]

Mary IS my real name.....but not MissMary :-)

[2GirlsGoodBenBa 16]

When chatting online with someone we'll use our first initial to indicate who someone is exchanging messages with. We often use our real first name when we have become acquainted with someone. And, for contact we always use cell phones rather than our home numbers. Maybe we should come up with good aliases to use but we would slip and say the wrong thing--we've tried it before lol