Having a hard time accepting my body.

[Skullsaw 17]

My husband and I have been playing in the lifestyle for about a year. We’ve been on a few dates with a girlfriend and a couple dates with this cute couple we met. We also often share explicit photos with other friends over text.

 

All of our ‘girlfriends’ have very slim figures. All of them look just beautiful naked.

 

..I’ve had 2 kids and would consider myself a bigger girl. I’m about 180, 5”6. My body does not look nice and smooth like theirs when I’m naked. I’ve got a bit of a tummy. I’ve got rolls.

When we play with others, usually my stomach is completely covered. I wear lingerie that covers the parts of my body that I hate. Even thought our guy friends think I’m ‘so sexy’, they’ve never really seen me totally naked and I feel like if they did they wouldn’t think I’m that attractive..I can’t even bring myself to take a picture of my body being totally naked. When our friends send us pictures I just get discouraged and sad because I wish I could look like them, but it’s just not in the cards.

 

What do I do ?

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Real women have curves [PERIOD]

[bryonboru 60]

Something that most women know but may not understand, is that men are very visual but we also have a very narrow attention span.

 

When we see a confident lady with or without cloths on, we can only take in little pieces at a time vs the whole picture. We then take these pieces and create a visual that we are excited about. We are not looking at the rolls, scars or tummy, we are looking at a sexy confident woman that would like to play with us. You are overthinking, men are much simpler than that when it comes to sex.

[MrSaxon 39]

Despite having three children, my wife embarked on a quest of redifinement about a year ago. Coincidentally when we joined the LS. She started a new physical hobby, gained a LOT of confidence, and lost approximately 60 pounds. Her belly isn’t her proudest achievement, but she is no longer ashamed of it because she has literally worked her ass off. While I would never “tell” somebody to do something; in our mid-life stage of the game both of us rediscovering our bodies in a sexual as well as a physical sense has made a world of difference in our sex lives and relationship as a whole. Maybe find something to redefine yourself?

[padoc 1,703]

Real women DO have curves and we like them a lot….

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Padoc: Love the dress and the curves!

[padoc 1,703]

[luvin eye full 140]

!st off - good on you for still giving it ago!

 

For myself i can find sexy in most girls, the only time i can not is when they are up them self's so much even their husbands are glad to swap just for some peace lol

Honestly if the guys are saying your so sexy then to them you are. But i get you feel differently i think we all have some things we would change -

 

Understand ( and try to except ) that you are more then what you see in your mind - you have worth in the bedroom and beyond it, so find some sexy stuff to ware and go for it if that's what you feel you need to do.

 

On a side note - we have a few daughters and sons and i have spent a life time telling them not to fall for this crap about you must look like this or that, ( i'm not saying don't be healthy )

 

And lastly NO real women don't have to have curves at all - please stop body shaming the skinny girls they do have feelings too.

They also don't need to have boob jobs or cut up the V's lips and so on. Nor should my sons have to have 12 packs and dicks they have to carry in a suit case.

[padoc 1,703]

OMFG…read the OP!! Nobody shamed anybody! You gonna find as a new # next or maybe a ribbon? Lighten up and try to stay with the discussion.

[luvin eye full 140]

OMFG…read the OP!! Nobody shamed anybody! You gonna find as a new # next or maybe a ribbon? Lighten up and try to stay with the discussion.

 

 

Well actually ... maybe you should read reply's - yours included - I would think a real women is just that - why do you need to put a shape to them.

 

But you go about your ways and i;ll say what i fuckin want too.

[tbone1 79]

Skullsaw - I'm sure you are a beautiful lady and there are thousands of guys who would think so, and would love to have play time with you. My wife has had a terrible body image problem for many years for many reasons including being molested by her brother when she was young, very large boobs, being overweight, etc., so even as I guy I can sympathize with you. She has had breast reduction surgery that was life-changing, and has changed her diet and is gluten free and lost 45 pounds. She has more confidence now than ever before. The experience that is responsible for much of this is our trips to Hedonism 2 in Jamaica. If you are not familiar with Hedo, it is a beautiful resort in Negril that is all-inclusive, clothing optional, and swinger friendly. If you go, you will meet wonderful friendly people from all over and probably have the best vacation of your life. People there are non-judgmental, all ages, all shapes and sizes, and while most are nude during the day and many are swingers, there is no pressure to do anything except enjoy your vacation the way you want to. If you are interested in learning more about Hedo, do some reading online (Adult Travel Forum has lots of info), or find out which groups are going during which weeks and find a group you like and a week that fits your schedule. Good luck!

[Jane1902 476]

Self depreciation is never sexy to me in either men or women. I'm in my 50's, a bit soft in the middle with stretch marks, my boobs are lower and less full than they used to be. I could go on and on. Actually I think I look pretty good, have great legs, tight pussy, killer smile and a sense of humor. I work to balance the ice cream intake against my core workouts. Riding cowgirl is an excellent one by the way. I never worry about the things I don't like about my body nor think my partner is comparing me to some air brushed image while we're going at it. Instead he is seeing my smile of joy and watching, feeling, sharing the moment. Wear sexy lingerie if it makes you feel better, but do it with confidence.

[padoc 1,703]

Well actually ... maybe you should read reply's - yours included - I would think a real women is just that - why do you need to put a shape to them.

 

But you go about your ways and i;ll say what i fuckin want too.

 

You can say any silly thing you want, I was trying to spare you the embarrassment of you looking further the fool. Look closely at the posts..who said anything about skinny girls? I guess they have PC police in Oz as well.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Padac: We would both be checking out your wife if she were ever to walk by on the street somewhere, it wouldn't matter that you were swingers. Thank you for sharing her pictures with us.

 

Jane1902: You had us with 'killer smile'...