Watch gf/wife with other men

[gaga2018 27]

Hello. I have always had this topic in my mind but I've never talked about this to anyone before. I'm inexperienced so I've never swing.

 

Thinking about watching my gf/ wife with other guys just turn me on. Have you ever had the opportunity to watch it? How did you feel about that? Did you feel any kind of jealousy after it? What happened after you did it?

 

I'd like to know your opinion about this subject. If you want to you can tell your story as well:)

[gaga2018 27]

Sandra is it because of the jealousy?

[ViSexual 1,008]

I will always, fondly, remember our very first swap. And the sight of my young wife being with the other husband was more stimulating for me than getting to be with the other wife.

[gaga2018 27]

Did you feel any kind of jealousy? If I think about it its really stimulating but on the other hand it breaks my heart when I know that I would have to share my gf/wife with someone else. Is it normal?

[Erik13 157]

I myself enjoy watching my wife with a single guy and not participating. I have MFM a few times and just don't enjoy being that close to the guy, so I would rather just watch. I do jump in on occasion though.

[adamgunn 1,461]

By the time we started swinging we'd talked about everything. (It took us three years to get there.) So when she went off with her first lover, it was a separate room MFMF, I had no qualms at all. I was never jealous or concerned, only wanted her to have fun. Of course, I wanted to have my fun, too.

 

The first time she took a lover, it was late at night at a swing club when we'd both had fun earlier. I encouraged her, and she allowed me to be in the room to watch. The problem was that after she was done with him, she shut down completely, didn't want to entertain me with reclaiming sex. We talked about that, she learned from her mistake, it was never a problem again. Our normal threesome process was that she'd get hot and heavy with her man for the night while I watched and took photos. Later, when he began to slow, I joined in. Often he'd watch me and her, which encouraged him to have another go. This worked well for us.

 

The 'breaking your heart' part is called angst. It's a common emotion, even for experienced husbands, and can easily be confused with jealousy. It's not! It's more of a 'I'm glad she's having fun, I just wish I could have the same fun' feeling. After you've experienced it a couple of times, it's very controllable, although with many men, myself included, it never quite goes away. After I understood it, I welcomed it as a part of the fun.

[gaga2018 27]

Hum... but why don't enjoy being so close?

[gaga2018 27]

Maybe you are right adam. I don't know if I'm being stupid or not but my goal is to give pleasure to her. She only accept guys so I have to deal with the fact that there will be another dude with us. Other thing is that the othet guy might be better than me. How can this problem be dealed? Does it matter in that situation?

[lcmim 1,086]

Maybe you are right adam. I don't know if I'm being stupid or not but my goal is to give pleasure to her. She only accept guys so I have to deal with the fact that there will be another dude with us. Other thing is that the othet guy might be better than me. How can this problem be dealed? Does it matter in that situation?

 

 

Is your relationship such that even if he is the most superior lover in the sack, that she will still,happily,go home with you?

I assume that there is someone(s) out there that can take my bride to places that I never have. We might even meet one someday. I have absolutely no doubt that our relationship and history would weather that just fine.

 

BTW if you do not think that your lady does not have the exact same worry, think again.

 

If you are not confident of BOTH of your reactions when you each meet these people ,then it might be time to step back.

THere is no room for bravado either, just room for a good honest gut check.

[adamgunn 1,461]

Gaga, you're not being stupid - you're being cautious as you begin your journey to a place that you don't really know where it's at. That's fine.

 

You raise the question of 'what if he's better than me'. So, what? Your wife/gf loves you, right? Do you think she's going to throw you away just because she gets a superior fuck from some other guy? I certainly hope not. And 'different' is not the same as 'better.'

 

I allowed my wife the boon of having many an MFM threesome and some solos because I knew I wasn't the best lover in the world, and that she craved variety in sex just as I did. She loved me more, not less, because I was understanding of her desires.

 

Good luck.

[ViSexual 1,008]

You know, for me there was no forethought, it just happened. If I'd had time to consider all of these things before, I might have had doubts like you're having.

 

But, no, I felt no jealousy at all. He was my friend and I knew he would never be disrespectful of me or my wife. And, btw..., his wife was there with me and she enjoyed watching them too.

 

I simply enjoyed watching my wife have fun. You know, I hate Disney but my wife loves it. She goes more often than I do. They're giving a new magnet away to annual passholders and I'll be going to Epcot with her just to get one for her sister. She thinks it's a real sacrifice for me but I also love watching her attitude and demeanor change as she walks through those gates to a Disney attraction. She has that little devious smile that I have loved so much over our 46 years together. Well, I saw that same smile the times she was fucking another man that I knew she liked. I don't see a difference. I love that smile and whatever is inspiring it.

[gaga2018 27]

Yes adam. I know but imagine that I'm watching them and I'm not able to control myself so I finish 2 minutes after everything. Is it normal to feel kinda of shame? Or should I forget about it and just enjoy the moment?

[gaga2018 27]

ViSexual I hope that my relationship is strong enough like you had. What about the other guy finish in her? Honestly, I have never thought about that but idk if I want that to happen even though I fell excited. What do you think about it?

How could you handle the fact that your wife was having more orgasms than you had with her?

[adamgunn 1,461]

Gaga, the biggest question is: Is everyone enjoying themselves? If the answer is yes, you're great. If not, figure out what's going wrong, fix it.

 

Just enjoy yourself, you'll be fine.

