Married and swinging

[D1205 15]

Hello all! My wife and I have been in the LS for about 5 years. Just recently we haven’t been getting along great and now she has decided to just stop and not interested in swinging at all. This is perfectly fine and I would never pressure it just as we didn’t when we started. On the backside, we did start! And it’s somethig that has become a part of our lives. Now our own sex at home is suffering due to the lack of excitement and what we have experienced in the last 5 years.

 

Unfortunately we may be coming to an end but not due to swinging at all. As I move forward, I defiantly want to remain in the LS but as everyone knows, finding a single female that is open to the idea or already in it, is rare. We were friends partners with all married couples and not singles.

 

Not looking for marriage advice but on how you move forward afterwards.

 

Thanks in advance

[GoldCoCouple 4,070]

First off:

 

Second: So there's no way to save this or you are not interested in saving your current relationship?

 

Finally: Assuming question two is no, how do you move forward...find a new woman, establish a great, open relationship based on love trust and communication. Wait until you are as close as possible to each other with fantastic communication, then bring up the suggestion about swinging and hope that she is receptive. Maybe rethinking the answer to question two is easier?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,027]

. . . Unfortunately we may be coming to an end . . .

Might be coming to an end? My recommendation is to arrive at a definite answer either yes or no. You will then be able to move back into the swing scene.

[Brimba 30]

Hello all! My wife and I have been in the LS for about 5 years. Just recently we haven’t been getting along great and now she has decided to just stop and not interested in swinging at all. This is perfectly fine and I would never pressure it just as we didn’t when we started. On the backside, we did start! And it’s somethig that has become a part of our lives. Now our own sex at home is suffering due to the lack of excitement and what we have experienced in the last 5 years.

 

Unfortunately we may be coming to an end but not due to swinging at all. As I move forward, I defiantly want to remain in the LS but as everyone knows, finding a single female that is open to the idea or already in it, is rare. We were friends partners with all married couples and not singles.

 

Not looking for marriage advice but on how you move forward afterwards.

 

Thanks in advance

 

Join some clubs where single male and female are permitted. Or, start one of your own. You'll find that intyeresting indeed.

[Guy1964 177]

Obviously i dont know details but divorce is often a permanent solution to a temporary problem

[agreatguy 270]

Hello all! My wife and I have been in the LS for about 5 years. Just recently we haven’t been getting along great and now she has decided to just stop and not interested in swinging at all. This is perfectly fine and I would never pressure it just as we didn’t when we started. On the backside, we did start! And it’s somethig that has become a part of our lives. Now our own sex at home is suffering due to the lack of excitement and what we have experienced in the last 5 years.

 

Unfortunately we may be coming to an end but not due to swinging at all. As I move forward, I defiantly want to remain in the LS but as everyone knows, finding a single female that is open to the idea or already in it, is rare. We were friends partners with all married couples and not singles.

 

Not looking for marriage advice but on how you move forward afterwards.

 

Thanks in advance

 

Know what you want and communicate it. I was married for many years but we never even dipped our toe in the lifestyle waters. I knew that was something I wanted to explore and did a little as a single male. What stood out to me with other long time lifestyle couples I got to know was the openness and honesty they had. I wanted that, not to play as a single male for the rest of my life.

 

I opened an account on a traditional dating site, one that I had not already been on and put it out there. At least in as much detail as the admins let me. I had to rewrite the profile a few times but I got the point across that I wanted to explore the lifestyle in an otherwise loving, trusting and committed relationship. My forever wife answered the add, along with a few others. It's possible because it worked for me. Just know what you want and communicate it. They'll either accept you for who you are, which is what we all want, or they won't and you'll need to move on. Don't give up though and accept something less than what you want. She's out there, you just have to have some patience.