As good as it gets?

[drtylilsecrets 15]

We are new to the lifestyle and new to the forum so please let us ask a naive question. We've had a handful of experiences with single guys, gals, and couples. We have fun! But...we've both never really had orgasms during group play, we feel the sex with each other alone is way better than any group situation we have been in so far. Only thing i can think of is when we go to swinger parties or for the most part, we will find a couple that we like personality wise but may not be so much physically attracted to, is that what we are doing wrong? We are a younger couple, but yet to find couples that are closer to our age, could that be it? Group play is exciting and fun but normally when its just the two of us she cums 3-4 times and we both feel fully pleasured compared to group play. We both love sex so much that we are a bit stumped.. Is it normal to have mediocre group sex?

[Shore2Please 612]

You are new but you seem to have played many times. For the reason you say I enjoy one on one and I want separate rooms. I need to have an attraction both physically and personality. With all the right things going I have no difficulty having orgasms. In a group setting I just couldn’t get excited even when it was just my husband watching.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Encounters during group sex tend to be fast and furious. Fast does not allow the time that is needed for reaching orgasm. But let me ask? Why are you equating orgasm to success? If you are having fun during your group sex, could you consider that sufficient?

[drtylilsecrets 15]

some good points here! thanks! We enjoy playing together because we like watching each other get off..and we are just not used to sex without orgasms but i guess its not a deal breaker..or is it?? Who wants to have sex with no orgasm? lol

[JandKinBoise 858]

Sometimes group sex is simply fodder for a couple's time alone. Really, swinging in general is no more than an extension of couple sex. If it's hot to think about it, if your sex drive goes up during the hunt, if the anticipation causes tingles, then the goal is met. Group sex is icing, and as sweet as you want to make it.

[findinganswers 369]

Are you having a good time? If you aren’t then swinging may not be right for you. If you are having 3somes and neither of you are having an orgasm something is wrong. At the very least you have the other one to get you there. I can’t relate to not having an orgasm during sex.