Where To Get Started?

[OutOfPractice 15]

We (37/F & 48/M) are looking at slowly joining the LS, but not sure really where to start. I (37/F) used to be in, but always played as a single (was single, wasn't cheating or anything) and met people through chat rooms/friends of friends. I've moved 1400 miles away, so I don't have friends still in the community or anything.

 

With that said, we're both introverts and just aren't comfortable with the idea of going to a club to meet other likeminded adults. Neither of us have played as part of a couple before & while we're both very into the whole idea, we're overwhelmed by all of the swingers sites & won't even get started on the things seen on CL. (Instantly saw why people here have recommended avoiding it like the plague.)

 

So yeah, that's where we are & would be so appreciative for input! TIA

[njbm 2,877]

Join SLS or SDC. Find a meet and greet or house party and see how it goes. Or meet a couple for vanilla drinks or dinner. You can set up a play date later. Or go to a club with the thought you will play with each other. Someone could approach you.

[magnum 78]

I would recommend going to a meet and greet at a bar, or restaurant. Network with people you trust that are in the LS to find meet and greets. Good luck.

[OutOfPractice 15]

That's part of the problem - neither of us know anyone in the LS anymore & we're new to the area. Thanks for the response though!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Join SLS or SDC or whatever site has the most people in your area (top of page on menu bar: Find Swingers). Create a profile, ADD PICTURES (pictures are a must) and start looking. Don't waste time with too many emails and texting, set up a vanilla meeting sooner than later (let them know it is just a meeting with NO play planned...no play = less pressure). You will find out more another couple in 5 minutes in person than 5 years in email and texts (and you find out if they are real and both parties on board). If everyone is in agreement, then you can plan a second meeting that involves play. As you meet more locals, you will find you are in a bigger group and have more connections and chances to find other couples. Simple.

 

On paper, but there's a bunch of work that goes on in between each step. Good luck!