Am I getting jaded?

[Lionheart72 2,190]

So, there I am, at our local swingers club... sitting in a chair, my wife across from me. Her tits are out, her ass is in the air and the dick of a rather nice man we had struck up a good rapport with is in her mouth. And I am bored. Bored, bored, BORED!

 

There was a time when this sight would have made me hard enough to pound nails. There was a time when the very idea of this would have driven me wild. There I was, limp, bored, actually wondering what the next episode of Altered Carbon had in store.

 

I got up, tapped my wife on the shoulder and suggested that it was getting late. I told her that she should go ahead and finish up, but I would meet her in the "public" room. She actually joined me only minutes later and admitted that she'd been bored too. We went home, curled up on the couch and watched that episode. We didn't even consider having sex.

 

WTF is wrong with me?

 

Maybe it was the night. Maybe I just wasn't into it. Maybe I'm just getting jaded. I don't know.

[Alura 2,774]

Yeah, Lionheart, I'd say you're a bit jaded. A "seen one, seen 'em all" sorta thing.

 

I remember a conversation on the way home from a playdate with a long-term playcouple in which I asked Laura how the sex with Pat was. "Just like ol' married folks," she replied.

 

Perhaps a change of scenery might be in order. It that's not practical, I've found eating pussy cuts right through the boredom.

 

I wonder what Amy would suggest?

[njbm 2,880]

Try a different scene. Cruise, Desire, Caliente. Or meet new people. Or take a break.

[JandKinBoise 858]

Comments from people that don't understand are always nice. We found that if we were very active, such as spring to early summer, we would start to get the 'same ol' feeling, even with new lovers. Limiting our activities to once every couple months, talking about stuff during sex and maintaining an active home sex life all added to the newness and excitement of a lover. At first, I thought I could do this every day and never lose interest. Over stimulation becomes stimulation becomes an activity etc.

[adamgunn 1,460]

Question for you, Lionheart. When you were planning to go out, were you excited at that point? Or were you thinking to yourself, "Oh, another night at the swing club? boring."

 

If it's the latter, yeah, you need to take a break for awhile, until you get that jazzed feeling back.

 

If it's the former, you need to mix it up. Try something new.

 

Best of luck!

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Watching my wife have sex is rather boring for me too, Lionheart. While she is having her sexual fun, I am typically occupying myself with chasing other women. Do you have no interest in similar pursuits? I think, in any case, that it would be good to let your wife have her fun even if there is no fun in it for her.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

Question for you, Lionheart. When you were planning to go out, were you excited at that point? Or were you thinking to yourself, "Oh, another night at the swing club? boring."

 

If it's the latter, yeah, you need to take a break for awhile, until you get that jazzed feeling back.

 

If it's the former, you need to mix it up. Try something new.

 

We were excited when we first planned it, but by the time we got to the day of I think we were both just going because we'd arranged the sitter and made the plans and etc, etc, etc.

 

As for mixing it up... I'm not sure what's "up" at this point. We swing. We've done group sex, same room, separate room, those kinks that interest us. I'm not entirely sure where we can go from here... but it will be an interesting conversation of us to have.

[asncpl 729]

What drove me wild is actually Joel Kinnaman in Altered Carbon, but let's not digress. After being at it for so long, we actually had similar feelings. So I don't think there is anything wrong with you. And like others said, mixing it up helps. For us, that means more roleplay. I think I mentioned before that we are into cuckold roleplay these days, which really gets Mr. A going. As we get older, we find that mental stimulation counts as much as physical. The kinks may be the same, but half the fun is getting there. Setting up playful situations and unique meeting places get me going before I even take my clothes off. And we often solicit new ideas from play partners, so we don't have to do all the thinking ourselves.

[padoc 1,703]

Mike Schmidt, when talking about baseball, once said, "the game tells you when it's time to quit". Maybe swinging does too.