Wife's fantasy is being fucklicked. Not sure how to make it happen.

[SteveD300 23]

Hi all. I'm a newbie from Northern Michigan here. What's prompted me to get on various swinger boards is the one most common fantasy my wife shares with me is wanting to be fucklicked. We often discuss fantasies of a threesome or foursome while in bed. Doing so seems to really get her hot. Me too! I'm totally OK with doing a MFM with her, or whatever other combo she's willing to try. I've told her that as well, usually as she sharing her fantasy me responding "I'm ok with that". But that's where it ends.

 

She's pretty conservative in public. A club setting absolutely out. Kind of shy. Mid fifties. Great shape and good looking. We've been married over 30 years. She's a "thinker", so I'm concerned if it's something pre-arranged, such she's expecting it, she will over think it, and back out. That leads me to consider doing some prescreening, arrange a meeting with a candidate, likely a few meetings and let some chemistry start and see where it goes from there. Perhaps find someone with common interests (camping and motorcycling are our areas of interest BTW). Let a friendship develop first. But that seems disingenuous.

 

How do I best move this to the next stage and actually do something? Thanks in advance for your input!

[agreatguy 269]

If you're doing the friendship thing with ulterior motives it is disingenuous at least to her. I'm guessing the other guy would know what you are up to but guys that you find who would be ok with the plan are probably not going to be as patient as you would like or need him to be. My observation is that genuinely good guys get snatched up pretty quickly and aren't single for long. So you court this guy for a few weeks or months, get to know him, become friends and next thing you know he is in some new relationship that he would prefer to pay attention to rather than yours. Why? because he's getting laid with her and not your wife. Now he's out of the picture. Oh, you can find douche bags that will say or do anything to get laid but is that the kind of guy you want to spend a lot of time working on building a "friendship" with?

 

The reality is you're going to have to find a way to talk to her about it. Many couples fantasize about this lifestyle, few actually do it. There's a hurdle you sometimes have to get over. It's that voice inside your head that tells you something isn't right. There's a name for it but I can't for the life of me remember what it is. It's the same voice that tells you that you shouldn't jump out of an airplane, rappel off of a cliff or stick yourself with a hypodermic needle. Lot's of people imagine themselves skydiving but can't take the step in actuality.

 

You have to first find out if this is something she wants to do for real or just keep as a fantasy. If it's real, now you've opened the box and can talk about how she sees that happening and move forward from there. Just be sure not to pressure her. Move at her pace whatever that happens to be.

 

I'm curious as to why clubs are totally off the table. That would be a place where things could happen organically and without too much time to overthink things.

[SteveD300 23]

Thanks great guy. That's exactly my concern. If I were to describe ideal it would be we connect with a couple with common interests, then working into more. But...hard to find

 

Reason for no clubs, first nothing within 2.5 hours of here. Secondly, she's to private and discreet, shy to be in that sort of environment. Much more likely with a single or couple.

[SteveD300 23]

Oh to the point of friendship developing first, boils down to assuring compatibility, and secondly, her getting a sense of comfort.

[agreatguy 269]

Thanks great guy. That's exactly my concern. If I were to describe ideal it would be we connect with a couple with common interests, then working into more. But...hard to find

 

Reason for no clubs, first nothing within 2.5 hours of here. Secondly, she's to private and discreet, shy to be in that sort of environment. Much more likely with a single or couple.

 

 

You're going to have to find a way to meet like minded people. That means putting yourself "out there" to a certain extent. With the demise of Craigslist personals I think you're pretty much limited to the swinger's websites. This is going to require building a profile, putting up some photos, even if they don't show your face, but most likely at some point sharing some face photos.

 

A club 2.5 hours away is going to be way more discreet in actuality for most people. Make it a long sexy weekend. Shy is a different issue but you will find people in clubs to be pretty engaging as long as you can make yourselves approachable even if you aren't the type to approach others. If she's hot they will come! If you have the personality to break the ice just let her follow your lead and watch how she opens up. Once she realizes she's in control(the women make the rules) she'll likely become more receptive to advances. That's what happened with my wife. She laughs about being a hermit. She really isn't that bad but she's not a social extrovert...Now that she's comfortable with the club setting she's engaging and seductive in that environment. She seems to see it as a challenge and she's pretty damn good at it.

