Do guys talk about the women?

[PSULioness 857]

We have been swinging less than 2 years. For the most part we play with people I know from school and their husbands or boyfriends. We also play with my husbands best friend. My best friend, a girl I know many years has wanted to join us, she knows we swing, but we haven’t yet invited her to play. I have no real reason from excluding her. Recently our two friends got together alone. My husband and I were away on vacation. She doesn’t know that we know. Our guy friend told us. He also told my husband some details about how great she was and what they did and how tight she was and blah blah. I just wonder if the guys talk about me. I am sometimes hard on my self. I wonder if I am good. I already don’t like what my privates look. I am on the thin side but not sure how tight I am. Nobody has ever complained to me. I just wonder what guys talk about. I know I shouldn’t worry about it. Do guys compare the women they are with?

[Fitlakecouple 451]

We also play with a group of couples. Any "discussion" of one of the wives is purely complimentary. And, it is never a comparison. The ladies are all different and wonderful in their own special ways, whether it be physical attributes, talents, or sexual interests. Nobody is going to criticize another mans wife/ partner. Trust me, the men are happy with what you bring to the party and that they are invited.

[lcmim 1,082]

I know I shouldn’t worry about it. Do guys compare the women they are with?

 

Sometimes perhaps, but no you should not worry.

 

I have never heard a negative comment.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Do guys compare the women they are with?

 

Yes we do as I'm sure you compare us guys when you are on a girls night out. It's only natural. Just because you pick something different from the same menu doesn't mean you didn't like what you had before.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Usually when anything negative is said (about guys or girls by...anyone) it's because the one saying the things is unhappy about the guy/girl and is trying to put them down. When talking about another woman that allowed them to play with them, it's always something about how great it was that they were allowed to do whatever they did or how great she was in doing it. When a guy is given a great gift, we rarely are going to point out something we don't like about it (a great gift almost never has anything bad to be said).

 

From what I've read from you and about you, PSU, you are already beyond compare...

[PSULioness 857]

 

From what I've read from you and about you, PSU, you are already beyond compare...

 

Lol. I don’t how to take that.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

...in the nicest, hottest way possible (just as it was intended).

[EastInWest 1,524]

In my experience, men talk about women when they're young and then they find out it never ends well to blab and start keeping it to themselves - an anonymous format like this not withstanding. If a guy was past college age and felt the need to gossip about women to other men who know her, I'd wonder why.

 

Women seem to mature in the opposite direction, from "that never happened, we didn't do anything", to eventually describing ballsacks to each other in great detail.

[cplnluv1 872]

I think some guys talk. I have been told about a how certain woman enjoys certain things. I have been warned about someone using too much teeth. I have also been warned about hygiene problems.

I know women talk too. I’ve been told by the wife about the good and bad. Some guys last, some don’t. Some move better than others. And women will talk about extreme sizes if they encounter one. I never heard a remark about an average guy.

[PSULioness 857]

I guess both guys and girls talk. I don’t play as much as my friends do. We live almost 5 hours away from most of their parties. I don’t know most of the guys the way my friends do. My friends do have stories about the guys. Some can be mean. I don’t like to complain but when they make fun of a guy I know what they mean.

I wonder what they say about me.

[agreatguy 269]

I guess both guys and girls talk. I don’t play as much as my friends do. We live almost 5 hours away from most of their parties. I don’t know most of the guys the way my friends do. My friends do have stories about the guys. Some can be mean. I don’t like to complain but when they make fun of a guy I know what they mean.

I wonder what they say about me.

 

Here's the reality as I see it. No guy really wants to admit that he had sex with a woman he wouldn't have sex with again so if that happens he is most likely going to keep his mouth shut about it. Now, on the other hand some guys may want to brag about the hottie they nailed and so the description would be glowing. That's not most guys though. I think if you want to know how guys talk about this stuff just read the accounts of encounters on here that they write.(I'm sure you already do this) It's probably a very realistic representation of how guys perceive and relate those encounters and should set your mind at ease as to how you might be perceived.

[findinganswers 369]

We play with friends. The guys sometimes go out with out the wives, watching a ball game or just a sports bar or dinner. Sex is not always talked about. When sex is discussed the conversation can get personal. It is always good natured fun. The talk is always a positive like boy your wife was hot, she kept cumming or she sure likes this or that. My wife has told me about compliments she has heard about me. Playing with friends has only been positive.