Gimme, gimme, gimme a certification.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

We recently received an SLS message from a person whom my wife met briefly about a year ago. The meeting was a one-hour sit-down lunch that happened while he was passing through town. Now he's all over us like smell on you-know-what that he deserves an SLS certification. We replied using a diplomatic "no" but that has not stopped him. "You do not know what it is like to be a single male at SLS who has no certifications." Well, this might be a fair observation. Neither of us really knows what that might be like. But we think that a one-hour meeting is nowhere near enough time to evaluate a person's temperament or suitability that might make him recommendable to other SLS members.

 

So, what are your criteria for offering an SLS "certification"?

[cplnuswing 4,713]

"You do not know what it is like to be a single male at SLS who has no certifications."

 

And this is anybody's problem but his own somehow?

 

That aside, we've never been into the certs too much, either giving or receiving, although we have done a few of each years ago. But, I will admit, that if they have any, we do look at them, although it doesn't play much if any into our decision.

 

So, our criteria is we have to have met you, and we have to have met you for more than just a brief conversation. Is one hour sufficient? There is no right or wrong answer there. For some the answer may be yes, for others no. I guess much would depend on how that conversation went too.

[njbm 2,871]

We only give a cert or accept a cert from people we actually played with and had an enjoyable time. Due to our large amount of certs, we are not avidly seeking new ones. We think people may think we are slutty to have 29. We may cut some, but don’t want to offend former playmates.

 

So if we played, had fun and recommend a couple to others we cert. We generally do not play with singles.

[shy_couple 459]

We only give a cert or accept a cert from people we actually played with and had an enjoyable time. Due to our large amount of certs, we are not avidly seeking new ones. We think people may think we are slutty to have 29. We may cut some, but don’t want to offend former playmates.

 

So if we played, had fun and recommend a couple to others we cert. We generally do not play with singles.

 

We hosted an SLS group for a few years and we certified quite a few people we met. Most were meet and greets and we vetted far more than we played with. Certs was simple that couple was genuine, sincere, and attended our event or something fairly generic.

 

Before this happened, we met and played with a couple and asked if they would certs that they met us. They declined with something we felt was fairly lame. It came across like the old saying that “fat girls are like mopeds, lots of fun to ride but you don’t want your buddies to find out” We felt insulted like fat mopeds. But we eventually got over it.

 

What’s funny is, we have played with a couple of single guys. But would be reluctant to certify one. We are more interested in couples and not sure if vetting a single guy would be a bbeagative to potential couples or a ring the dinner bell for all singles to seek us out. Vetting single guys for us has a double standard and unsure how we would respond if asked.

 

The double standard goes a little further. Although we have interest in the occasional very select single male, we won’t consider anyone without public pics, paid profile, and a cert. negative points for profile created in the past couple of months but certs seem to get us past that obstacle.

 

Our personal profile only has 3 certs, all from other event hosts that we have met over the years. We have had folks send us unsolicited certs after meeting. We politely turn them down because, at least for us, too many certs implies that you (we) get around and that’s not not us and not what we want to project to potential playmates.

 

Ok, so part ramble and part rant, don’t do something you are unconfortable with.

[adamgunn 1,460]

We enjoyed single guys on SLS. We certified the first couple of them that we enjoyed for an evening. Then we met one guy, and he just didn't do it, Literally. ED problems. We didn't certify him. So, of course, he asked why, it was very awkward.

 

After that, we only certified single guys who became FWBs, a very short list.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

We NEVER give or accept certifications. Who we play with is our business. At the same time, if someone has a BUNCH of certifications, we generally skip that couple. We want FWB (with friends being the most important word), not a one night stand. That's just the way we roll...

[njbm 2,871]

We like couples with some certs from other couples. It indicates that they are active swingers. Frankly, if we both have a cert from the same couple, we are encouraged.

 

We do thoroughly understand people who do not accept or give certs. We just did not go that way.

 

It was fun when we got a cert when we were newbies. Confirmation that we had fun. Lately, we are not seeking them.