[venusshaw 123]

Don't get it complicated. Marriage, sex, friendship are all discreet singular items, we make it complex by putting them together. If she wants a fuck-lick , that is what she wants. I can only give our experience. We are also 3 hours away from any club and never been to one. That is why we are not member sin any club. No one in our vicinity knows what we are up to and will never know. We found Hedonism and fulfill all our fantasies there. No need to build towards anything make elaborate plans with ulterior motives , just be open to receive and give and you will be flooded with offers that you may have to decline.

[Alura 2,774]

I'm not sure how to tell you how to work your way into the act of your wife being "fuck-licked" since that probably varies greatly from wife to wife. If my late wife is an example, I can assure you that you won't have to talk her into it the second time. So, if this is her fantasy, talk to her a lot. Explore ideas. Keep your eyes open for partners. We preferred couples but beware! You will have two women who won't have to be talked into it the second time.

 

After we found that magic couple, Laura and I (and the other couple) found the following description worked best.

 

A couch works better than a bed. Start with the women sitting on the couch with the men kneeling between their legs. Don't get in a hurry. Laura liked to have me start at the bottom of her slit, using my tongue to gently spread the labia sideways, slowing working myself up until the labia was spread widely along the length and above her clit, which would be standing erect and anxious. After the ladies have had enough of this (may take awhile) both of the men should sit on the couch and lean comfortably back while the ladies climb aboard.

 

Laura liked to start out face to face with her chosen fucker. (She liked kissing.) Eventually, the fuckee-lickee would turn around into reverse cowgirl position and reinsert the fucker's penis. Both would spread their legs and the licker would kneel between them. I've never questioned my sexuality so I wasn't put off by working around my friend's penis to (once again) spread the labia away with my tongue until her clit was once again standing firm at the top, easily licked.

 

One challenge to look out for at this stage is that the fucker's cock tends to slip out when the action becomes enthusiastic. This can be avoided by the licker pursing his lips and tongue around the clit while using his chin to hold the fucker's cock in place.

 

The lady who is not "It" can amuse herself by alternately kissing the fucker and the lady who is "It."

 

After a sufficient number of orgasms, which varies with individuals, the other lady can become "It" and the fucker and licker can exchange assignments.

 

One very pleasant variation is for one of the ladies to be the licker. Laura was fond of this as well because, at the proper time, she could help herself to a treat of man-cream.

 

Keep experimenting and report back to this forum.

[SteveD300 23]

It sounds like I need to find that right time to have that more specific "let's do this " conversation first. I'm sure finding a single male won't be all that hard to find, it's just finding the right one (that is hard).

[SteveD300 23]

Great Guy,

 

You mentioned building profile and pics etc. I'm rather uncomfortable with the risks of someone identifying either of us locally. Any suggestions on how to do as you say in getting out there, while minimizing those risks?

[agreatguy 269]

Great Guy,

 

You mentioned building profile and pics etc. Im rather uncomfortable with the risks of someone identifying either of us locally. Any suggestions on how to do as you say in getting out there, while minimizing those risks?

 

If I could solve that problem I'd write a book and become a millionaire. LOL

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

You mentioned building profile and pics etc. Im rather uncomfortable with the risks of someone identifying either of us locally.

 

Have pictures that have your faces edited out and only send the face pictures (or unedited pictures) to prospective couples so you can recognize each other when you meet. The pictures are usually to prove that you are real and to see if there is any interest. At the same time, anyone who would find your pictures on a swingers site...well, they are there for the same reason you are and don't want to be 'found out' any more than you do. If you don't bait a hook and drop it into the water you won't ever catch anything and anyone else with a pole and bait are looking to catch fish too. Don't be too concerned, as long as you take minimal precautions, you'll be fine.

