Wife recently asked if we can swing

[hawttcouple8587 16]

My wife for 15 years suddenly suggested that we should start swinging. I am excite but I dont know how serious she is. I would love to enhance our sex life with a little bit of excitement. I just hope she does not back out at the last minute. Reason being is because she has not been with anyone but me. How do I make her feel comfortable as in pre/post action. This is my first time too. I would love to share this experience with her.

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Simply start by talking to your wife and finding out why she wants to try swinging, and what she would expect from swinging?

 

For example.....

 

Does she want to swing because she assumes your bored with your sex life?

Does she want to swing because of something you have said or done?

Does she want to swing because you don't have sex much as a couple?

Does she want to swing because your always talking about sex with other people?

Does she want to swing because either you of her has had an affair and swinging seems a better way?

Does she want to swing because she wants to try sex with new people?

 

Basically is she interested inn swinging for herself / because of you?

 

Also find out what she would expect.

 

Does she want to sleep with another man?

Does she want to sleep with another women?

Would she prefer finding another couple?

 

How often would she like to meet this person?

Where would she like to meet this person you swing with?

What would this person be like, would they be tall, short, thin, fat, young, old?

How old would her ideal person be, what age rage would she feel comfy with?

What things would she like to try?

What things would she not like to try?

Does she want you all to have sex in the same room, or does she want to swap partners and have sex in different rooms?

Would the person you met be a drinker, smoker, or not?

Would she prefer someone with tattoos, muscles, or someone without tattoos?

If she met her ideal person to swing with who would they be, what dress sense would they have?

Does she have any worries or fears regarding this subject, if so what?

Does she have any rules or boundaries she would want putting in place?

 

 

Really there are a 1'000 different questions you could ask your wife but talking and finding out what she wants and expects will help you both understand the situation and become a little more comfy with things.

 

Perhaps another good question is regarding "FRIENDSHIP"

 

You see a lot of people look at swinging as "Just Sex" that to a lot of people swinging is basically just meeting new people and fucking them, some swingers don't really care who they meet, they are happy to meet a total stranger and just have sex with them. I have known couples who attend swingers events and the wife has sex with 3 or 4 different men and really she doesn't even know their names, that for a lot of people swinging is just about sex.

 

For some people however swinging is about sex & friendship, that really they are looking for a friend with benefits situation, those people would prefer to meet someone / get to know them / share drinks with them / hang out with them / start a small amount of friendship with them / meet them for coffee / have the occasional meal / and also have sex as well.

 

Which would your wife prefer? Would she be okay just meeting some sexy stranger and having sex there and then, or would she prefer to start a friendship with a person and get to know them before jumping in bed.

 

Really I'd just suggest talking to your wife a lot more and reading these forums.

[padoc 1,703]

Blah, blah, blah!!

You're in the perfect place to give this hobby a look. Spend a few saturday's at Haulover beach, chat with other naked couples. Swingers are easy to identify when naked. Set a few rules for yourselves and go to Trapeze on a Sunday night. The crowd is smaller and less frenetic than saturday night but it's always a friendly group. Dress provocatively, have dinner, chat with people, relax with a few adult beverages. Then go to the back in the provided towels. Again, walk around, look around, chat with people, stay close to each other and talk about what you're seeing. Stay within your initial rules that first night. You'll have lots to discuss when you get home that night and during the next week or so between bouts of wild monkey sex. Trust me, if nothing

else, a night there observing will be a hugely erotic experience

[SAMnTINA 362]

Good news is that you both meet the most important test and that is you are willing to talk about it. Reasons are unimportant what is important is communication. Talk rool play and then go for if you are both interested. We did long ago, but as I remember when we agreeded to give it a try we also agreeded if it was not something we wanted to do again we would not judge each other. Truth is other than nerves the first time and not know how to get rid of the other couple after we did it so we could talk and make sure we were both still ok with everything, we had a blast and wanted to do it again maybe with a few less gitters. Been doing it ever since and it's only brought us closer, we are still each others best friend and lover, but a little new adventure now and then adds to our relationship and while having sex with others is fun and exciting we have no desire to spend the night sleeping next to anyone but each other.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Don't ask us, ask her. It sounds like you are on the verge of having the communication required to be successful with this. Talk more to her and just keep talking.

[LKNcouple 36]

Being in Miami, you can spend a saturday night a the Trapeze in Ft Lauderdale. Make some rules before you go. Maybe the first time, you just want to watch and check it out. I would stick to the rules. It is a BYOB club, go up, dress sexy, dance have some fun, meet some people then go to the locker room grab a towel, take your clothes off, and head to the back room and find a spot and enjoy yourselves. Get comfortable with the atmosphere. You may want to just be with yourselves, Watch some people, and have sex, and then the next time take it a little farther. I would definitely let your wife determine how fast you go.

[jnrswinger 62]

Good news is that you both meet the most important test and that is you are willing to talk about it. Reasons are unimportant what is important is communication. Talk rool play and then go for if you are both interested. We did long ago, but as I remember when we agreeded to give it a try we also agreeded if it was not something we wanted to do again we would not judge each other. Truth is other than nerves the first time and not know how to get rid of the other couple after we did it so we could talk and make sure we were both still ok with everything, we had a blast and wanted to do it again maybe with a few less gitters. Been doing it ever since and it's only brought us closer, we are still each others best friend and lover, but a little new adventure now and then adds to our relationship and while having sex with others is fun and exciting we have no desire to spend the night sleeping next to anyone but each other.

 

Sounds like the perfect swinging relationship!!

[ViSexual 1,008]

So, the conversation has opened? And there's no hurry to go past the conversation either. Thinking back, it was the conversation that is one of my favorite memories. Once we, me and my wife of 46 years now, started talking about swinging we were able to say anything to each other. Now it's been years since we were playing but, even now, it's nice to be able to comment about a particularly nice behind or set of breasts without her getting upset. And I especially love it when she sees some young hunk and grins and tells me how hot she thinks he is. Pick out couples on the street that you think would make great playmates for the two of you and then speculate on how they'd look naked and how good they'd be in bed. Heck, discuss couples you know and like even though you know they'd never be playmates. The more you talk, the more you find out each others likes and dislikes.