BDSM & Swinging

[2NoLimit 95]

Just curious if any of you have had that experience and how did it go? We just can’t see ourselves swapping in that aspect as it requires trust...yet we see profiles with that criteria for play. I’m not talking about just in jest or fetlife, but in letting an almost stranger take full control or visa versa.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

In my area there is a fair amount of overlap between the BDSM and swinging communities... but on the whole I've never encountered anyone who insisted on BDSM play as a condition of swinging. The BDSM folks we've played with are usually just very clear on setting out their limits and boundaries before we play. The idea of exploring anything kinky didn't come up until we were discussing the possibility of playing again... and even then there was a very clear concern for what our limits and boundaries were.

[njbm 2,877]

We are ok with blindfolds, light tying up that is escapeable and other innocuous things. But true hitting, order barking, demeaning or humiliating, that is not for us.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Lionheart nailed it.

[2NoLimit 95]

That’s kinda what I thought, but made me curious when I ran into a profile with that criteria and the pictures are very extreme (almost disturbing).

 

Thank you

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Different strokes for different folks. You can ask for anything you want, but that doesn't mean you will get it (although you won't get what you don't ask for).

[asncpl 729]

We are actively involved with both swinging and BDSM, and we've managed to keep them separate mostly. Sometimes light BDSM overlaps into swinging, like some spanking or restraint, but it was discussed beforehand. I have never come across a situation where it's a requirement for swinging. I have had situations where the partners asked about BDSM play, I said no, and they still wanted to play without it.

 

My experience is that serious BDSM people are among the most respectful out there. Before every play I've ever had, all involved spent a decent amount of time discussing what's going to happen, what are the limits and boundaries, and how to stop a scene. There is no requirement in BDSM; only request. I think you are right to be concerned, especially if it's not your cup of tea.

[scots 33]

BDSM is all about trust. The ones I've done some, light, BDSM with I've known VERY well. Doubt if I'd be interested with someone who I'd only just met.

[Guest]

I enjoy aspects of BDSM, being restrained, spanked, told to do sexual things, etc., we combine it with our swinging some but it has never come up and happened when swinging with other folks other than perhaps hubby giving me a couple spanks during MFM.