LoveLove 28 Posted May 28, 2018 We got very lucky, I think, that we went to our first club, first experience in the Lifestyle and it was pool night outdoors and lots of friendly couples to have conversations with. Even though there was more hard core stuff going on in different rooms elsewhere, for the most part, the experience was about listening to other couples school us in how to be safe and choosy. We could open up with each other about our sexuality with other non-judgemental people. The result of the evening wasn't sex with others just randomly, which is what I thought the Lifestyle was about - and something that turned me off about even considering it. What it was about for us was opening up each of us individually and as a couple about that wonderful sexuality we both have. And - OHMIGOD - we've been naked in our house for four days straight talking and my husband pretty much has a running hard on and we have had sex at least three times a day. I never knew the extent of how much or how often he wanted to have sex until now. At the club, after a couple of hours, I decided to just go for it and strip down to get in the pool and soon a crazy volleyball game ensued with several balls in the air and people in and out of the pool laughing and just having this incredibly joyful time - just existing and being free. Really, truly a wonderful experience that helped us set our boundaries personally since we were fortunate enough to have conversations with three couples who put us at ease about being picky and choosy and safety first. My husband said he is having such a fantastic time being able to walk nude around the house and stroke himself if he wants to - and I'm responding so much to his happiness and joy...truly, my heart is full of love for him. 7 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,066 Posted May 29, 2018 The lifestyle is whatever the two of you decide it should be. It can be just sex with random people or couples, it can be FWB where you are doing what we call 'couples dating'. It can be full sex or soft (touching only, no intercourse) or same room sex (no touching). It is whatever you want it to be, but the biggest benefit is that it promotes closeness and openness between the two of you. Glad to hear that your first experience is a positive one and we look forward to hearing about what happens now. Best wishes. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post