Our first experiences.

[greeneyez 16]

Hello first let me start by saying that we are new to the boards here. My husband and I are also new to the LS. We have had an experience that I am not sure was a good one. I am going to try and really give the short version here. I also hope that I am posting this in the right spot.

 

So, my husband and I really just started out looking at all this as a type of fantasy. We would talk about different scenarios and sexual situations and get ourselves worked up and have some really hot sex. I asked my husband if he would like to be with another woman and he said yes. Let me explain. I am a BBW and my husband is HWP. I have been a BBW since the birth of our son 26 years ago. My husband and I have been together 27 years. I was actually asking him if he would like to have sex with a woman that was thin as he had never been with a thin woman. I felt really bad that I had kept myself overweight and wanted him to experience what it would be like with a thin woman.

 

Well we actually met a couple at the first house party we went too. They were actually the hosts of the party. We just talked with them and everyone there played some games. Now before we went to this party my husband and I set up rules. Our rules were no kissing, and no sex as this was just we are going to watch and see how we feel about this type of situation Which was to watch them have sex. The other couple there were looking for the same just to watch. Well as the night progressed we thought nothing was going to happen and were deciding whether or not to leave. Well before we got to that point the hosts asked if we would like to dance. So, my husband was dancing with his girlfriend and I was dancing with the boyfriend. (They weren’t married.) The other couple were sitting the couch watching everything as the man in that couple was getting a BJ from his wife. As I was dancing with the boyfriend he kept trying to kiss me but I would not let him. My back turned toward my husband so I did not see what they were doing until I got turned around in the dance and there was my husband over there kissing this woman and he had her tit out and was playing with that and then he moved to suck her nipple. The expression on my face must have been priceless as the boyfriend quickly turned me away from them so I could not see them again. Nope that was not going to work. I turned back around and I heard the guy on the couch from the other couple say damn lets finally get this party started. My husband had picked the woman up and he was still playing with her tits. He must have seen my face as he put her down and came over to me and asked if I was okay. I replied with yes. It was because I at the moment wasn’t sure how I felt seeing that. My husband decided it was time for us to go. He said something was going to go down if we did not leave right now. We left. We also talked about what had happened all night and all the next day. I told him that the boyfriend kept trying to kiss me but I didn’t let him because we had made that rule. I then asked him why he broke the rule and kissed her. He just told me it was like he lost his head in the moment. The woman had whispered in his ear that she wanted to fuck him and he told her I want to fuck you too. I didn’t realize that when we were at the party and I told my husband shouldn’t you have come over to me and told me something like that. Anyway, we decided then that kissing was okay as it didn’t bother me like I thought it would, but I told my husband that what ever rules we make from now on he had to follow them period.

 

Now the hosts of the party invited us over to their house again for dinner and we went over and had a nice dinner and we all chatted about what we would like to see happen. Like I said my husband and I only wanted to watch them have sex and we told them that. So that is what happened that time. We watched them have sex and it was freaking hot. They kept saying we could have sex in the bed next to them if we wanted but we didn’t feel comfortable with that at all so we didn’t.

 

The next time we went over we had come up with some rules as my husband said if they invite us to have sex in the bed I want to do it he said. I said okay. So, other words we would all be with our own partners. This also was a big step for me as being a BBW it is not easy showing my body. I have had 2 c-sections etc. We also said if they wanted my husband to have sex with the woman he would just take and slide his dick into her just once and pull out. If I didn’t like it he would stop and if I was okay with it I would tell him to keep going. This was because I wasn’t sure how I would feel watching him with another woman. Here is what happened. They decided to have us get in the shower with them. My husband was kissing and feeling up the other woman and I was kissing and feeling up the boyfriend etc. When we got out of the shower we dried off and we all got into the bed. My husband and I were with each other and they were together. This was just fine with me, until the boyfriend asks my husband if he would like to lick the other woman’s pussy. He asked me if it was okay and I said yes. It was hot. Then when he was getting ready to come back to me the boyfriend asked do you want to fuck her. My husband looked at me and said yes but I have to have my wife’s permission. I said do the dip first as we discussed. He slowly slid his cock into her and then out and waited to see what I would say. I said damn that is hot so yes you can proceed. They had sex as me and the boyfriend watched them. The boyfriend did not do anything with me at this time. My husband and I once again went home had hot passionate sex and talked and talked about what had happened. Wow!

