Do Women Share?

[Sawman 84]

Do women share play partners among each other? Even though our species is not naturally monogamous, when a woman has a partner she does not share him with her friends. Women in couples will share their primaries in exchange for another man, but do women pass around their play friends? My observation is that they do not, as a rule.

 

I have been in the lifestyle for many years as the extra male in the Pacific Northwest.

[EastInWest 1,527]

From vanilla life, I can tell you that women absolutely do give "referrals". It depends on whether or not she seems him as a prospective long-term partner is just a playfriend.

[Erik13 157]

My wife would. We had this discussion last night...my play partner has never had two guys at once and my wife she she would share her's with her.

[MS1999 38]

This is such a good question. My observation is 'not really' ... women (and men to some extent) in the lifestyle rarely share their playfriends. And - as you say - its odd, since we share our partners. I think it has something to do with the very tennis link we have with our play partners... there is no stability so we worry - maybe - if we refer them to someone else, they will like that 'someone else' better.

 

I also think there is a question of privacy and discretion. My wife and I never discuss play partners with others... for fear of 'outing' them. We had a situation once where we knew (but they did not) that twi different couples we played with worked in the same place and would have been really problematic had it been known they were in the lifestyle. So we keep play partners private

[couplers 4,782]

In the beginning, I had a boyfriend and a husband, both all to myself. It was wonderful and I could easily satisfy both. Then I shared.

 

 

Several years later we became a family that includes two other women (and five children) as well. It is even better now that I am also intimate with two women, feel whatever the burn is of sharing, and have these children who are all of ours.