Feelings on the end of sexual monogamy

[hasanth 19]

Question for couples that were together monogamously for awhile before swinging. Were you sad about the end of your sexual monogamy?

[lcmim 1,082]

35+ years. Not in the least. We were ready as a couple.

[padoc 1,703]

Oh HELL no!!! Our starting to swing was a much discussed mutual decision. We started slowly, getting our feet wet and eventually, everything else got wet and we've had a blast for more than 15 years. Our only regret is that we didn't start sooner.

[hasanth 19]

35+ years. Not in the least. We were ready as a couple.

Nice to hear

Oh HELL no!!! Our starting to swing was a much discussed mutual decision. We started slowly, getting our feet wet and eventually, everything else got wet and we've had a blast for more than 15 years. Our only regret is that we didn't start sooner.

 

Can you tell it step by step

[Guest]

I was widowed after 30 years of marriage, he was divorced after 28 years, we started swinging together before we married. Have enjoyed the life-style a great deal, no regrets yet, 7 years into it.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

What Padoc said...(just not the 15 years)

[WesternSwing 504]

Question for couples that were together monogamously for awhile before swinging. Were you sad about the end of your sexual monogamy?

 

Nope. Because it was a mutually agreed upon change in our relationship. I feel one could only be sad about it if they were being coerced or convinced into non-monogamy by their partner/spouse and weren't fully on-board with it. If both people were on the same page, and felt the same way about monogamy and non-monogamy, they both should be excited, even if there is some nervousness about the new and uncharted territory their relationship is entering.

[Numex 2,420]

I figured that if my wife had sex with others before me and if I dropped dead she'd eventually have sex with others after me, so what's the big deal if she has sex with others while we're together?

[Alura 2,774]

I don't think Mrs. Alura and I even thought of the concept of leaving behind monogamy. We were too busy laughing, joking, and having fun with another couple in bed.

[couplers 4,649]

"Feelings on the end of sexual monogamy."

 

Actually, it felt quite normal and like something that I deserved.

[adamgunn 1,460]

No, neither I or my wife were sad about losing our 'monogamy,' or any other negative emotion.

 

We'd been married for seventeen year, we needed something to get our juices flowing. We tried this and that, (including some challenges in the book 101 Nights of Great Sex by Laura Corn,) but we needed more. We started talking about the experiences we had before we were married with other people as foreplay. It took us three years, but finally we started swinging. We were happy, never looked back.

[oc1234 435]

My wife and I were also married for about 17 years before our best friends and fellow nudists seduced us and we both thought it was the best thing that ever happened to us. We have continued to be very close to them even though they eventually divorced and remarried other people we also know. Our male friend's new wife died a few years ago so we became very close to him and have had threesomes and my wife has had a lot of alone times with him. Right now he has found another woman, which is fine with us, but it is a little sad too because, even though he doesn't seem to realize it, my wife detects that she is a bit jealous and we don't want the possible drama. By the way, my wife and I are about 6 months short of being married for 50 years, so the abandonment of monogamy has not been bad for our relationship and has actually added a lot to it.

[Alura 2,774]

Mrs. Alura and I never gave up Emotional Monogamy. We never gave up "Making Love" together. Now, "fucking for fun"? That was different.

[hasanth 19]

Thank u all who replied my threads . I lernd lot of new things about this lifestyle in this board and I respect your culture. My english is weak. Thats why i didnt reply any threads. Dont misunderstand