Needing variation in partners

[NoAngels 334]

We are new to swinging even though both of us have been with others. I don’t think either of us on into going to a club. The question is do you enjoy swinging with the same couple over and over again. We had a great time with the couple we met. They are fun and sexy. Nothing negative to say. We clicked and I think they felt the same way. That being said I think part of the excitement of swinging is variation. I love lobster, do I want that every meal?

[adamgunn 1,460]

Baskin Robbis has 31 different flavors for a reason . . .

[NoAngels 334]

Baskin Robbis has 31 different flavors for a reason . . .

 

Isn’t that like going to a club? Maybe one flavor at a time with some sprinkles.

[couplers 4,652]

I need variation, but not infinite variety, so the three guys I have regularly (and a forth sometimes) is enough for me.

[findinganswers 369]

We have really good friends that got us going. Luckily they had friends that accepted us a play partners. Up until we started playing I didn’t need any variation. I thought I was the luckiest man in the world to fuck my wife’s best friend. My wife who is now acting out he bi side told me how she gets so excited when she knows she is going to be with someone new. At first I was self doubting that she needed variety. Now I say why not enjoy.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

We're not here for infinite variation, just an occasional change, so we don't have a problem with just seeing one other couple. We only see each other about once a month so it doesn't really get stale. For us, FWB is what we want, learning another couples wants and needs, not endless variation. At the same time, it's different strokes for different folks and what works for one may not work for another. Just because you can have endless variations, doesn't mean that it should always be tried. Some things just don't go together...like tuna fish in green jello, orange juice and mint ice cream, or popcorn and catsup. Just because you can have some variations, it doesn't mean you always should.

[Alura 2,774]

We tended to play for extended periods with the same couple, years in a couple of cases. We varied the situation by doing different non-swinging things together and making the sex fun as well. With swing partners we were able to concentrate on carefree fun sex. We seemed to gravitate toward making love when we were together.

 

The best part of swinging for Laura and me was after a swap when I glided into my wife's semen-filled pussy and told her how much I loved her. You don't need new people for that and the sleep afterward is just as sound.

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

We have had both: some steady partners, and then a large number of one-time partners. This approach allows relationships to develop as well as affording variety.

[agreatguy 269]

Variety is why we're swinging. It's a turn on for us to watch each other with other partners but I don't think we would want to have just one other couple we played with. That would get boring too.

 

The connecting us fun too though. It's nice to have friends in the lifestyle, who else can you talk to about lifestyle stuff. It's not like you can go to your local Rotary club meeting and talk about it with vanilla buds the same way you'd talk about fishing or football. Hearing women talk about their favorite sex toys in a casual conversation is fun and sexy. Many times it can lead to more.

 

I want her to experience different guys. I want to see different guys come on to her because that reinforces how hot I already think she is. I love seeing her flirt. If it was the same couple or group of couples all the time it just seems like the familiarity would get a little old. I like the challenge for myself as well. I like the feel of other women, discovering something we can connect over, getting to that first kiss, unrapping a new willing present and finding the surprise inside.

[Cleve76Pom 24]

It depends on what you want. You have one steady, it may be possible to add another, or have you tried to get involved with a group someplace, its possible 6-8 couples, over time you get close to them, your experiences are within the group, 6-8 potential partners at any time.....

[njbm 2,877]

We like to rotate among a few FWBs. We let enough time go by between sessions so that we are looking forward to our next meeting.

 

There was a rock song with the lyric: Variety is the spice of life. That’s what the judge is going to tell my wife.” I think of that song when we swing, but of course my wife is right there with me.

[WesternSwing 504]

For me it has always been because I'm attracted to a person as a person and sexually. I only am turned-on sexually by someone that turns me on in other ways. In short, they have to be someone I could be friends with for me to want to fuck them. That doesn't mean we have to, but that they have to be that kind of person. So although variety is great, I've never been in it for variety so much as people.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

We are new to swinging even though both of us have been with others. I don’t think either of us on into going to a club. The question is do you enjoy swinging with the same couple over and over again. We had a great time with the couple we met. They are fun and sexy. Nothing negative to say. We clicked and I think they felt the same way. That being said I think part of the excitement of swinging is variation. I love lobster, do I want that every meal?

 

It can take a lot of effort to find the perfect playmate/couple. When you find someone/a couple you are comfortable with why look around any more. Haven't you already been there/done that? There is always a better experience? Maybe. Maybe not. It's the searching and trying that is fun.

 

You might find that the "perfect playmate/couple" was the best after all. Hopefully they will still be available.

[TricianMike 772]

We like to meet new couples. I think swinging is based on new experiences.