[agreatguy 269]

Have pictures that have your faces edited out and only send the face pictures (or unedited pictures) to prospective couples so you can recognize each other when you meet. The pictures are usually to prove that you are real and to see if there is any interest. At the same time, anyone who would find your pictures on a swingers site...well, they are there for the same reason you are and don't want to be 'found out' any more than you do. If you don't bait a hook and drop it into the water you won't ever catch anything and anyone else with a pole and bait are looking to catch fish too. Don't be too concerned, as long as you take minimal precautions, you'll be fine.

 

^^^That's generally good advice Steve. I'd add that you'll need to get a paid membership and limit who can see your profile only to those who are paid as well. I'm expanding on GoldCOCouples reasoning just a bit. PAID members are likely there for the same reason. Unpaid members maybe not so much, they may be lurking, trolling or who knows what other motives they may have. Keep your profile hidden from them for sure.

[Scaredstiff 129]

Definitely don't use images from any of your social networking accounts etc, the pictures can be reverse searched on Google and it will bring up your Facebook profile or whichever account the picture is from

[jnrswinger 62]

Definitely don't use images from any of your social networking accounts etc, the pictures can be reverse searched on Google and it will bring up your Facebook profile or whichever account the picture is from

 

You probably should make sure NOTHING is recognizable, especially by anyone who knows you, including backgrounds. So either use a plain background, somewhere completely different, or edit out the background. And never use those photos for anything else - keep them just for this. You would be surprised how some tiny detail in a photo can be recognized and identify you. Also be careful about things like tattoos, unique birthmarks, etc. and cover or blur them out if necessary.

[Alura 2,774]

The more you reach out to swingers you don't know, the more likely it is that someone you don't want to discover you will. While it may afford a better chance of finding like-minded people, the potential exposure multiplies.

 

Like any other aspect of life, the more you hide of yourselves, the less likely you will find someone curious enough to seek you out.

 

Laura and I sought playmates among people we met casually, in-line at a fast-serve pizza place, in a bookstore, at a rodeo, etc. It's best to learn about their personalities and use wisdom in deciding to ask the magic question, "How do y'all feel about swinging?" Your wife, not you, needs to do the asking.

 

Good luck!

[Milehiclubcpl 18]

Great advise on submitting edited pics, Alura!

And also having the wife pop that magic question!

Ed

[twohots4u2 188]

We have found the swing sites (SLS, SDC, AFF) were the best way to find compatible people for swinging. The recommendation to not have any recognizable photos in your profile is good. Share plain vanilla face photos with prospective people via messages. Ask them if they are into fucklicking. Some guys and gals are not into it. Meet them in a restaurant for lunch or dinner. Have a prearranged single with your partner to indicate acceptable or not. If acceptable, get together with them at a nearby hotel room. When everyone is in the room, everyone gets nude. Nature will take over from there.

[Lee714 81]

This sound very erotic. I haven't tried this but sounds like a turn on.

[Lee714 81]

I loved the article. I have been curious about 3 ways (never tried it). Have your tried or can you recommend the 69 position with rear entry for fucklicking? Is it as good as the technique you described?

 

Also have you had any encounter with "his juice" while licking? Is it a turn on? After thinking about it I think it might.

If the "fuckee's" penis pops out have you "manually reinserted" it or do you let her? I think it might be fun to tease her a bit with the tip before pushing it back insider her.

 

The position you enjoy sounds like it would work well for anal too given the added exposure of her lips. Have you tried that too?

 

Thanks again for sharing.

[1hotminute 72]

Great thread. It sounds like you have more building up to the actual sexual act. But once you get there the most comfortable way I found is my wife would lay on her side while other guy was behind her penetrating from behind. Her top leg spread I was able to lick every part with somewhat minimal male male contact if you’re concerned about that. I’m not and found it super hot watching another mans penis inside my wife that close. I’m sure if you’re a member of sls you can find someone that would be “down”. Wishing you the best.

