Guys thoughts on other wives

[sexyhornycouple 122]

Would like some thoughts on what I am experiencing. We’ve been swingers for the twenty years we have been together. I’ve had numerous women over this time, i constantly am kinda let down over the other wives I get. I don’t compare them to my own but am constantly seeing hygiene, are mega overweight, are missing teeth, have mental problems, etc. it’s come to the point that I enjoy watching my wife with other guys more than us doing a swap. I am curious if other guys experience this as well? I feel anxiety in some ways that I don’t get to enjoy myself with other women, but, have also accepted this is the way it’s gonna be. For your info, we are a 50’s aged couple. Thanks for your thoughts.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

I have not experienced discomfort with the play partners whom I know. You have described the reasons for your discomfort but I want to ask. Are only some of the women you are meeting making you uneasy? Is it, rather, that all of the women have some sort of unpleasantness? And is this a relatively recent problem?

[Shore2Please 607]

As a wife answering, you must be playing with the wrong people. If there is hygiene problems with wife, why are you letting your wife play with the husbands?

[sexyhornycouple 122]

Not everyone was bad. But out of the last three years, I only enjoyed one lady. I really love my wife deeply and am overwhelmed with sex with her. It’s fantastic. Maybe that’s the problem. My wife says the husbands were all good! Sometimes I didn’t know the lady was bad till I was playing with her. Some couples we didn’t play with because the lady wasn’t attractive to me visually. Sometimes the guy wasn’t appealing to my wife. I agree we are getting bad choices.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

. . . I agree we are getting bad choices.

I often do not learn that a prospective play partner is a "bad choice" until after she and I get horizontal and start into doing the wild thing. And I strongly suspect that some of these same women tell their husbands or significant-others while riding on the way back home, "that Michael was a disappointment." My wife and I do agree, however, that we will have no regrets about having "tryout" sex. People enough stick around in our lives to make the effort worthwhile.

 

Have you and your wife discussed ever going to the kind of house parties where a husband and a wife can go off on their own to find fun. My wife and I go to such parties. She will find a man who tickles her fancy and when I look at this man's wife I think, "I wouldn't touch that with a ten-foot pole." And it often goes the other way around where I develop a shine for a woman but the woman's husband has no appeal for my wife. I have learned at these parties that my wife will score ten times more often that I will but once I settled in with that idea, I realized that I was still having plenty enough fun.

[Erik13 157]

Unreal. You would think swinging would be the one place people had impeccable hygiene!

[sexyhornycouple 122]

Yes we have tried going separate ways and it hasn’t worked well for us. It’s like you said but more of a 20-1 ratio. It was actually recommended on this board for us to stop that and stick together. We did and it helped but with results I haven’t been happy with. My wife gets to feeling guilty that I don’t get that great experience. One lady tasted so bad it took a week for me to get that taste out of my mouth. And she was a beautician and a beautiful lady. I didn’t stay with her more than 5 mins. But do other guys just find the other women unappealing and prefer to just share their wife only? I enjoy this but feel I’m missing out too.

[Judy39 145]

If your wife is out of your league, that might be why

[sexyhornycouple 122]

She’s a home run with me! Lol

[CB&DD 217]

If your wife is out of your league, that might be why

 

That was a funny reply. I seriously laughed out loud.

[njbm 2,863]

If you are not getting anything out of swinging, perhaps you should take a break or find another hobby. We have had a lot of subpar encounters over the years. We try to be more selective, but you can’t always foresee the problem in advance (a toothy bj, stanky downstairs).

[luvin eye full 140]

it sounds like your hart is just not in it any more - this will make a big difference to how you see and even taste others.

 

Why are you still in the ls if this is how you feel - just for the wife?

you know just because you are a swinger does not mean you must stay one - like other have said find something else to do - it's ok to of been there and done that.

 

Are you and your wife able to stop swinging - it's sounds like only one of you are getting anything out of it - and for us that would be the time to stop because we are in this together not just so one can have a good time.

 

Lastly - if you are emotionally let down while doing this as one of your post says then - tell your wife the whole story and see what she says - i think any wife or GF that really knew there SO was not really happy in the LS would opt out as well - but that's just our thoughts. maybe not.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

When you close your eyes how does it feel?