Next step taken....

[MadlyInLuv 94]

We met a couple over SLS and then met them for dinner. They were so nice, and we laughed together about their experiences over the last few months!

 

We have planned another meeting where we go out dancing and to bars and stay in the same hotel. We shall see what happens!

[JandKinBoise 858]

Congratulations! Meeting a couple that has a 4 way attraction is so hard. I hope this works out for everyone. Keep us posted.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Let us know what happens and good luck!

[MadlyInLuv 94]

Let us know what happens and good luck!

 

Hopefully we won't completely vanish off the face of the planet like the orgy couple a month back.

[MadlyInLuv 94]

Ok people... This next week or so is about to get crazy. We are meeting a couple on Saturday (second meeting-first was just dinner) to have drinks and do some dancing the night before our flight leaves for Hedo for the week. So Saturday night we are staying in the same hotel and seeing where it leads. Then we go off to Hedo until Friday.

 

It's about to get real.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

We expect reports and updates...good luck and enjoy yourselves!

[Alura 2,774]

May I suggest an idea Mrs. Alura and I liked?

 

We went out to dinner with a new couple, but switched, acting like we were married to the other spouse. We tried to sit at a square table with the men opposite each other. The plan was to treat it as a First Date. With long-time playmates we sometimes switched and went to different restaurants.

 

We'd stay switched for the ride to wherever we planned to do the deed, giving us an opportunity to make out at traffic stops. Laura claimed she could learn a lot from the way a man kissed her.

[MadlyInLuv 94]

While that sounds interesting, my wife and I are in very basic mode right now. Same room. Probably limit it at first to soft. Etc.

[MadlyInLuv 94]

Not the report I wanted to give: The other couple had to back out tomorrow night. He got called into work. They want to try the next Friday night when we fly back in from Hedo.

 

I was hoping that tomorrow night would break us in with a couple we have gotten to know before going to Hedo, but now we will be diving right into Hedo with no experience. It could have a ripple effect on our entire trip in terms of us not jumping completely in down there. Much easier to break that ice in a one-on-one scenario. :/ Disappointed.

[Scaredstiff 129]

How long are you in hedo for?

If you only had one meet with this other couple then by your 2nd day in hedo you might have got to know a new couple even better, stay positive and just go with your flow, try to empty yourself of expectations and you'll no doubt have a great time with a few surprises thrown in

[MadlyInLuv 94]

How long are you in hedo for?

If you only had one meet with this other couple then by your 2nd day in hedo you might have got to know a new couple even better, stay positive and just go with your flow, try to empty yourself of expectations and you'll no doubt have a great time with a few surprises thrown in

 

True. We are there Sunday through Friday. I've cleared my mind and I'm ready. The couple that had to back out is going to meet us when we get back in town instead.

[njbm 2,877]

Relax and have fun at Hedo. Whatever you think is going to happen is not what happens.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

Hope you had a great time! We look forward to a follow-up post!

[MadlyInLuv 94]

Where to begin? First of all: all of our homework and preparation for Hedo was worth it. We weren't shocked by anything that we saw there around the pool. We also fit right in with the group we went with, even though we weren't as wild as some of them were. We hung out with them and laughed, drank, and told stories the whole time. My wife and I deepened our connection with each other and it was absolutely wonderful to spend time with her around the clock with no kids and no responsibilities.

 

The first night we were there we were approached by a couple. They were relatively new like us. We had some drinks, hung out in the hot tub, and wound up in the open air play room. Neither of us anticipated going this fast into debauchery, but we had good chemistry and they accepted our boundaries. We started off side by side with our spouses. Somewhere in the middle the other wife rolled over and started kissing all over my wife and BAM.... she had her first girl on girl experience. She was surprised how much she enjoyed it. The rest of the experience was just touching, feeling, and being with our own spouse.

 

The second night we met up with the same couple and went back to our room. About 3/4 of the experience was good, but it seemed a little off this time. Rather than be about the two ladies, it seemed like the husband was quick to transition to my wife. At one point we all thought he was about to 'go for it' in terms of penetration and I stopped everything and reminded him we weren't doing that. So we resumed. Well.... a few minutes later (I find out afterwards) he desperately whispered twice into her ear to 'let me fuck you'. It was so low that I couldn't hear it, and neither could his wife. I could sense something was up though...I really don't know how. It was the way he was kissing her -- like he was almost a little too much into her. When we were done the other wife got up and got them the hell out of there very abruptly. I think she sensed something too. The rest of the trip we exchanged passing niceties but didn't really hang out with them. Very very weird.

