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Concerned about online meetings

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Cplenextdoor    22

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After much discussion we are getting closer to making a move into making our fantasy, a reality. She has agreed to meet with another couple or a single guy.

 

The problem now is me. I am so nervous on adult sites sharing face pictures. We have plenty of sexy pictures but nothing with faces. When we get to that point I get nervous. Being online you don't know who you are getting involved with. My worry would be that a person could turn into a stalker or worse. I know most swingers sound like amazing laid back people like us but the online crazies are slowing our jump. Any suggestions for getting over this or ways to vet better?

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ViSexual    1,008

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Maybe we were just lucky but we never had a problem. I find that people who mislead, or just plain lie, can only maintain the masquerade for a few emails. I usually was able to expose them before exchanging anything that could be compromising.

 

Just always take is slow. And, besides, I found the discovery process almost as enjoyable as the physical.

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Maybe try a couples club instead of doing online meets.

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MarniJohn    172

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I agree, try a club. Online is online and you really never know... It's not something I would be open to.

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We tried the online thing and didn't like it because people flaked, didn't represent who they really were etc. We prefer clubs because we can determine more about a person or a couple in a 5 minute face to face conversation than we were able to in hours of online conversation.

If you are dead set on doing it online don't let them waste a lot of your time. Insist on getting a drink to meet in person. It will weed a lot of the flakes out. Body pics should be fine. Are you ok with meeting someone just on body pics? If someone looks like they take care of themselves you'll most likely find they make themselves presentable in person. Don't get hung up on face pics from others and cull any prospects that won't meet just because you aren't comfortable posting face pics. They're superficial, most likely, and probably not what you are looking for. The lifestyle is full of all kinds of people. To be honest with you I don't recall seeing a well put together "Butterface" in our club. There have been some unattractive people but it was more how they dressed and the shape their bodies were in that was a turn off before I've ever gave the face a second look.

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Lots of flakes on line. We find that to meet a couple on line is difficult. A lot of flakes who are looking for perfection or where one spouse (usually husband) likes to look at pix, chat and other spouse has no interest.

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We have either sexy pictures without heads or head pictures without sexy. Lots of people online limit themselves to paid members since you probably won't pay if you are a troll. Also, don't waste a bunch of time with email and texts. If you find another couple (or single) that you are interested in, meet for dinner and/or drinks. You will find out more in 5 minutes in person than you will ever find out in an unlimited amount of texts and emails. Also, if they are a troll or a flake, asking to meet will usually chase them away.

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