 

My husband and the boyfriend kept talking about fantasies that they each had that they would like to do. So, this was fantasies that my husband and I wanted to do together and the boyfriend and his woman had fantasies they would like to do. My husband and I talked about what we would like to see happen the next time we went over. I told him I was okay with pretty much anything as long as he did not cum in the other woman as I felt like that was way too much of an intimate thing and I wanted that to stay just between us. Here is what happened. We were all in the bed together and my hubby kept trying to be with me but the boyfriend would say to my husband hey why don’t you fuck her (his girlfriend) this way so my husband would go over and do her doggy, and there were other positions as well. I was not getting any attention at all from the boyfriend. He kept watching them do different positions etc. So, while they were all having fun and taking turns having sex with her I just sat and watched. I was very disappointed as this was the second time the boyfriend did not touch me or play with me.

 

When we went home that night I told my husband that I was angry because I got left out and every time my husband tried to be with me they would pull him away so that he would be doing something else with the woman. My husband talked to the boyfriend and just asked up front why he wasn’t doing anything with me. He asked the boyfriend if it was because of my weight and he said no it was because his girlfriend said he couldn’t play. We were both like okay so where did this leave all of us. We had a decision to make.

 

Well like a moth drawn to the flame we went over again and we were hoping that the woman would let the boyfriend play. Well she let me give him a BJ so my husband and I were like okay she is opening up more, and we still only had the one rule no cum in the other woman. Well when we proceeded to the bed that night we were all naked in bed. My hubby was with me and the boyfriend was with his woman. No sooner then my husband had penetrated me the boyfriend says we have a fantasy that we would like to try if it is okay with the both of you. He proceeded to tell us that they wanted my husband to cum in her so that the boyfriend could then have sex with her right after so he could play in my husbands cum. My stomach fell out I think. I said no I don’t like that idea. They were like okay and dropped it. They again pulled my husband away from me and he had sex with the woman while the boyfriend and I just watched. As they were having sex the woman kept saying cum in me and the boyfriend was like yeah cum in her and I was like no, but then my husband looked at me and asked if he could do it as he was close. This was also a fantasy that we had where we wanted to have another guy cum in me and then my husband would have sex with me right after. So, we told them we had that fantasy too. So, the boyfriend was like well you cum in her and then we will do your wife next. My husband and I thought hey the woman was going to finally let her boyfriend play as she was agreeing to it. Even though I did not want my husband to do it I told him it was okay and so he did. When he pulled out and I saw his cum oozing from her pussy I got sick and left the room and went and got dressed. My husband came out of the room to find me and we heard and saw the other couple having sex. I told my hubby that I did not like that and it made me sick and I wanted to go home. We let them finish and then told them we were going to go. So once again I did not get to play or experience any kind of fantasies.

 

We went over again and at this point I told my hubby please just stay with me and let them be with each other. He said okay. The boyfriend said his woman still did not want him to play. We were respectable and said that is cool. So, we told them that we would like to just be with our own partners tonight if we decided to do anything. They were like okay. Once again, we were all in the bed and we were with our own partners when the boyfriend started talking about dp and dv’s. The woman was like I don’t think I can handle 2 dicks at the same time, but the boyfriend was like yes you can we will take it slow. My husband asked me could he have sex with her and I was like yes but do not cum in her. When he started having sex with her I was totally freaking out inside this time. I was so worried he was going to cum in her. If I thought he was getting close I would make him withdraw from her. Well what happened this time is the woman got on top of my husband and the boyfriend got behind her and they were trying to do a double vagina on her. No one even asked they were just trying to do it. The boyfriend would get it started but my hubby kept going soft. He said it was very weird having another guys dick touching his. Well there is another fantasy that we would have liked to have done together and here he was doing it with this other woman and her boyfriend. I was pissed.

 

I told my husband we are not going to do anything with them anymore. Not only did he get to experience what it was like to have sex with someone thin, but I didn’t get to experience anything with another man, and I had to watch him and this other couple fulfill some of the same fantasies we had he did them with them and that was wrong. He got to experience what it was like to fuck another woman after another guy came in her as the boyfriend had cum in her so my husband has sex with her right after. He came in here and the boyfriend got to play in my husband’s cum. He got to try a DV with them, and the worst part I told him was when he would use me to get his dick hard and then go and have sex with her. He told me he was very sorry and was just so caught up in the moment. I was like no excuses we always talked after each and every time we had an encounter with them so he knew where I stood. How would he like it if I was the one having sex with another guy and he had to just sit and watch and didn’t get to do anything? He thought about that and saw where I was coming from.

