Needing input please

[LnM7677 18]

So my husband and I met a couple which we ended up playing with. First time was just a soft swap same room, second time was separate rooms and my husband ended up having intercourse but the man I was with wasn't able to perform. There were things that did turn me off that the other man was doing and saying. I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I didn't tell him that it was a turn off during or after.

 

We are extremely new to the LS and they were the second couple that we soft played with but the first swap we have had. (Since this was our first time swapping, separate should not have happened.)

 

How do we respectfully decline anymore play time?

[bryonboru 60]

You went separate on your first full swap? Same room would probably have been the better choice, we save separate rooms for after we have a good connection with another couple, that lets us enjoy each other with a level of comfort.

 

As for the answer to the question, you just let them know in a nice way you would like to explore other couples.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

We have a code expression if we aren't interested in playing for any reason. If either of us say it, then no questions asked and we prepare to leave. Doesn't mean that we won't ever see the other couple again, just that one of us isn't 'feeling it' that night. Also, if either of us aren't into the other couple then we move forward to the next couple (once again, no questions asked, no explanation needed). When a couple is starting out, they have a tendency to take whatever couple they meet...spend some time and find a good match. It takes more time and work, but the end result is much more pleasurable.

[padoc 1,703]

What Gold said!!! Let me add that it took awhile but we learned that we owe no one we meet anything more than courtesy, unless the guy works on Mrs Doc's last nerve or tries to lick her toes. In that case we're gone in a flash! This is about recreation and fun for you as a couple and as a couple, if one half isn't into the situation, your first and only loyalty is to your partner, not to people you've met once or twice, EVEN if you've been naked with them.

[LnM7677 18]

Thank you for your responses, they are very helpful. We should have said something about same room but didn't. So yes, our first swap was separate but the good thing is that it did not damage my husband's and my relationship. From now on we are only same room until we feel comfortable enough with a couple. Mistakes are made in life and you learn from them whenever you can.