Too much or too little?

[Lifeisadventure 17]

Men: When you go out into public with your wife or SO, do you like her to wear more or less? Do you like her to be somewhat revealing to others? Does it turn you on or make you feel uncomfortable if someone checks her out?

 

Women: When you go out into public, do you like to show a little more so people look at you, or does it bother you when people look at you in a not-so-innocent manner?

[adamgunn 1,460]

In public, my wife wore what was normal for her. She had a job in a school district, discretion was necessary.

 

If we were out of town, yeah, she'd dress a bit more sexily. We both enjoyed her getting checked out.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

[sc_david 15]

I'm divorced now but I used to love it when my ex would dress in revealing outfits, and loved it even more when she would exhibit herself to other men, in the right situation.

[Anon321 521]

I don't have too much preference in how she dresses. When she's out normally she dresses normally. When the 2 of us go out she dresses MUCH more provocatively. And when she or we are going out looking for another guy or couple she dresses.... quite slutty.

[Napoleon 230]

When me and one or all of my girlfriends go out we dress conservative most of the time. They're beautiful young women, they get bombarded with massive amounts of unwanted attention even when they dress conservative. Dressing sexy the unwanted attention is far worse.

[Fla-swing99 136]

Coming from the Woman: When I go out I love to wear less and wear revealing clothing. It is a huge turn on for my husband and I to see and know others are looking at me and checking me out. We both think it's so hot wondering what others that are looking at me or my body are thinking to themselves. My motto, if you have it, flaunt it.

 

Coming from the Man: I absolutely love when my wife wears skimpy or revealing outfits when we go out. I absolutely love to see how many men/people will look at her knowing what most of them are thinking. Sometimes when we go out I will purposely walk behind her a few feet and watch as she walks by people how many looks she gets. It's hot knowing they are looking at my wife and probably thinking what it would be like to be with her. A lot of times we will see couples out together and the husband is checking out my wife and gets busted by his wife. For the couples that don't have relationships like a lot of us do, where they can't look at the opposite sex when they are together because one or both of them would get mad, it's funny to see how many wives bust their husband looking and give them the look of death.

[Guest]

I have been lucky in that I’ve had two difference husbands over the years who both seem to enjoy me dressing somewhat sexually. I’ve worked hard to maintain my figure and enjoy the response I get from them and other men when I do so.

[Numex 2,409]

We wish to neither be misinterpreted nor offend, so my wife dresses conservatively unless we're with our play partners.

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

Wife owns some very sexy clothes already, but if we have a trip planned the HEDO or Vegas I will usually buy her something, and when we go out she usually goes without underwear., and before we go in public I play with her for a while to make her and I hotter.

[mexicolovers 24]

My wife prefers something semi revealing rather than totally revealing. I think it’s sexy to show some but not everything too.

[enhancer 1,584]

The missus usually dresses pretty casual and not overly revealing for the most part! However it doesn’t really matter what she wears her shape is always noticeable due to her big round sexy ass that pops out.

 

I catch people checking her out often when we are out when she walks by them with her ass swaying back and forth. Absolutely love it when they do and understand why they do. It is hard not to look at.

[kittyswinger 260]

When we play with others, I definitely wear more sexy dresses. But normally both my SO and bf have different fashion tastes. When I spend the weekend with bf, there is a section of his closet that have my dresses on (mostly gifts from him). Since we hang around with his much younger crowd, I have to wear more revealing and carefree outfits when we go out. Bf appears to enjoy the attention we get from others.

[couplers 4,614]

We have children, and with our poly family situation worry about what a over-religious Department of Children and Families employee could do to us. We do nothing to bring attention to ourselves or our arrangement. That includes us conforming to conservative social norms in public. Being on this board sometimes concerns me, and I do things to obscure who and where we are.

[lcmim 1,081]

We have children, and with our poly family situation worry about what a over-religious Department of Children and Families employee could do to us. We do nothing to bring attention to ourselves or our arrangement. That includes us conforming to conservative social norms in public. Being on this board sometimes concerns me, and I do things to obscure who and where we are.