 

Overall the trip was fantastic! The aforementioned experience did nothing but strengthen the communication bonds between us. I have to admit that I was surprised that her sounds of pleasure didn't bother me at all, but seeing him kissing her like that did. Remember that boundary that everyone says usually gets tossed out first? I'm not sure I can toss it. At least I have to think about it some more. My wife didn't get to see me kiss the other wife so she's not sure if it would bother her or not, but she definitely knows that it would bother her to see me have intercourse with another woman. If she knows that without us trying it -- then we definitely do NOT need to try it. Trust your gut!

 

What has happened to us over the past two months:

-- we now openly talk about sex to each other, and we do it a lot. Before she didn't really want to talk about it unless we were having sex at that moment.

-- she has discovered that she is a bit of an exhibitionist. She didn't want to have sex in the daytime at the pool (understandable), but she LOVES to do it in the playroom. We will be extending our membership at the Trapeze in Atlanta.

-- she has discovered that girl on girl in the right situation with the right girl is totally hot, and she likes it.

 

Our adjusted boundaries based on what we have learned:

-- girl on girl is a yes. In fact we think for us it should kind of center on that and the husbands just touch and feel

-- intercourse is out. We are a soft swap couple methinks. That's ok. That first night went just about perfect for us.

-- kissing is out for now. I don't know if it was the situation or not but it made me uncomfortable. Thoughts? could it have just been the situation?

-- the wife of any couples should be highly self confident and own a room when she enters it. That might sound strange but we think it could save some intimidation for the couple of my wife's very energetic and confident personality

 

I'm sure I'll think of more and will follow up. Thoughts? Suggestions? Questions?

[2BFree 26]

Good to see you had fun! Some fellow newbie advice, I think you should keep whatever pace you both are comfortable with. Even after two soft and one full swap with our playmates, the husbands haven't kissed the others wife. Not for any reason as we've licked and sucked everything else, but it just seems more personal. Maybe it'll happen naturally, maybe not. It sounds like the other husband was a looking for more than you were comfortable with and that may have something to do with it. Its probably best for all parties involved to be self confident. Good luck to you!

[MadlyInLuv 94]

The thing I'm most upset about is a vanilla couple we met while on the trip. They were so nice, but they were overwhelmed by the atmosphere. Our last day there they said they were going to delete their accounts on social media when they got back home. They said they'd reach out and keep in touch, but their accounts are now gone without any signs of them. We are sad to lose touch with good friends like that, even if we'd just met them.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

 

Thanks for sharing your adventure. Great to hear that things went so...great!

[MadlyInLuv 94]

 

Thanks for sharing your adventure. Great to hear that things went so...great!

 

Thanks! We've grown so much in these two months and talk more than ever. We were already close but I feel even closer to her now. The great thing is that our boundaries are solidifying and our idea of what we want and don't want is being firmed up. We both agree that we should take it slow and be careful and deliberate about proceeding. We both have a blast at Trapeze just dancing and being with each other so that will be the first thing we continue with.

 

This Friday I'm going to take her on a nice vanilla restaurant date, just the two of us.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

The thing I'm most upset about is a vanilla couple we met while on the trip. They were so nice, but they were overwhelmed by the atmosphere. Our last day there they said they were going to delete their accounts on social media when they got back home. They said they'd reach out and keep in touch, but their accounts are now gone without any signs of them. We are sad to lose touch with good friends like that, even if we'd just met them.

 

Your distress is understandable. It's wonderful if everyone has a great time. It rarely works perfectly.

 

One can reasonably expect a highly erotic atmosphere at Hedo in much the same way one can reasonably expect a lot of naked people at a nude beach. With an overwhelming number of vanilla resorts begging for business, choosing Hedo implies that they thought they weren't quite vanilla. The website is unambiguous about what it means to be "wicked for a week".

 

At a guess, they will talk with each other about what the experience meant to them and to their relationship. If they are friends, they will reach out to you for your perspectives as well.