Feelings and sorting out our first full swap

[crazylove 20]

Hello all,

 

It's been awhile since I've posted here. We have been slowly going further and further into the lifestyle and finally made the plunge into the full swap this past weekend. Overall it was a huge success and my wife and I both enjoyed it even though it didn't go off perfectly.

 

My wife was amazing and really did have a good time even though the other man failed to keep a good erection. She's feeling like it had a little bit to do with her but I keep reassuring her that it was not the case. I truly believe he was just having stage fright for a couple different reasons but none of which had to do with my wife. Is this a time where you just try to forget, push past and move on to a new experience? Would you see this couple again and give it another shot? We both agreed we'd like to see them again but I'm concerned that if he wasn't able to perform it would damage her confidence.

 

My wife and I had a blast and it was a great first experience for me and probably just an okay experience for her. Luckily there was no jealousy issues or hurt feelings for the most part.

 

Something that I'm working out on my end is the chemistry aspect of the couple we played with. We have had several soft swaps and have been to clubs but I have never had a really awesome exciting partner that I connected with. Don't get me wrong, we have had fun and I really enjoyed the other's company but I'm guessing the chemistry aspect was missing. I did not realize this until I played with the woman this weekend and realized how much chemistry we had together. I know when we initially started talking I was extremely attracted to her which isn't all that uncommon for me LOL. But as soon as we met up it moved quickly and we both were extremely into each other probably more so than my wife and him.

 

The experience was out-of-this-world for me and I'm guessing this is because of the chemistry that everybody always talks about, is that what you would guess? Trying to accurately pinpoint emotions and feelings through our process of swinging has been interesting and I think this is another first for me in the feelings department. I guess this is what can make swinging so amazing. I just wish my wife had the same level of experience as I did and I feel somewhat guilty about this.

[agreatguy 269]

You say you both had a blast but then you say it was just OK for her and then you say there were no jealousy issues or hurt feelings "for the most part" What does that mean? Either there were some or there weren't. What were they? Whose were they?

[Erik13 157]

The erection issue is very common...it has happened to me with almost every new play partner. Almost always on the second meeting things work fine. Just reassure her that it has nothing to do with her and give the guy a second chance.

[crazylove 20]

You say you both had a blast but then you say it was just OK for her

She said she had a blast and those were her feelings. I should have noted that in my opinion she may have had just an okay experience (reading whats next makes me wonder why I feel this way). Shes really happy with everything and is already talking about whats next. This would not be the case if there was any hesitation on her part.

 

 

 

then you say there were no jealousy issues or hurt feelings "for the most part" What does that mean? Either there were some or there weren't. What were they? Whose were they?

At one point in the evening I went to the bathroom, specifically to give the other guy some space, my thought was that maybe he was having a hard time since I was near him on the same bed. I assumed the other woman would join in and play as a threesome. She noticed I was gone and thought I was with the other woman in a different room (we are same room only), she didn't stop nor did she want to make a scene so she just went with it. During this time the other woman was filming the action (discussed before/no problems) and she didn't know she was there. She didn't say anything to me until we left and was fine after we discussed it.

 

In addition to that, we had a rule that we would only share in penetrative anal together and not with others. She was really enjoying herself and told him to put a finger in and shortly after tried to put his cock in. This was a rule that she wanted and was adamant about, I followed the rules while she didn't. This doesn't bother me as I believe she was just in the moment, although the same excuse would not be an option if i was "in the moment".

[crazylove 20]

The erection issue is very common...it has happened to me with almost every new play partner. Almost always on the second meeting things work fine. Just reassure her that it has nothing to do with her and give the guy a second chance.

 

She is good to give him a chance and I am as well. I was mainly worried that there may be a problem on the second go around.

[Lucasex 26]

The erection issue is very common...it has happened to me with almost every new play partner. Almost always on the second meeting things work fine. Just reassure her that it has nothing to do with her and give the guy a second chance.

 

We've only had two full swaps. The last one was with a very experienced couple (they have lots of pictures and references in the swinging website where we contacted them). We went dancing and ended up in a hotel room. Surprisingly, the other guy was having erection problems and at some point I thought that a "shared" blowjob could help (the two girls blowing him at the same time). It turned up to be an awesome experience for all of us.

 

My wife told me afterwards that she felt sluttier than ever and enjoyed it very much; one thing that she never thought she would enjoy was kissing anoher woman wile taking turns on him. The guy had a full erection and I can't tell you what a turn on was for me seeing them servicing him (especially my wife). She enjoyed it so much that wants to do it for me next time (that night she just seized the oppotunity and began fucking the other guy while I went for the girl). We ended up having so much fun that by the time we left the hotel it was 8:00 AM the next day!

 

So the shared blowjob worked for us, maybe it's something worth the try if erection issues appear!

 

Cheers from South America!!

[Guest]

The erection issue with men, especially if they are new to swapping or whatever you re doing, is common, although I have also noticed that since we started swinging, I receive and give more oral sex then perhaps I did in marriage or even when dating. And, as a consequence, I find that I am more turned on by giving a man a BJ then I was before, I guess it goes back to part of the excitement of swinging is doing things that make you feel a bit more risqué or slutty as the case may be.