So conflicted, been great for him, not for me

[MegabyteB 15]

My husband and I are about a year or so into the LS and have made some great friends. We have had several full swap experiences. They were great for him, me, not so much. We are a biracial couple, and while he isn't the typical BBC, he can hold his own. I'm finding that the white men in the couples we are with just aren't satisfying me sexually. And black couples usually don't want to swap because my husband "does not look black" for the women.

 

Not sure what to do or how to proceed.

 

Kind words or thoughts?

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Swinging is harder than one might expect, and takes a lot of patience...and then some more patience. It sounds like there are several positives to go along with negative, so I would try to stay focused on those and then think about what you can do to maybe increase your success rate at finding compatible couples that you really have good chemistry with. Maybe try some different venues? Maybe branch out a little further and change the location on your profile to reach a new audience? Or, maybe try another personals site all together. Just some ideas.

[njbm 2,877]

Just look at the encounters as fun. We are color, nationality and religion blind. If we see a couple say that they don’t play with certain types of people, they are not for us. As a mixed couple, you probably encounter some turbulence.

 

Meet people, see how it goes, have fun. There is nothing predictable about this hobby. The best hitters make an out two out of three times. Just keep swinging.

[JandKinBoise 858]

What is is about the men that is giving you problems? Selfish? Boorish? Too small? if they are too small, not much to do about that. Many shortcomings can be overcome though. These men want to please you, maybe you could show them how. We've had many lovers that needed time, practice and guidance.

[njbm 2,877]

Good point by JandK. I’ve had bad first sessions with a couple of partners. We tried again much later and it went well. Even better in subsequent sessions as we figured out what we liked. The first session with a new partner can be awkward.

[MegabyteB 15]

Very true. But with one couple in particular it was bad enough for me to say never again to my husband!!