Finding a similar couple

[Shore2Please 611]

We talked about looking on different sites. My husband said just look for couples on this site. I figured how to do a search on here and read posts by people on here. Most posts but not all are by men. Some are just too out there. We have only played with a couple we met on vacation and then people they knew. We never went looking. I reached out and wrote to someone. Things moved fast. I was hoping not rushing. A few emails. Pictures. Thankfully no sex pictures. That would have killed any chance of us meeting them. I insisted verifying with talking to the wife. They were agreeable to separate rooms. I also said for me it’s more than sex. I need to take it slow. It went quickly to meeting them for drinks with the idea of spending a night in a hotel if we clicked. We almost had to cancel because we had a bad storm. We called and we agreed to chance the weather. There was flooding and down trees. The place we met was pretty empty. We spoke for three hours. They are an in shape couple. We laughed and told stories about how we met others. She’s on a cheaters site and only meets married men. Thought it was strange but the way she explained it made sense.

I knew there was a hotel very close. With the bad weather it was easy to get rooms. We decided to get two adjoining rooms. It worked.

[Wornsilver 219]

Shore2Please, if you're talking about the storm right after New Years, I was in North Central New Jersey and had to beat feet for home, just making it. Now, tell us more about the details of the evening after you arrived at the hotel. What did you tell your husband when you debriefed? What did he tell you? Are you going to do it again? With them? We are helpful on this site, but oh, so curious.

[Shore2Please 611]

Shore2Please, if you're talking about the storm right after New Years, I was in North Central New Jersey and had to beat feet for home, just making it. Now, tell us more about the details of the evening after you arrived at the hotel. What did you tell your husband when you debriefed? What did he tell you? Are you going to do it again? With them? We are helpful on this site, but oh, so curious.

 

It was this past weekend. Wind, rain, flooding and downed power lines. Mother Nature’s fury and beauty.

The other couple is on this board. I want to wait to post details. I tried not show my fear of meeting and jumping into bed a short time later. I told my husband and he told me.

[njbm 2,871]

Congrats on meeting a couple and having a good time. We find it hard to meet other couples on line and then it does not necessarily result in play. The other wife playing with cheating married men sounds a little fugazy, but to each their own.

[Shore2Please 611]

Congrats on meeting a couple and having a good time. We find it hard to meet other couples on line and then it does not necessarily result in play. The other wife playing with cheating married men sounds a little fugazy, but to each their own.

 

We never looked on line before. Our original play was with a couple we met on vacation and with people they knew. This was a first for us. We were picky and lucky. We wanted an in shape couple around our age. We set the rules of how we wanted this to happen. Separate rooms. No bi play. I made sure to emphasize that I needed romance. I was emphatic that I wasn’t there just to fuck. It was hard to explain in a short time. Yeah I thought the married men thing was strange too. Before we went to the hotel we met at a restaurant which was pretty empty because of the weather. She said she is on Ashley Madison. The way she explained it, married men cheating have to be nice. They have too much to lose. She was funny about her stories of men she met. Not all were wow as she put it. She didn’t want anybody that would stalk her. He had his own stories too. It was only a recent thing that they met a couple. They liked same room play to watch. I insisted on separate rooms. I kept on saying the romance thing. In the end it worked out. My husband was impressed with her looks. She was more in shape than me. There were something’s that were more than I wanted. In the end I would want to play again. They are pretty nice too.

[NoAngels 334]

Congrats on meeting a couple and having a good time. We find it hard to meet other couples on line and then it does not necessarily result in play. The other wife playing with cheating married men sounds a little fugazy, but to each their own.

 

There is nothing wrong in letting your wife meet other men if you can deal with it. If you can allow her to have sex, and I hate to say allow, with others, shouldn’t she have fun when she wants to. Some of us just live with an open marriage.

S2P we are happy it was a great night.

[PSULioness 847]

I understand when your play partners are too far away. We have looked at online couples. We haven’t acted on it yet. I am too nervous meeting complete strangers. I am thinking doing it quickly and not going back and forth with emails helped. You also were strong in what you wanted. I am thinking you checked my posts too. The bi thing would have scared you. Let me tell you that it would have scared me too. lol.

[Shore2Please 611]

I understand when your play partners are too far away. We have looked at online couples. We haven’t acted on it yet. I am too nervous meeting complete strangers. I am thinking doing it quickly and not going back and forth with emails helped. You also were strong in what you wanted. I am thinking you checked my posts too. The bi thing would have scared you. Let me tell you that it would have scared me too. lol.

Yes we checked your profile. We were going to reach out and yes the bi thing stopped me. It seems it is what drives you. I can send you my private email if you want to talk.