 

That is truly sad. I am guessing that at least half of their fellow students are living with half siblings whose dads or moms are in the wind and nobody thinks twice about it, while you with a stable family needs to seek cover.

 

While I am posting you , I must tell you how much my wife and I have been enjoying your insights. We are a married couple of 35 years, who play with others. If the right people came along I could see us in a Poly relationship of some sort. With the correct people it would seem the natural course.

 

Perhaps that is just me though, returning to the communal lifestyle of my 20's.

 

Mike

[couplers 4,614]

... you with a stable family needs to seek cover.

We are extremely protective of our children and they are very well provided for. They are not exposed to anything sexual, but we worry.

 

... If the right people came along I could see us in a Poly relationship of some sort. With the correct people it would seem the natural course..

For our family it seems entirely natural. I actually couldn't imagine having a family any other way, especially with Lora and Clair. The two things wrong with the Mormon and Muslim "polygamy" is the compulsion of young women/girls, which is rape actually, but also happens in any forced marriage, and also the fact that women are not allowed additional partners either in the marriage or just for sex.

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

Men: When you go out into public with your wife or SO, do you like her to wear more or less? Do you like her to be somewhat revealing to others? Does it turn you on or make you feel uncomfortable if someone checks her out?

 

It's not a question of more/less, but rather how attractive she is in her dress. I of course respect when she just wants to bum about, but also love it when she dresses nicely. I'm quite fine with her being revealing to others, but we're somewhat restrained in doing so in that we both agree some people just don't want to see that. So, 'standard' revealing is the norm; i.e. no more than the maximum revealing than you might otherwise see in a normal public setting. The situation hasn't arisen, but I'd be fine with her exposing herself in some way to a guy who was obviously interested.

 

I don't mind other men looking at my wife at all, but would be put off if they were pigs about it. Thankfully that hasn't happened. I enjoy seeing other men checking out my wife. It's a compliment, really, if they do so respectfully.

 

 

Women: When you go out into public, do you like to show a little more so people look at you, or does it bother you when people look at you in a not-so-innocent manner?

 

My wife was too often the subject of unwanted attention when she was a late teen and early adult. It really turned her off, and set in her mind a general distaste for men appreciating her beauty. Over time, I've tried to show a different side of this, in that if a man is being appreciative without being objectifying or denigrating, it's quite a different thing than a walking hormone male dragging his tongue on the ground. My wife very much enjoys the attention of other men in swinging, so this is slowly translating into enjoying the attention of other men in general, if done respectfully. Somewhat recently, my wife took one of our cars into a auto repair place. A young mechanic there, possibly young enough to be her son, took a fancy to her and was flirting with her in a respectful but obvious way. That was a good experience for her.

[JessicaJamison 861]

I wear normal clothes when I am out doing normal things.  If I am out on the prowl then I dress provocative.

[sdexcalibur 27]

When we go out less is more granted it has to be in the right setting. Low cut shirts with or without a bra. I love being on display and the attention both positive and negative. Men seem to love it, wives and girlfriends do the stink eye. Haters going to hate I say. 

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Pierced nipples?!! Sexy being able to see that thru your top.

[let's do it again 414]

I like her to wear less, She is in her 50's and has a great body. It does turn me on when guys check her out, but it turns me on more when a hot woman checks her out, which happens more than you would think. I think most women dress to get noticed.

[couplers 4,614]

On 4/17/2021 at 6:11 AM, sdexcalibur said:

I love being on display and the attention both positive and negative.

Your attitude is wonderful, "both positive and negative."

 

My problem (sometimes it's a feature) being scrawny is that my bare little tits can be seen down my shirt.  My hip bones can sometimes hold out the bottom of a two-piece bathing suit so you can see my pubes.  

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

The only thing that matters to me is how Mrs. FL feels about herself. Context matters. She wants to be 'appropriate', have her style, and be in control. A family gathering? She'll likely wear something modest in seasonal colors. An adult holiday cocktail party? Something sparkly with deep decolletage.