[Bluespruce1 706]

My favorite position is to ride a guy reverse and have his wife or my husband servicing my pussy. It also works well if I am on all fours and taking it from behind while i’m getting oral from the bottom.

[Alura 2,774]

I loved the article. I have been curious about 3 ways (never tried it). Have your tried or can you recommend the 69 position with rear entry for fucklicking? Is it as good as the technique you described?

 

Also have you had any encounter with "his juice" while licking? Is it a turn on? After thinking about it I think it might.

If the "fuckee's" penis pops out have you "manually reinserted" it or do you let her? I think it might be fun to tease her a bit with the tip before pushing it back insider her.

 

The position you enjoy sounds like it would work well for anal too given the added exposure of her lips. Have you tried that too?

 

Thanks again for sharing.

 

Thanks for the good questions, Lee. I'll try to answer them.

 

I've not questioned my sexuality. I just didn't worry about "his juice." I do remember a time when Laura and I had same-bed swapped with Ron and Linda. Both mixed couples had finished. I was lying on my back, gasping, when Laura, who hadn't climaxed, said, "I need your magic tongue, Darling!" and climbed aboard my face. As she spread her labia and nestled them around my nose, the dam broke. I pushed it aside with my tongue, letting it cascade down my cheeks and set about achieving my goal. Ron took one of her nipples in his mouth and Linda the other. Laura held their heads in her hands and shouted "YEEEEESSSSSSSSSS!" When it was over, I had a sticky beard but was otherwise unchanged. I don't recall ever trying it with Laura and Mr. Playmate in a 69 position. (Not sure how that would work.) We probably liked the couch position enough that we never thought of it.

 

Yes, when we did the fuck/lick thing the first time, I did reinsert Mr. Playmate's penis when the thrusting got enthusiastic and his cock popped out, but I learned that I could keep that from happening with my chin and continue making Laura groan with my tongue.

 

Laura and I tried anal once, early in our relationship, just the two of us, but never again. We decided we didn't care much for it. I couldn't kiss her which lessened the experience. Laura remarked, "Why would a guy want to stick his cock in my dry asshole when there's a hot and wet pussy right next to it?" I never could answer that question.

[Lee714 81]

Thanks again for responding. I love coming back to this thread!

[Lee714 81]

The view from underneath must be fantastic!

[Kade oj 63]

wow

[Lee714 81]

Did you ever try fucklicking? Just curious how it turned out if it did.

[MadlyInLuv 94]

Should I admit that I had to look it up?

[Lee714 81]

That was for SteveD300. Sorry.

[Lee714 81]

Nope.

[venusshaw 123]

I have one fuck-lick experience with a guy. After having his Viagra, he had his erection on for over two hours. We changed and tried every position. He pumped, slow, fast and furious but would not shoot his cum. I had already orgasm ed three times over. It was his idea that we do a 69 with me on top. Then he requested that my husband fuck me from behind while he was licking me. I loved the warmth of his tongue on my clit and the bareback fuck from my husband. When my husband signaled that he was about to shoot his cum, I asked my guy to stop licking me. But, he started to lick me more vigorously and after my husband had cum inside me, he licked up all the juice. I was surprised, but very pleased.

[Bluespruce1 706]

My favorite fuck lick story happened in the public room at one of our favorite clubs. We had a group and about 4 or five couples watching us go. I was on top facing him with my back to the group. I was so fucking turned on I decided turn around and ride him reverse so they could see me fully with my pussy open wide and wrapped around my husbands penis. I also loved that they could see him as well and I kept pulling his cock out of me would jerk him off. One of the women came in and joined us and started to suck my husbands cock while I held his shaft. After a moment, she guided his penis back inside me and then planted her face on my pussy. i held her head in place and had one of the most powerful orgasms of my life while our friends watched. There is nothing like oral with penetration.