[njbm 2,871]

There is nothing wrong in letting your wife meet other men if you can deal with it. If you can allow her to have sex, and I hate to say allow, with others, shouldn’t she have fun when she wants to. Some of us just live with an open marriage.

S2P we are happy it was a great night. ����

 

There is nothing wrong with a wife having sex with other men. But when they are cheating married men without a hall pass, they can be pursued by their wife, their wife’s lawyer, their wife’s enforcer, etc. An ugly scene is foreseeable.

[NoAngels 334]

There is nothing wrong with a wife having sex with other men. But when they are cheating married men without a hall pass, they can be pursued by their wife, their wife’s lawyer, their wife’s enforcer, etc. An ugly scene is foreseeable.

 

As you can gather, we are that couple. I was a cheating husband and my wife a cheating wife. Most would find this horrible. Many couples would have separated upon find their spouses cheated. Luckily we have accepted our own truths. My cheating had nothing to do with my relationship at home. It was just sex on the road. My wife suspected. She knew of a site where there would be no attachments. My thrill was finding someone and the sex. When she met she knew she was meeting for sex. Us talking about our escapades opened up real talk. She knows she is the other woman. She decided from the start not to get too involved with any one man. We have been in the site together choosing her married men.

This was our first going together to a couple.

[njbm 2,871]

I can’t judge other people’s morals. The majority would think our swinging lifestyle is wrong. Just for us, having sex with other people without our spouse’s knowledge and consent is not our move. We feel it is wrong. If other people act differently, that is their choice and we are not judging. But I do not want to be caught in flagrante with someone’s cheating wife by an angry husband. Much smoother to have the husband watch me do his wife and encourage me.

[NoAngels 334]

I can’t judge other people’s morals. The majority would think our swinging lifestyle is wrong. Just for us, having sex with other people without our spouse’s knowledge and consent is not our move. We feel it is wrong. If other people act differently, that is their choice and we are not judging. But I do not want to be caught in flagrante with someone’s cheating wife by an angry husband. Much smoother to have the husband watch me do his wife and encourage me.

 

Meeting this couple as a couple. Everyone was on board. I didn’t need much encouragement

[agreatguy 269]

I figured how to do a search on here and read posts by people on here.

 

Were you able to limit a search to your geographical area. What am I missing?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Were you able to limit a search to your geographical area. What am I missing?

Swingersboard has no facility for searching geographically. That is intentional.

[agreatguy 269]

Swingersboard has no facility for searching geographically. That is intentional.

 

Thanks! I guess I misunderstood the OP.

[Shore2Please 611]

Thanks! I guess I misunderstood the OP.

 

When you post your name and location show next to your post. Your listing says you’re from Houston. If you click on a thread all the people who posted to the thread have their name and location shown. If you see others from Houston you can click on the name and then see all that persons posts. What I found is people who are interesting and others who are full of it. Some posters turn me off completely. Some are helpful. It’s not easy to see if they are compatible with you.

[agreatguy 269]

When you post your name and location show next to your post. Your listing says you’re from Houston. If you click on a thread all the people who posted to the thread have their name and location shown. If you see others from Houston you can click on the name and then see all that persons posts. What I found is people who are interesting and others who are full of it. Some posters turn me off completely. Some are helpful. It’s not easy to see if they are compatible with you.

 

Thanks for the reply. That's quite a bit of work as opposed to a traditional site that has geographical search criteria. My hat is off to you. I hope it is paying off.

[windsor4fun2 130]

This site was set up as a discussion forum not as a hook up site. That is why there is no easy way to search for people in your area or with your likes/dislikes. With that said, people have hooked up through here.

[Shore2Please 611]

This site was set up as a discussion forum not as a hook up site. That is why there is no easy way to search for people in your area or with your likes/dislikes. With that said, people have hooked up through here.

 

I know this a forum not a “hook up” site. We looked at the hook up sites and decided we didn’t want to sign up. This forum tells you more about a couple than an ad on a swinger site. We found you can tell more about a poster by her posts than by a well thought out ad. The way people describe themselves or by their answers tell more about the true person. For us a man who boasts about his penis or how he “plows” is a turnoff. It may turn others on and we aren’t making judgement on those posts. Some women like to do things I would rather not do. So far the way we met a couple worked for us. Yes it took time and work to find a couple we built up the nerve to write to. We didn’t know if it would work.

[luv2was 117]

.... This forum tells you more about a couple than an ad on a swinger site. We found you can tell more about a poster by her posts than by a well thought out ad. The way people describe themselves or by their answers tell more about the true person....

I totally agree. I find that message forums (of any topic or specialization) are a much better "tell" about a person than any profile. .... It is a more fun way to get to know folks too.

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