Afro-dytee 15 Posted June 23, 2018 Ok. The long and short of is...My vagina has a mind of "her" own....and my libido isn't helping! The facts: 1. I'm super horny. 2. My long term lover (25 years) has "filed several grievances" with me as it relates to our sex life. 2a. I'm a selfish lover 2b. I'm never satisfied 2c. I want too much sex 2d. I'm not considerate to his needs. Conclusion....he has "cut me off" sexually. 3. Every session for me ends up being a marathon. 4. We've had 3somes and they both tap out. My dilemma is that I have an un usually high sex drive for a woman my age. (We are in our early 40s) I am multi orgasmic and by the time hes finishing up....im just getting warmed up. He has even gone as far as to time us. And on average we can go for 2-3 hrs. Which for me....is the midway point. Which to his credit, I see how hard he works to keep up with me and truly appreciate it. Additionally, I have tried to remedy this by finishing myself off after he's done...and this a why he thinks I'm greedy and selfish. Also, lubrication is never an issue, I stay super wet and ultimately feel like I'm not done until "she" dries up, which can take a LONG time. Regarding his grievances, I try very hard to take care of him....and he says I do. However, because I am multi orgasmic when I cum, my pussy contracts and pushes him out. Then she closes up which makes re entry impossible. This usually lasts for about 5 minutes...then I can re mount lol. He insists that I do this on purpose, because he has never experienced this with other partners. Well....neither have I. And it would totally counter productive for me to close him out intentionally. (This is a "hazard" of kegels) I've never been a size queen, but he is on the smaller side, which is why I WON'T address the reasons why this is happening as it is likely to be more hurtful than helpful. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas that may help us? Keeping in mind, he refuses to try a cock ring and I can outlast the Viagra... Help... Quote Share this post Link to post
padoc 1,704 Posted June 23, 2018 We think you sound like a LOT of fun. Our 1st suggestion is to start with a vibrator (with fresh batteries). I don't think you can out last that. Once your more than halfway, bring hubby in for the big finish for both of you. Quote Share this post Link to post
PSULioness 859 Posted June 23, 2018 Are you married or is he your lover? 25 years and you are now finding that you aren’t sexually compatible? Why not visit a sex club and find as many men as you need. Quote Share this post Link to post
Afro-dytee 15 Posted June 24, 2018 We think you sound like a LOT of fun. Our 1st suggestion is to start with a vibrator (with fresh batteries). I don't think you can out last that. Once your more than halfway, bring hubby in for the big finish for both of you. Thanks Padoc....we unsuccessfully tried this with a vibrator before....we discussed using a simple dildo. I think less vibration from a lifelike dildo could work. Okay....so we weren't super far off lol Quote Share this post Link to post
Afro-dytee 15 Posted June 24, 2018 Are you married or is he your lover? 25 years and you are now finding that you aren’t sexually compatible? Why not visit a sex club and find as many men as you need. No, not married. But thats a long story for another thread. We have been very compatible since we were in our late teens, however, in the last few years my drive has sky rocketed and his hasnt. We've recently been to clubs, I took him to some places I frequented with my last partner. I've been in the lifestyle since about 2000. But He's very new to this. Like super new....like performance anxiety new lol I'm hoping that once he gets more acclimated we can go ALL in. I'm not gonna leave him at coat check and go totally wild lol Quote Share this post Link to post
PSULioness 859 Posted June 24, 2018 No, not married. But thats a long story for another thread. We have been very compatible since we were in our late teens, however, in the last few years my drive has sky rocketed and his hasnt. We've recently been to clubs, I took him to some places I frequented with my last partner. I've been in the lifestyle since about 2000. But He's very new to this. Like super new....like performance anxiety new lol I'm hoping that once he gets more acclimated we can go ALL in. I'm not gonna leave him at coat check and go totally wild lol Oh. In another post you said you are married and in another post you said you went to clubs. Quote Share this post Link to post