[Lee714 81]

On 10/28/2019 at 1:00 PM, venusshaw said:

I have one fuck-lick experience with a guy. After having his Viagra, he had his erection on for over two hours. We changed and tried every position. He pumped, slow, fast and furious but would not shoot his cum. I had already orgasm ed three times over. It was his idea that we do a 69 with me on top. Then he requested that my husband fuck me from behind while he was licking me. I loved the warmth of his tongue on my clit and the bareback fuck from my husband. When my husband signaled that he was about to shoot his cum, I asked my guy to stop licking me. But, he started to lick me more vigorously and after my husband had cum inside me, he licked up all the juice. I was surprised, but very pleased.

 

Have done it again?

[Guest]

Tried it once at a party. She got on top of me in 69. She loved it and came. He got off in her, but it was very uncomfortable for me until he pulled out of her. I couldn't get my breath. With the guy fucking into her and her pussy grinding down on my mouth and nose...I got smothered. I guess we were doing it wrong. 

 

 

[njbm 2,868]

I don’t think you can do it wrong!

[kittyswinger 260]

We did 69 sideways which is more comfy and the other partner licked me and at the same time had a close-up view of the other guy screwing me ?

[twohots4u2 188]

My swing buddy loves fuck-licking!  We have never had a problem finding a guy who was OK with it.  Usually I get under her 69 and position myself so I can lick her pussy and clit.  Our guests gets behind her on his knees and fucks her doggie if there is enough room on the bed.  If not, she and I slide down so my head is hanging almost off the bed and he stands while fucking her doggie.   I am bi so it is fine if his balls go back and forth over my nose, his cocks comes out and drags across my face, or his cum drips down into my mouth when he cums.

 

Most women and about 1/4 of the guys are also OK with being the 69 person underneath her.  It is always a super hot session!

[BillAndCarla 4]

Still interested?  We can help!

[BillAndCarla 4]

My wife loves this, too.

[couplers 4,616]

We women in our poly family like both sides of it, the guys do not like doing the licking, so it is primarily an FFM activity. 

[Lee714 81]

On 5/30/2020 at 1:19 AM, twohots4u2 said:

My swing buddy loves fuck-licking!  We have never had a problem finding a guy who was OK with it.  Usually I get under her 69 and position myself so I can lick her pussy and clit.  Our guests gets behind her on his knees and fucks her doggie if there is enough room on the bed.  If not, she and I slide down so my head is hanging almost off the bed and he stands while fucking her doggie.   I am bi so it is fine if his balls go back and forth over my nose, his cocks comes out and drags across my face, or his cum drips down into my mouth when he cums.

 

Most women and about 1/4 of the guys are also OK with being the 69 person underneath her.  It is always a super hot session!

Something I would like to try. Not bi but the idea of seeing a pussy (or her ass) being fucked upclose sounds hot.

[Lee714 81]

On 9/2/2021 at 2:23 PM, BillAndCarla said:

My wife loves this, too.

A fantasy of mine. The view from underneath must be incredible! Do you like being underneath or fucking her from behind? Or both?

[Baconheads 431]

I have an alternate fuck-licking fantasy.  It's where my wife sits on me and rides me cowgirl style, and a cute guy or girl licks her butt from behind, maybe slipping my cock in their mouth from time to time...

[Lee714 81]

On 5/30/2020 at 1:19 AM, twohots4u2 said:

My swing buddy loves fuck-licking!  We have never had a problem finding a guy who was OK with it.  Usually I get under her 69 and position myself so I can lick her pussy and clit.  Our guests gets behind her on his knees and fucks her doggie if there is enough room on the bed.  If not, she and I slide down so my head is hanging almost off the bed and he stands while fucking her doggie.   I am bi so it is fine if his balls go back and forth over my nose, his cocks comes out and drags across my face, or his cum drips down into my mouth when he cums.

 

Most women and about 1/4 of the guys are also OK with being the 69 person underneath her.  It is always a super hot session!

I think being underneath would be epic. The view and other sensations would be over the top (so to speak ?). (I would have to confess about being a bit nervous though. But still....?

[Bi-curious 0]

On 9/2/2021 at 4:23 PM, BillAndCarla said:

My wife loves this, too.

