Need suggestions for our first swap

[cplfunbgl 18]

We are a couple in our 30s. Based in Bangalore. We have been deliberating on getting into the lifestyle for a while now. We found a decent couple with whom we gel. We are meeting up for our first experience tomorrow. It is the first time for all four of us. We are very excited and nervous about the whole thing. Any word on what to expect and how to go about will be very helpful.

[2BFree 26]

What kind of experience are you looking for? Being anxious seems normal when people step outside of the box to try new things. We are pretty new to this lifestyle as well. I have some prior swinging experience with an ex but that relationship was based on sex and money, not truly love. Id suggest taking it slow singe everyone's new. Make sure you and your partner communicate clearly with each other and go from there. Good luck whatever you choose!

[JandKinBoise 858]

After a long and painful search, you finally find a couple and are going to meet them. So, you'd think the hard part was over. Being 1st timers all around, getting things going could be tough unless there is a pretty aggressive person in the group to push everyone along.

What works for us, hosting, is for the wife to excuse herself and go change into something that shows she is at least ready. She will sit with the guy, hopefully he has allowed himself some room and isn't crammed into a little chair. That seems to be about all it takes. She hasn't had to initiate further than sitting with him so hopefully it will work for you as well. Good luck! Check back in and let us know how it went.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

First of all, in case you have already met in person, there is still the chance that there might not be a connection for everyone. If that is the case, have something set up where you both know that the other person isn't interested (just in case). Other than that, as JandK said, the hardest part is getting the party started. At some point someone will probably need to say 'so, who takes off their clothes first?', 'lets do this', or something similar. Just be prepared to do that. That will and usually is the hardest part. Once over that hurdle, the rest comes pretty easily. Good luck and let us know how things went.

[adamgunn 1,460]

Yeah, it's awkward when you're there and something needs to happen to get things started, as GoldCouple has already said.

 

What worked for us is if one of the wives goes over to the other guy, looks into his eyes and pulls him to her for a kiss. And, every once in awhile I'd approach the other woman the same way. It takes a little bit of courage, but if you've been chatting for more than half an hour in an intimate setting, somebody's got to break the ice. Otherwise, one couple sort of walks away and everybody says, "What happened?"

[cplfunbgl 18]

Thank you all for your suggestions. We had a wonderful time with the other couple. We met them in a food court near our place and once we were comfortable invited them to our house. Mrs slipped into some revealing dress and we were talking when someone suggested we dance with each other's partners. That started the action. Dresses were all around the place and we had swap minus the final act.

Definitely a memorable experience and the first of many more to some

[njbm 2,877]

Glad it went well! It’s always good to get off to a good start.

 

When we have a swing couple over our home, we ask them if they want to see a map of the world with magnets on the places we’ve been. Conveniently, it is located in the Hall right outside our bedroom....

[2BFree 26]

Good to hear you two enjoyed yourselves. Planning to meet again? Any more nervousness? Keep us posted.

[cplfunbgl 18]

2BFree to answer your question, yes we will be looking forward to meeting them again. The main point is to find couples with whom we can relate to. Now that we have found one we will be meeting them again. In fact we want to have a group of 3 to 4 like minded couples . The challenge is to find other 2 couples now.

[payal1 22]

You said you did everything minus swap and you will be meeting that couple again, so what is the progress