Our new couple is a different kind of couple

[4iscompany2us 25]

I am not sure if this is the proper heading to place this question under but it is a first swinging experience for us. We have only played with a single male so far. He was with us for over 2 years so this delayed our bucketlist item of finding that couple for "Married and Dating". Now it seems as we may have located a couple to share an extended experience with.

BUT getting to my question. As the other husband has spent time getting to know my wife it became apparent their fantasy together is for him to be her dom and she is more than willing to let him collar her and become his submissive. I would not say I am 100% in favor yet I know I don't have the knowledge to become a proper dom for her. The question I am asking is "How unusual is it for a wife to be collared to a man who is not her spouse. I imagine that is a talk I also need to have with the other wife who will undoubtedly become my playmate.

Any thoughts/

[agreatguy 269]

I think this is trouble unless clear boundaries are set and even then it might be trouble especially considering you aren't 100% on board.

 

I personally know one couple that did exactly what you are describing and it didn't take long for her to start referring to her husband in a not so endearing way. Two years after the Dom started fucking the wife the couple was divorced and she was living with the Dom. I remember her telling me that her ex told her one time he wanted to learn how to make her squeal the way the Dom did. She confided that when that comment was made she lost all interest in the husband, saw him as a pussy and couldn't wait to be rid of him so she could be with her Dom.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

It's very easy to fall into the cuckold thing from here unless very clear boundaries are set and enforced. It is actually much easier for you to learn more about becoming her Dom than allowing someone else to assume that role. We would steer clear of allowing another person to take the place you should be in (as her first and foremost).

[jnrswinger 62]

I know a bit about the BDSM scene. I seriously doubt if you are going to be playing with this Dom's wife!!! It doesn't work that way - unless you are supposedly going to be "her sub" too and in that case you will quickly find you are both his subs with her assisting him. I would veto and drop them like a hot brick. Look, use your brain. Your wife has been letting another man fuck her for 2 years already. You have not been getting any pussy yourself. You don't say much about that, but it sounds a lot like more of a Hotwife or cuckold situation than 3 way even if you don't realize it. Now she wants to basically take that a step further in a serious direction and you my friend are going to be left out in the cold. A Dom like that who wants to collar your wife to him immediately is not interested in any kind of swinging couples relationship. Think about it man, He's a Dom! He wants your wife as his sex slave. Part of that for him is taking her from you. He is not going to let you fuck his wife!! In fact very quickly part of his domination and control over your wife with be to force her to cut you off for sex altogether. If you guys move forward with this you are never going to get to a normal swinging relationship even if and when this one ever ends. She is already the one getting everything and you nothing. She is going to be letting other men fuck her and you will not get a sniff of any other women or a couples swing. You guys need to have a very serious and honest talk about what you both really want. And while you are at it, it's probably time to ditch the guy who has been doing her for the last 2 years if you haven't already (you did say "was with us"). BTW: The "us" is a little troubling too - are you bi? You don't really give much background on that relationship which might give some insight into why she wants to suddenly become someone else's sex slave.

[jnrswinger 62]

If you talk as suggested and want to enter into a Dom/Sub relationship between yourselves, there are plenty of clubs and resources available to help. Also get and read the book "Screw the roses give me the thorns". It explains everything extremely well - the best book on the subject. However I'm sorry to have to say this but it looks very much like your wife does not see you as man enough to dominate her.

 

Good luck one way or the other.

[2NoLimit 95]

If she is curious perhaps you can take her to a fetish party, they have many Dom’s willing to teach you both. Me and my husband even started going to workshops together. I would definitely listen to what others have said and lose that couple.

 

Don’t allow anyone to put a wedding ring around your wife’s neck other then yourself.

 

Best of luck to you both.

[Pinksquirrel 15]

I’m from a kink background being a sumbissive. For me to be collared is marriage although some think of it as ownership in play. Wearing a collar during play is perfectly good but to be collared is something very different. The best thing to do is asks what being collared is for both of them. If your not happy with it then you don’t have to go through with it hope this helps!