Advice on having a swinger party at home

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So you would like to host a swinger party at your house. A number of things you need to decide:

 

- Invite only people you know?

- Invite people you know, but perhaps allow them to invite another couple?

- How many couples do you want to invite?

- Invite people you don't know?

- Do you have areas in the house appropriate for play? Do you need to purchase blow up mattresses, sheets, etc.?

- Are there areas in your house you don't want people in (typically closed doors take care of that)?

- Are you going to ask guests to bring a snack to share? Are you serving food?

- Do you have accommodations (bed/air mattress/sheets/pillow) for some people to stay over if needed?

 

Parties we host as well as attend are typically bring your own booze and condoms. We'll supply soft drinks, water, and usually a few bottles of wine.

 

Window coverings...you don't want neighbors and passers-by looking in.

 

Noise...keep windows closed.

 

So of course first you need to invite people, not much of a party without that The invite list is hard to put together as 1) There will be a number of people that decline right away, or accept and don't wind up attending for some reason and 2) If you account for no shows and create a larger invite list, you may find that EVERYONE shows up so you need to make sure you have room.

 

Here's how we prepare, your mileage may vary:

 

- Clean clean clean.

- Prep food, soft drinks, get ice, etc.

- In each bathroom have mouthwash and disposable cups.

- In each bathroom have a bundle of clean washcloths, and a bucket/basket to put the dirty cloths into. You can get washcloths pretty cheap a Wal-Mart, Target, etc.

- In our upstairs bathroom have towels available in case anyone wants a shower.

- Clear our areas where we as going to put blow up mattresses. For us that means moving a few coffee tables.

- Put sheets or comforters on any beds that are used for play.

- Have towels available in the play areas for covering the bed...for the wet spots!

- We have a hot tub and ask people to bring towels, but will put out extras in case people forget.

- Though people usually bring their own condoms we will put a few out here and there.

 

After all of the guests have arrived, and people have been talking a bit, but before play, we go over any "rules", bathroom locations, play area locations, etc. The only "rules" we go over is no means no (especially if your spouse says it! lol) and areas of the house not to go in. A closed door on the bedroom means do not disturb. Since we may be outside in the hot tub, remind people that the neighbors are not that far away so avoid any sex sounds!

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

The is really good advice about hosting a house party.

[skyguy6977 88]

Do not forget to use slip covers on all good furniture. it is very hard to get some stains out of a silk sofa.

Deb

[Freaky.Fiona 74]

Great advice, most of which we follow. We usually keep it to just couples we know, but may consider a new couple if one of the regular couples brings them. The numbers almost always vary, but we try to schedule a time all can make it (preferably during a weekend). Overnight is pretty much a given, so better have all kiddos taken care of away from there (not sure thoughts of older ones who know about these parties staying in certain sectioned off areas? Our kids are 18 and 16 and know and have walked in on things- not a party as such- and were pretty cool about it and moved on). Definitely covers for furniture as said above; I’ve had a tough time getting stains out before when this wasn’t done (in the early days).

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We usually play at our friends house and they do the inviting. I know there have been new people at parties that were friends of people invited. At their larger parties I noticed they had taken blankets off the beds, just a bed with pillows and a sheet. The had what seemed to be gym towels and shower towels, all white like at the gym. Mouthwash and cups and a bin of disposable tooth brushes. They had a bag of hotel soaps in the bathroom.

The parties are at friends house with mostly people we know. We’ll bring a bottle or a tray of cookies or fruit. Sometimes we order in food. I would say we are all respectful

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Wow! Sounds like you are planning on having one hell of a party!

 

I/we like to keep it small. Friends of friends are OK.

 

Snacks are a good idea. So is BYOB.

 

Everyone is invited to stay as long as it takes to sober up before leaving.