Age gap couple

[Mikep 16]

We are a couple m 26 f 47 and we're wondering if the age difference is a huge turn off for people. What do you all think?

[robaval 220]

Rob is 56 and I am 35 with a 20 year and 3 month age difference. We definitely have had troubles connecting with couples at times when the other couple are about the same ages. With 55-55 age couples, the women seem to be threatened (?) by me and the men Rob's age can be pushy to get going with the sex. Rob thinks younger women my again can be concerned that he is their father's age and are turned off. We have better success with couples who in their 40's to split ages between Rob's and mine. It's more difficult than we ever thought it would be for two couples (4 people) to all connect and get along with each other in the lifestyle. Julie

[Judy39 145]

Finding a couple who would be attracted to both of you would be difficult but you could go for threesomes, whilst still looking for that perfect couple.

[njbm 2,877]

I think it is equally difficult for any couple with a big characteristic disparity. For example, one spouse in shape, one out of shape, one attractive, the other not so much.

 

The threesome idea works, but it is limited. Most people want new strange, so if you are a man and you have a MFM, you are still doing your wife. You can do that without the other guy. Same for FMF.

[2NoLimit 95]

It's more difficult than we ever thought it would be for two couples (4 people) to all connect and get along with each other in the lifestyle. Julie

 

SDC has a group called “Age up, Age Down” You can socialize and meet with couples with about the same age gap as you both have.

[robaval 220]

We find that splitting the differences in our ages and watching for mid 40's couples occasionally works for us. MFM is too easy to arrange with new men, so it seems so we vary rarely swing that way as it is too difficult too check the man out reliably. FMF is really difficult to arrange, as meeting a single new women has not worked for us. The exceptions are that we have 3 couples we are long term good friends with. If one 1/2 a couple is out of town, etc., the other couples will invite the single for MFM or FMF if going out.

 

Rob is a professional but has outside jobs that keep him really active. I have good coffee shop managers so with a bit of notice, I try to travel with him as entertainment director and entertainment. He run/jogs 4 days a week (outside routes in good weather and on the machines in bad) and does weight training 3 days of the week, so He's is in better physical shape than most men we know. He always mumbles something about using it or losing it, so he uses it a lot (LOL). Going to a couple of lifestyle clubs and clothes optional resorts, liking them and then returning much more often did result in both Rob and I upping our games with regard to being in shape, watching diets, tanning, etc. Julie

[Mikep 16]

Thank you for all the input everyone! I can't argue with Rob haha you have to use it before you lose it! We're most interested in couple's so it's nice to hear about there being an age gap feature on sdc thanks for that 2nolimit!

[Mikep 16]

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get started with swinging? Is it better to first go to a swinger resort, set up something from a lifestyle site or Craigslist or is there a better way to ease in? Sometimes I think jumping in the deep end can be good too what does everyone think?

[luv2was 117]

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get started with swinging?....

I think if you spend enough time here (this question gets asked fairly often) you will likely find that private parties are the best bet, but an invitation can be difficult to come by. Swing Clubs, Resorts, and Hotel Takeovers are all excellent alternatives, especially if going as an M/F couple. Just be sure to do your homework first, before going. Cruises can be a good choice, but again, do your research. There is literally no way out if you get there and do not like it. (Stuck on a boat for x# days.)

 

Some people like online sites like SLS, SDC, etc. (SLS is excellent for club listings, BTW.) There are so many to webs to choose from (for posting a profile), it can get a bit overwhelming in the beginning. Again, find out if they have a focus that suits you. ... Some people think online sites are a colossal waste of time. So YMMV on that one.

 

Patience goes a long way in the LS. Like most everything else, you typically get out of it what you put into it (energy-wise). It is a lot more fun telling good stories however, as opposed to the opposite.

 

As for an education, or a better understanding of the Swing Lifestyle, this BBS is better than anything I know of.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get started with swinging? Is it better to first go to a swinger resort, set up something from a lifestyle site or Craigslist or is there a better way to ease in? Sometimes I think jumping in the deep end can be good too what does everyone think?

1) Friends don't let friends use Craig's List. CL will frustrate you with it's 10,000 to 1 ratio of flake advertisers to earnest advertisers.

2. Going to a few meet-n-greet events is a good way to meet and talk to swingers in a no-pressure social setting.

3. I would typically recommend a party at a swingers' club but conversations here at swingers board hint strongly that the clubs in Arizona are not very good clubs.

 

I hope this helps.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

We are a couple m 26 f 47 and we're wondering if the age difference is a huge turn off for people. What do you all think?

We meet couples who have a wide separation in years. The probability of an initial meeting leading into a long-term relationship seems no better or no worse than for couples who are not separated in years.

[Shore2Please 612]

There are young 45 year olds and mature 25 year olds. That said, I say it would not be something we would look for.

[Mikep 16]

Thanks for all the advice! It sounds like finding a local group will be the best bet! Thanks for you view shore2please. You totally describe us I'm an old 26 year old and she's a young 47 and I completely understand that were not a couple that people will generally seek out.

[jasrob 16]

We are a newly formed age gap couple, you know what I mean, and have known each other a long time, since he is a naturist and I am broad up like one. He has been swinging for a long time (with his former wife) and suggested I should join in as well. We went on a sauna weekend with his swing friends (only) and I felt that some of the women did not accept me due to my age. Can I do something? Any who has any experience I can benefit from??

[Maybe 23]

Rob is 56 and I am 35 with a 20 year and 3 month age difference. We definitely have had troubles connecting with couples at times when the other couple are about the same ages. With 55-55 age couples, the women seem to be threatened (?) by me and the men Rob's age can be pushy to get going with the sex. Rob thinks younger women my again can be concerned that he is their father's age and are turned off. We have better success with couples who in their 40's to split ages between Rob's and mine. It's more difficult than we ever thought it would be for two couples (4 people) to all connect and get along with each other in the lifestyle. Julie

 

This is an interesting subject to me that I just came across.

 

FWIW, You guys are exactly the same age gap (and ages) as my wife and I. We are still looking at attending our first club in the next few months (I had a recent surgery from a sports accident which has delayed things). At this point, we are just curious more than anything and this is something on our bucket list to try. We are both open minded about the possibility of sharing, but only in the right situation. Neither of us are one-night stand type of individuals. We have to get to know someone first.

 

Our age gap is one of my biggest concerns. I can see walking into a club and immediately getting judged based on our age gap. I think the best case would occur where the other wife was bi and somewhat interested in my wife. My wife is technically not bi. But, she is open minded and would play out any situation if it is the right environment.

[Judy39 145]

You will likely come across invitations to play with just one of you, think what you're gonna do with those.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Age, or a couple with an age difference, doesn't matter to me

[hvymtltrukr 15]

As long as everyone feels safe, secure, and comfortable all is good. Age is only a number and if everyone can communicate and feel good what difference does it make. We enjoy socializing w/ couples and singles or all ages.

[Mnlady 15]

I think Its fantastic.. I like much younger guys myself

[Dremel54 19]

Hi!

 

I don’t think it would be a problem honestly. Hubby is 42 and I am 29, and we have not ever had a problem.

 

—Em

[escapingthenorm 15]

It's a turn on for me. We've got a gap between us as well