 

We stopped playing with them. We did find another couple that was full swap and I got to be with another man, and my husband was with his wife. It was same room. It wasn’t really as thrilling as I thought it would be and we have not done anything in over a year. We have just recently been talking about trying it again with a full swap couple. I just feel so jaded at the moment about what went down before which is probably our fault anyway as we knew she would not let her boyfriend play although he would tell my hubby that she was going to let him do it this time etc. The one time she did say it was okay, he went to have sex with me and then he just stopped and said I can’t do this. Well my husband said the woman was giving the boyfriend these dirty looks. So, he just didn’t even try. That is why we stopped as they kept leading us on. I am still not even sure why they didn’t just pick a male to come over and play with them, why did they pick us and then only played with my hubby and not me. Sorry for such a long post.

[SJBluebirds 195]

Hello, Greeneyez Lady;

 

Do not apologize for writing a long post; you needed to write-out all your feelings and experiences and this is A Good Thing. It is cathartic for you, it helps articulate and define your feelings, and helps us -- the readers -- understand where you're coming from.

 

It sounds like your husband let the excitement and novelty of the first couple short-circuit his brain. I don't doubt his love and concern for you, so this means it will be up to both of you to communicate more and better. It also means -- if you decide to find another couple to play with again -- you need to find a couple who is comfortable saying 'no' to those activities you've already told them are off the table. A mature, compassionate couple. Comfortable with themselves and who enjoy pleasing their partners and who are enthusiastic about opening up a new world of shared pleasure for a couple of newbies, or -- in your case -- a couple who hasn't had the best introductory experiences.

 

If things aren't going well for you, personally, you have the right -- heck, you have the obligation! -- to put your foot down and stop whatever is going on. As a couple, you both have to consent to whatever either of you do with others, and you have to be enjoying what you're doing. Keep it healthy. Not just physically with condoms and testing, but keep it healthy emotionally and mentally, too.

 

If you both decide together that moving forward with another couple is a possibility, you need to find that patient and understanding and compassionate couple who can take the lead and guide you along further. Keep up the hope; they're out there.

[njbm 2,901]

Consideration for your spouse is a cornerstone to success in this hobby.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

We didn't make it past the first (actually second) paragraph before we knew that this wasn't going to have a happy ending (sic).

 

I was actually asking him if he would like to have sex with a woman that was thin as he had never been with a thin woman.

 

WRONG WRONG WRONG! He choose YOU. He married you, he had children with you, he even played with a 'thin' woman but still came home with YOU. You need to realize he loves YOU. There are actually guys that think women should have curves (present company included).

 

I felt really bad that I had kept myself overweight and wanted him to experience what it would be like with a thin woman.

 

Bad enough to do anything about it, or did you just feel bad? If you don't like how you look, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! At the same time, he's still with you, just how you are and not complaining.

 

Our rules were no kissing, and no sex as this was just we are going to watch

 

SJBluebirds got this one right: It sounds like your husband let the excitement and novelty of the first couple short-circuit his brain. He should be reminded ONCE that the rules are THE RULES and that violating them a second time will end this fantasy. Rules will adapt and change as time goes on, but until they can be discussed (outside of a sexual situation) they do not change. When we started out, we too had a no kissing rule. We rather quickly realized that we were both okay with setting that rule aside and so we did just that. Still, it was an important rule when we started but we adapted.

 

It also sounds like the other couple was very disrespectful. If they wanted to play with a guy (the easiest thing to find) and not play with you, then they should have told you up front or just found a guy. When it became apparent that this is all they wanted you both should have walked away at this point (her not wanting to share...what are they doing here then?). One of our hard rules is that if either of us isn't 'feeling it', we both walk away, no questions, no explanations. Sometimes you can't explain what the problem was, sometimes is just a feeling or vibe, but if that happens, walk away...there are other couples. Of course this is easy to say, but hard to do when you have found your first couple that seems 'close enough'. Close enough is never close enough. Lesson learned and move forward.

 

Not only did he get to experience what it was like to have sex with someone thin, but I didn’t get to experience anything with another man, and I had to watch him and this other couple fulfill some of the same fantasies we had he did them with them and that was wrong.

 

Stop this already! Seriously, I have no interest in being with a 'thin woman'. Ms. Gold isn't 'that' big (meaning she's bigger than she wants to be but she's perfect for me), but she's more than I ever imagined having.

 

I just feel so jaded at the moment about what went down before...

 

Work on the communication between you and your husband. You shouldn't allow things to get to where you are ever angry. If things with another couple isn't going where you want or you are feeling off, then there is always the next time. He's more important (and vice-versa) than this. This is just 'play'. If it isn't fun, then stop playing. We wish you both the best. Learn from this experience and move forward but don't let it repeat. Good luck and let us know how things progress.