[agreatguy 269]

Gaga,

you're not even in a relationship with this woman yet from what I can understand of this post and your other one. You're putting the cart way before the horse here. It's OK to be curious about this lifestyle but you seem to be projecting scenarios and worrying about outcomes that you aren't anywhere close to realizing. You may have a completely different perspective once the relationship develops. Relax and read the board some more and I think many of your questions will be answered.

[ViSexual 1,008]

Gaga, you asked how I'd feel if she had more orgasms with him than she normally has with me? Well, why wouldn't she? The excitement of someone new that she'd wanted? The excitement of doing something so naughty? Of course she would. I was happy for her and, hey, I was having a great time too.

[gaga2018 27]

Visexual I agreed with you. I'm going to move on with the girl I like. I love her. I don't know if we are going to swing or not plus I don't care about the decision that we'll make. I just want to be with her.

Visexual what was the best moment you have ever had with your wife? Were you able to control yourself while watching them? I really appreciate your help friends:)

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

I'll admit I didn't read all of the above responses but it seems that gaga keeps coming back to being concerned about jealousy. If you have an awesome relationship with your partner where you totally trust each other, you can talk about everything, and you love each other completely, the jealousy doesn't have a chance to rear its ugly head. I was a very insecure, jealous person when I was (much) younger and would have never thought about swinging with my ex (the love/trust/communication just wasn't there) but with this relationship, it has never been a problem. I KNOW she's coming home with me...no doubt about it. We only play together, same room, and both enjoy having fun with another but also looking over at our partner and seeing that they are enjoying themselves as well. It's, for lack of a better term, a sense of pride knowing that we can give each other this freedom and trust. Now some people just aren't 'wired' for swinging...most people aren't wired for swinging, but when you have an incredible relationship and this is something that the both of you decide to do together, then jealousy just doesn't come into play. Swinging will make a great, strong relationship even better (the sprinkles on top), but it will also show ever crack and flaw in a weak relationship. If you want to proceed, make sure your relationship is a great one first, then see if it is something that she would be willing to entertain.

[Eddiem 139]

Hello. I have always had this topic in my mind but I've never talked about this to anyone before. I'm inexperienced so I've never swing.

 

Thinking about watching my gf/ wife with other guys just turn me on. Have you ever had the opportunity to watch it? How did you feel about that? Did you feel any kind of jealousy after it? What happened after you did it?

 

I'd like to know your opinion about this subject. If you want to you can tell your story as well:)

 

It is a farily common male fantasy. I too had this for a long long time. TBH there is a mix of emotions for me it was when my SO started focusing on the other guy, I was a participant but opted to take a step back and enjoy the sites, the next phase of emotions was when I saw his cock tease her pussy and then when he thrust in and the last was when he was about to cum and she grabbed his hips pulling him deeper as he came. It was a true "WTF" moment but was amazing!

[EastInWest 1,524]

I've watched and participated quite a bit at this point. The only real "what happens after" is that we have twice as much sex as usual for week or two. I do think it requires having total confidence in each other and that there are no ulterior motives at work, that the relationship is the priority and this is just for fun. People struggle with that both with general baggage about sex and fears about their relationships.

 

As for what it was like, it was just extremely intense the first time. It was just soft swap, but when you've cum in a woman's mouth a couple thousand times, you know her technique inside and out and watching it is a far more vivid kind of voyeurism than you're going to find in any pornography or stage show, up to the moment when she starts working hard to finish him off all the way through to those few protracted gulps and wiping her mouth. I had been too stunned to even pay any attention to my own erection, but got some help with that halfway through. I was rock hard but totally distracted, until she joined in, visibly a mess from sucking off the other husband, and was mingling tongues with the other woman sucking me. That was when I had to stop and walk away for a minute to get a beer because I wasn't going to last another minute if I didn't.

 

Point is, it was just fun. Since then, we've had a number of visits with those same two couples, and done plenty of full swap with them. Never any drama, and any doubts we've had before we jumped in always turned out to be over-analyzing. We always treat whatever happens as a warm-up act for whatever happens next and just have fun. Sometimes that means one of us is sitting out while the others screw and it's fine. Finding the right mix of attitudes helps.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Hello. I have always had this topic in my mind but I've never talked about this to anyone before. I'm inexperienced so I've never swing.

 

Thinking about watching my gf/ wife with other guys just turn me on. Have you ever had the opportunity to watch it? How did you feel about that? Did you feel any kind of jealousy after it? What happened after you did it?

 

I'd like to know your opinion about this subject. If you want to you can tell your story as well:)

 

Watching my wife enjoying having sex with another man was my fantasy come true. I'll admit that I felt a sense of jealousy when they kissed very VERY passionately while he was fucking her but it was awesome to see.

 

She was very nervous about doing it but after her first time she was more than willing to do it again. We were both hooked!

[caliangelwings 17]

Hello, new to this site but I would say still in rookie mode to the lifestlye lol. My man and I always talked about the thought of him watching me have sex with other men since he expressed to me numerous times that it turns him on. Long story short I saw a lot of "my wife gets fucked" type content on his phone history when he watches porn so I guess that was his fantasy. We have only tried this once with one other guy and my hubby ended up joining in anyways, it was both electrifying and exciting and the pleasuring it for me is seeing my husband happy. e has expressed that we bring more guys at once in the bedroom so we shall see how it goes lol