I'm a guy. I often fantasize about a couple inviting me to join them for a threesome, on one condition. I have to do ANYTHING she wants, without question, without hesitation. Naturally, I agree.

She tells me she's always wanted to have a guy lie underneath her and lick her while the 

other guy fucks her. She loves the idea of a guy having to put  his tongue dangerously close to another guy's hard cock. She wants the guy, who is fucking her to cum inside of her while the other guy is licking her. After he cums, he pulls out and she wants the other guy to lick the cum out of her pussy. 

I fantasize that I'm the one who she decides she wants to lick her while her husband is fucking her. 

I also fantasize that she wants to see me give her man a nice slow handjob and she also wants to see me suck him off. 

If you're interested in swapping fantasies, I would LOVE to hear all about yours. You can reach me at nothingtosee@yahoo.com

Randy

[Numex 2,409]

We have done this in different variations, but strangely, Daniela is not a simultaneous stimulation of clit and vagina kind of girl.  It's one or the other.  She never plays with her clit while fucking.  When Daniela has done fucklicking, she lets the other woman have the dick while they lick one another.

[couplers 4,616]

On 9/3/2021 at 10:41 PM, Lee714 said:

Something I would like to try. Not bi but the idea of seeing a pussy (or her ass) being fucked upclose sounds hot.

I'm not a guy, but I am bi and have had the experience of "seeing a pussy (or her ass) being fucked upclose."  It is hot and so is licking them both.  Don't miss it if you can.

[couplers 4,616]

On 2/9/2019 at 11:41 AM, Alura said:

Laura remarked, "Why would a guy want to stick his cock in my dry asshole when there's a hot and wet pussy right next to it?" I never could answer that question.

I've asked the same question and have been told that it feels really different (for me as a woman it does, and not better) and that the idea of being in my bum is different and exciting.  So I let them do it sometimes.  Remember to lube up.  And consider DP, a treat for the woman. 

[let's do it again 414]

1 hour ago, couplers said:

I've asked the same question and have been told that it feels really different (for me as a woman it does, and not better) and that the idea of being in my bum is different and exciting.  So I let them do it sometimes.  Remember to lube up.  And consider DP, a treat for the woman. 

It does feel different, but I prefer vaginal sex over anal. Some women really get off on anal sex, I can take it or leave it. Oral sex is better than anal for me and 69 is the best.

[Numex 2,409]

On 9/18/2023 at 5:32 AM, couplers said:

the idea of being in my bum is different and exciting. 

 

On 9/18/2023 at 7:05 AM, let's do it again said:

It does feel different, but I prefer vaginal sex over anal. Some women really get off on anal sex, I can take it or leave it. Oral sex is better than anal for me and 69 is the best.

To me, whatever a woman wants is what I want.  If I am feeling a preference, however, then I know who within our group to approach because she likes whatever I'm craving.  There are times when I or my wife gets a call out of the blue asking....

 

 

Edited September 23, 2023 by Numex

[BiloxiBiMaleMMF 63]

"FuckLicking"  ok, I too had to make sure this is what I think it is.  The optimum position is for me (bisexual M joining a couple for MMF) is for the hubby to be standing bi the bed fucking his wife doggy while I am on my back beneath her licking her pussy AND LICKING HIS COCK with as much tongue surface I can muster on as much flesh as I can reach!

 

IMHO, LICKING your wife's pussy while you fuck her is the "Goal Post" of bisex for we bisexual males invited to beCUM your MMF 3some.

 

THAT along with licking and sucking his pussy wetted cock to keep it hard and eager to fuck some more.

 

Licking "fucked pussy" to enjoy its proverbial "creampie" is also quite exciting.

 

Bi "slangdef's" definition, this includes licking the ass-cock interface.  Sorry Charlie, for me at least, that's a bridge too far.  While I am TOTALLY into "rimming" it's conditional on freshly showered surfaces (and I have licked my own cum from his and her ass cracks a few times butt that butt had not been fucked, merely LICKED)