What do you do if your partner finds someone at a club and you don't

[Marchingt9 15]

My girlfriend and I want to go to a club, but I'm afraid I won't find anyone to have an experience with. In that case what do I do if my gf finds someone, and I don't? Also vice versa, I'm afraid that my girlfriend may not be everyone's cup of tea and won't be able to find a partner, so what should I do if I find someone and she can't?

[adamgunn 1,460]

Well, it depends on your rules, what the two of you together want. Certainly a subject you should discuss before you get there.

 

Normally, at a club, my wife and I rarely played alone, and then only with specific permission. Normally, we'd find a couple. If that didn't work, we'd go off and have sex with ourselves. That in itself is pretty sexy. Every once in awhile, we'd find a guy for her and have an MFM threesome. (We weren't into FMF threesomes.)

 

At clubs, it's assumed widely that you'll play together.

 

But, what if she finds someone she wants to play with, and you don't? Well, either give her permission, or don't. Your choice. Like I said, this should be agreed beforehand. And if she has the permission to play solo, you should have it as well.

 

Now these rules didn't apply to house parties, where we always assumed we'd split off. Totally different vibes in our experience.

[4iscompany2us 25]

We have not frequented the clubs for lack of anything local but have attended swinger events within our traveling distance. It seems to be more common for her to receive more of the attention from the males but somehow I have had better play results with my limited connections. We have the rule of asking each other as a courtesy and that takes away any finger pointing and tension that could arise later. In fact we both know that we are free to be present if the other finds any playtime. Nothing to hide, just getting pleasure from seeing our partner getting pleasure. Took a gazillion heart to heart talks to get to that point.

[njbm 2,877]

We usually swap as a couple, but at house parties my wife is in high demand because she is lithe and lissome. As long as I play in round one with the wife of another couple, she can do as she pleases thereafter. But agree before you go. I am not thrilled to eat coffee cake while the whole party does my wife, but I get to go home with her.